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dlane68
Member

Help

Been gone awhile and failed miserably on quitting before. In my mind I have set my quit date for December 1st, and this is the first I have told any one. Here is my dilemma, I have not convinced myself that I can do it. I have been in bed sick for a couple of days and have not had a cigarette since Saturday night, there are no cigarettes in the house and I am craving one bad. I am hoping to jump start my quitting early being I have gone this far without smoking. Please any encouragement and advice would be helpful.  

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TW517
Member

That's exactly what I did 197 days ago when I was sick with a bad cold.  I would encourage you very strongly to stick with this unplanned quit!

dlane68
Member

Thank you my friend, I am gonna try.

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

You obviously have wanted to quit before this illness - but since a good time has presented itself - GO for it!  Your worst enemy in the early days is boredom, and leaving your mind free to obsess over the idea of a cigarette.  Change your mind's direction!  A craving will end whether you smoke or not  Take slow/deep breaths until the crave is gone, or count the red/white/blue things in your room, or snap a rubberband around your wrist, sip on some cold water, or put your head in yoru freezer and take some breaths of the cold air - or do ALL the reading I will recommend.

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for a free pdf of it on the net (copyright enforcement won't allow me to post the link here).

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Welcome Back. Sounds like this is the est time to be willing to not smoke anymore.   You can do it.  So many of have.  One day at a time.  Stay close, Read Read Read.  Blog Blog Blog.  Scream if you have to.. We will support you  Learn all you can about nicotine addiction. pastedImage_1.png

Barbara145
Member

I think it sounds like a divine time to quit!  Sounds like you know the deal. You can do this.  With the help of this site I quit after 52 years of smoking.  Best thing I ever did.  Welcome : )

Gma_Bernie
Member

52 years! Wow! I smoked for 48 years except for 3 yrs  After my first child was born. I just quit 10 days ago. I'm not having a lot of bad cravings but I am dealing with a lot of extra time on my hands and chronic pain. I have found this site to be very helpful, mostly through the links that people put in here to other articles. I congratulate you for quitting after 52 years of smoking. Do you have COPD? I am dealing with a great heaviness in my chest that makes it difficult 2 feel at ease. I can't remember the last time I just felt content in my body. because I have been sick for so long because of cigarettes. I know it's early in the process, only 10 Days in, but I hope that this heaviness goes away. Albuterol helps a little bit but not much. I am not very Physically Active, and I hope that changes too. But because I have a disease that causes tumors in my knees it is very difficult to stay on my feet for very long at a time. And then there's the pain pills. I don't want to become an addict but the amount that I'm taking is slowly increasing. I see the surgeon next week for my knees so we'll see what happens. Thanks for posting.

elvan
Member

Gma_Bernie  Welcome to EX, I smoked for 47 years and have dealt with chronic pain for a very long time.  I actually convinced myself that smoking helped with the pain which was absolutely wrong.  Smoking distracted me for a short period of time but the pain didn't go anywhere.  I have COPD and a year and ten months after I quit, I had both upper lobes of my lungs removed because they were so diseased that I was trapping air and I was so severely short of breath that I was concerned that it might be lung cancer.  I saw a pulmonologist...I was being screened for bilateral shoulder replacements but I told the ortho surgeon that I needed to do something about my breathing before I had orthopedic surgery.  In MY case, it was a good thing that I did.  I will have been quit for four years on January 19th and I have never regretted one moment of quitting.  Please don't expect to jump into feeling like you did before you ever smoked.  I got so depressed when I read other members talking about how they could take brisk walks and how they had no shortness of breath within a week or two.  Didn't happen for me.  I kept feeling worse and I made the appointment with the pulmonologist and I asked to have a low dose CT scan to see if I had cancer.  I was pretty scared.  No cancer but serious damage.  The surgery was done in November of 2015 and they told me that the best I could expect was a better quality of life for 3-5 years and then I would likely be a candidate for a lung transplant.  I am 68 years old and I am not about to take a set of lungs that could help a younger person who did not do this to him or herself.  I do exercise, I use a stationary bike and do 10 miles 5 days a week and I also do upper body exercises. I eat a healthier diet than I ever have and I make every effort to avoid things that will irritate my breathing.  I am making it, I am NOT having shoulder surgery, I am doing alright, the pain is not as bad as it was before I started working out regularly.  I have degenerative disc disease so I have a severe scoliosis that is incredibly painful.  My bike is a recumbent bike so I can lean back while I pedal.  You can do this...learn as much as you can about where you stand in terms of your lungs and go from there.

Best,

Ellen

Gma_Bernie
Member

Evan, thanks  for telling me your story. You are one courageous person. And yes I guess I did expect to feel better sooner. It took me a lot of years to get in this shape so I guess I shouldn't expect to feel better right away. I see the surgeon next week about my knees and I'm so afraid because I don't want surgery.

Gma_Bernie
Member

Sorry, Elvan. Damn autocorrect. Is that a male or female name? Sorry.