HELP! Day 82 why am I struggling so hard- I am exhausted and worn out from fighting this- illlis it ever going to stop
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HELP! Day 82 why am I struggling so hard- I am exhausted and worn out from fighting this- illlis it ever going to stop
Just don't quit before the miracle! I struggled for 7 weeks with tough cravings but held on tight to my quit. Then things got so much easier, and I actually was feeling like a nonsmoker. Remember, I have never regretted a cigarette not smoked. The times in the past that I relapsed and smoked-I regretted 100% of the time!
Connie
First of all congrats on 82 days smoke free. We haven't heard from you for a while. Have you read the material about No Man's Land? There's where you are now. It can be a difficult time for some, but knowing what to expect makes such a difference. I know it's easier said than done, but try to not see it as a fight, see it as a success. You've accomplished something that is very difficult to do. You should be so proud of yourself. I'm glad you reached out. Support during those rough times can make all the difference. I know I wouldn't have gotten this far without the help I received here early on. Stay close and CELEBRATE being a non-smoker. Remember "I don't do that anymore"
Barb
Thank you for the encouragement I am trying so hard but am losing the energy to fight this shot anymore
Please don't give up. You've come so far-- do you really want to go through this all over again. You're so close to being a non-smoker for good. Come to the site as much as you need us right now. What are you doing to refocus your thoughts? Go for walk, play a video game, there's so many things to do instead.. My quit was very emotional. Physical withdrawal symptoms were nil. I know how hard it was for me being down, sad, and crying for no reason. It took a good while and it wasn't easy, but I made it through. You can too.
Barb
Pookweencess... Hi! I'm so glad you've hung on... CONGRATULATIONS on 82 days!!.
In your last thread, I posted a note about riding the waves, and not struggling so hard. You might go back and read that again. The struggle can be exhausting, so sometimes you just need to go with it, relax and let the waves carry you to comfort.
You haven't come this far only to get this far... seriously!! It DOES get better, and very soon. Look for the good things that are happening, because they really are. And take a look back at your first days/weeks, and realize that it really isn't as bad now as it was then. You should be having a golden day here or there, and they will become more frequent and last longer the more time you put between you and your last smoke.
The above advice is also very true... No Man's Land can be a slog, but it is sooooo worth it to keep on, step after step, day after day. You WILL find it easier with time!
Hi Pookweencess,
I rarely am on this site, but I saw you reaching out for help! today. Here are some suggestions , I promise if you
take at least one of them you will get through another day.
1. For today I CHOOSE NOT TO SMOKE FOR A HEALTHIER ME
2. Call a friend or support person to help you through.
3. Put all of your exhaustion, concerns , blocks in a 'WORRY" BOX AND DO A CONSISTENT
AFFIRMATION THAT ITS "JUST FOR TODAY" , after all 82 days becomes 820 days 8200 days
82,000 days.
4. Reflect and discuss in the 82 days what made it easier for you to get through the day?
5. Most important change your mindset. LOL THIS IS SO UNBELIEVABLE FOR ME TO SAY THIS
THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT WAY I GOT THROUGH.
6. Chew gum, sugarless candy, excercise, go for a walk, TAKE CAN'T OUT OF YOUR VOCABULARY.
7. STAY ON BECOME AN EX! EVERY MOMENT POSSIBLE AND CONNECT WITH PEOPLE
THAT HELP YOU.
8. IF YOUR A PRAYER PERSON-PRAY FOR THE WILL POWER AND GOD TO HELP YOU
A DAY OR A MINUTE OR AN HOUR AT AT TIME!
9. Know that if you did 82 days you can do one more day and one day and so on!
N.O.P.E. ( NOT ONE PUFF EVER) I put this on my screen saver so I seen it all the time !
YOU CAN AND WILL DO THIS ! AND REWARD YOURSELF LITTLE GIFTS WITH EVERY
DAY YOU ARE SMOKE FREE! YOU GOT THIS!
