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Swanbird
Member

Addiction

I’m new to the group I haven’t had a cigarette for 24 hours I am at work but I’m very worried about tonight and when I went out at lunch I heard on the radio that people trading one addiction for another they really made me feel hopeless

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YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

The key to NOT trading one addiction for another is right in your hand, and education is the way to be successful.  Read on to better understand it, and for information on things to avoid with Nicotine Replacement products.

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be. After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion,  3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
 

It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Swanbird
Member

Thank you so much this has a lot of good information.

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Barbscloud
Member

Welcome to the Ext and congrats on yours first day smoke free.  That first day of success is the first step on your journey to being smoke free.  Yes, what you heard does happen. That doesn't mean it has to happen to you.  If you haven't already. read post on this site to educate yourself about this addiction and to have a plan in place.   If you haven't already, plan on what you're going to do when you get home from work to refocus your thoughts.  Go for a walk, listen to music, etc.  There are many things you can do.  Stay close to the Ex and reach out if you're having a rough moment.  We're here to support you.

Barb

indingrl
Member

CONGRATS DAY ONE -  YOU will be OK - FEELINGS come and go - a craving lasts 2 - 3 minutes - OLD ADDICT BEHAVIOR - OLD ADDICT PATTERNS - OLD HABITS -  takes TIME - just ONE day at a TIME - learning to breathe THROUGH the cravings by doing NEW things for 2- 3 minutes - jogging in place for 2 minutes - OR - go for a walk - OR - pray - God grant ME the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change COURAGE to change the things I can and the WISDOM to know the difference - I think YOUR doing GOOD - just take one breathe at a time - one second at a time - one minute at a time - gentle hug

ClearColors
Member

Let this place be your new addiction.

Deep breathing.

Good substitutions

It's far from hopeless.

Toasting my water to you!

WhispersQSMB
Member

Don't feel hopeless, many of us have not went from one addiction to another . Educate yourself on nicotine addiction, analyze what triggers you to reach for the smoke and have a plan to battle the cravings.. Congrats on day 1

sweetplt
Member

Hi and Welcome to Ex’s...Swanbird 

There is no miracle to this quit, but there is help and the determination from you to want this quit...I found coming here daily and encouraging others on this journey and to get support has really helped me...I also found it isn’t trading one addiction with another, but finding new healthy and/or better activities to do instead of smoking...Here is a list to get you started.../blogs/Maggie_quit_8-1-2010-blog/2012/03/19/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smoking?sr=search&searchId=e... You hang in there and keep close to us ... Happy Wednesday ~ Colleen 338 DOF 

elvan
Member

Welcome to EX, I think I traded my addiction for smoking to an addiction to EX and guess what?  It's not killing me like smoking was, I also got more serious about exercise and a healthy diet.  Some addictions are not bad...not sure what you were listening to but with this site and everything else you have to "Take what you like and leave the rest."

Ellen

redluvr
Member

No need to feel hopeless. You have an entire community here you can reach out to if you need encouragement.