Apology

Discussion created by Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14 on Jan 30, 2017
Latest reply on Jan 31, 2017 by Thats_it

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It scares me that I can get so angry that I actually entertain the thought of smoking. I scared myself last night - and I wonder if there had been a pack of cigarettes sitting there - would I have smoked one or two or more? Even after all this time, anger is still my biggest trigger.

I want to apologize to the entire community for my "rant" last night. I still disagree with even having a leader board - especially if it is not properly maintained. But losing my quit over something so insignificant would be a crying shame.

Hope everyone has a lovely day!

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kristen-9.7.15 Jan 30, 2017 3:24 PM
No worries Jennifer. We all have our moments and all need to rant. AND you better NOT EVER EVER EVER blow your quit!!
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elvan Jan 30, 2017 3:35 PM
Anger is still my biggest trigger too and it is a whopper. I can't count the quits I lost because I got angry. When I saw the new format, I went back and forth between anger and crying and just feeling completely disconnected. I missed everyone so much when I was away and here I was back and could not for the life of me figure out how to contact anyone. Ranting beats smoking any day!
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- Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14 @ elvan on Jan 30, 2017 3:38 PM
  We have all learned a lot this past week. I am available to help if I can.
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  - elvan @ Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14 on Jan 30, 2017 3:46 PM
    Thanks...seriously, I appreciate it.
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Mark Jan 30, 2017 4:22 PM
Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14 Apology accepted! I don't honestly take those things personally. We are working to make this community the best it can be. We know we aren't going to get everything right immediately and that communities are a process. I've managed several of them. Moving to Jive give us more ability to make the community stronger as a platform but it also needs to have strong supportive group of people. The platform can't do much without the people. We've just started that journey. With the old community, it was held together with band-aids, tape, gum and a whole love of Love. I'm hoping the Love carried over and we can build off of the many great things that were established previously.

Mark
EX Community Manager
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- Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14 @ Mark on Jan 30, 2017 4:24 PM
  I really love the new EX!
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RachelMB Jan 30, 2017 4:25 PM
No worries my friend! We all have to vent!
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TerrieQuit Jan 30, 2017 4:31 PM
Jennifer just like you are there for us we are here for you! ask me, trust me, losing your quit is a pain.Don't do it! No apology needed! I am glad you are here, you have been so helpful to me! ~Terrie~
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Stopforgood Jan 30, 2017 5:00 PM
Understandable. HALT has been my difficulty. Especially AL! Thank you for sharing and supporting us!
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- Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14 @ Stopforgood on Jan 30, 2017 5:02 PM
  Do you know how to get to your messages - I just sent you one?
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Stopforgood Jan 30, 2017 5:05 PM
Yes. Just found it....Thanks.
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Marilyn.H.July.14.14. Feb 7, 2017 2:52 PM
jennifer ,I find stress as well as anger are my two downfalls but I guess the two go hand in hand, humongous hug from me to you my friend......
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Mandolinrain Jan 30, 2017 8:50 PM
Hi, well I have not been here much lately due to illness with our whole family, so it seems, so I missed whatever happened, but I surely can relate to the trigger of anger.

When I smoked...a cigg was certainly the first thing I reached for if I was upset and look out if I was out of them,lol.
Now we are learning how to deal with anger without the cig. I have seriously not desired a cig in the past year at all during those times, but I will always stay alert.

AsStopforgood says, HALT wonderful to keep in our minds always. Hugs, I think you have been VERY helpful to our community
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jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Jan 30, 2017 9:16 PM
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Sootie Jan 30, 2017 9:31 PM
Hey Jennifer----view the leaderboards and points without the word "leader"-----that is the deceptive word as it makes us think of someone who is achieving or setting the goals It is really "activityboards" and activity points. You referenced facebook last night....well, "leaders" on fb would be people who post all day (I honestly do not know when they sleep ------or WORK??). They are just "active" -----not leaders. To "like" posts or to tag something is not really being a leader in the sense I think you are defining it. So see it as activity. This is how much activity this or that person had today.

I know you wouldn't smoke-----you're too smart for that trap!
Stay Strong.
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Daniela-3-11-2016 Jan 30, 2017 9:32 PM
See, there is some good I don't really have enough knowledge, so Jennifer, I don't even know why you are apologizing Can't see your message/reply where you got angry. All I know is whatever question I had, you've responded many times, and I was always thankful!!
So, thank you, and you'll see my follow up about the new Dr. and think of me: the way I have been for over 2 months now, I would have had hundreds of reasons (maybe that many painful muscle cramps or more) to have a smoke, and the thought occurred to me, but it was just that, a thought, and it stays that way :-)
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Thomas3.20.2010 Jan 31, 2017 9:45 AM
Feel the Love, Jennifer!
We appreciate you - even when we forget to say it!
Thanks for being my Friend!
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JACKIE1-25-15 Jan 31, 2017 9:53 AM
Wow I love rants. Sorry I missed it. You deserve to rant every now and then. lol
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c2q Jan 31, 2017 12:27 PM
I've been in the mood for a good rant. Sorry I missed it. As Dale jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 says, keep your ranties on! So I'm asking him to share the bag of ranties I got him.
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puffthemagicdragon Jan 31, 2017 4:18 PM
Dang! I missed it!
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- Jennifer-Quit-05-01-14 @ puffthemagicdragon on Jan 31, 2017 5:16 PM
  That's what you get for going MIA
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Strudel Jan 31, 2017 7:03 PM
No apology needed.....this place is about having a safe place to be honest and express whatever you need to - including to vent as needed! Congrats on always knowing how to protect your precious quit!
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Thats_it Jan 31, 2017 10:50 PM
I missed the rant too:(. I do know that if I was upset and had cigarettes in my house that I would smoke too! lol I don't do that anymore and you don't either:)
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