Stay blessed,
Angel
XOXO
Dale's wonderful advise is " talk yourself out of it, not into it." I hear that from you right now. Don't talk yourself into it. I smoked for 52 years and talked myself into smoking again many times. I now have emphysema. Wish I could describe how it feels to not be able to breathe. Yesterday was 6 years since I quit. Life is so much better as a non-smoker. I love better, I am more even-keeled and I even look better at 72. Hang on a little longer. Most people lose their quits between day 30 to 130. You can do this.
Wonderful 6 years Congratulations.
You are a treasure here
Hi Pookweencess 82 days quit is super...don’t give in now...keep close to the support site...encourage others on this journey, it will help you so much...also, ask for help and read daily...I think the advice above me is great...and we really want you to keep the quit...you need to want it too...Keep us posted...Gotcha on my mind ~ Colleen 313 DOF
I gave up two or was it 3? quits at the three month mark. What a waste. All that work down the drain. More years of smoking. Then the hideous gearing up for another Day One and all that agony. You know what kept me quit this time? The fact that I believed what people told me - that I would eventually GRRR, GET OVER IT, and the fact that I NEVER wanted to go through the process again. They were right. I did get over it. And I never have gone through the process again. And I never have to. You won't have to either. This can be your last time of "going through it." But not if you smoke. It's Gonna Be Okay
Focus on smobriety. Smobriety is about changing your thinking. Like everything else, you do it one day at a time. If you have not smoked in 81 days, then you do not ever have to smoke again. Stick with Ex--lots of success stories here from people just like you. Yes you can.
I have tried to fight my way to freedom more than once but I got exhausted because that is all I did. I thought about not smoking ALL the time, I felt like it was consuming me because it WAS. I had many failed quits, this quit is over 5 1/2 years old and it is still growing. I read everything, blogs, things that were recommended, comments on blogs...I LIVED on this site. I came here first thing every morning and at the end of the day. When I felt like I might lose it, I asked my husband for advice. He is a recovering alcoholic and has been in recovery for over 34 years, he quit smoking five years after he quit drinking. I asked him how to get through the constant thoughts. He referred to it as "mental obsession" and he advised me to get down on my knees and ask God to remove the mental obsession. He said I might have to do it more than once and that I HAD to get on my knees.. I will admit that I really didn't expect it to help but it did, I think I did it twice, I can't remember now but I can tell you that something changed and I felt a weight lift off me.
Congratulations on your 82 days, that is wonderful. Don't throw your quit away.
Ellen
Pookweencess so glad you reached out.
It is exhausting and Days of ups and downs.
Some days it is down right hard to keep the self talk positive.
What keeps me quit is I honestly do not know if I have another quit left in me...so I hold tight to this one.
Believe that you are worth it and that the days of ups and downs do become by far more days of up.
Thank you all so much I am grateful for all the support
. I walk at least 3 miles a day and still gained weight but I keep trying. Today I went out and bought myself a journal hoping it might help to get my feelings out. I KNOW I don’t want to smoke but I don’t want to feel like this anymore- feel trapped 
I know the weight gain is worrisome. I put on 18 pounds and at 176 days now, my focus is still my quit and the weight gain is a focus for another time. Glad you got the journal. Just do not try to tackle too many things at one time. I know you can do this.
The weight gain is depressing me but I am doing my best by walking everyday- not doing so well with food especially Dr Pepper- for some dumb reason Dr Pepper helps my cravings but not my waistline
I am so happy you are trying something else Pookweencess and bought a journal...let us know how that is working out for you...I know you most likely helped someone else with your idea...Gotcha in my prayers ~ Colleen 313 DOF
Thank you for your prayers- it means a great deal to me
Glad you're smoke free. Stay close.
Barb
I gained weight since I quit smoking. It has been over a year. I am just now getting serious about weight loss. You might gain weight when you stop smoking but it is temporary. First things first. Don’t suffocate yourself to death with cigarettes. Then worry about other health changes.
Never fear - you are doing just fine! You are in the portion of this quit journey we have chosen to call No Mans Land: No Mans Land Days 30 to 130 (approximate).
What you are feeling is perfectly normal! It WILL end - and SOON! Just hang in there a little longer. You are almost THERE! I had probably my most difficult day on 108.
Hang in there - pull out those tools you found useful early in your quit. Get busy! Get through these FINAL rough days the best you can.
It WILL end - I promise!
Nancy