I have an 18 year old daughter, a high school student with an almost 5 month old daughter. We have been in an ongoing struggle since the baby was born.Since my daughter is in school and has no job, I have had to take care of all the financial responsibilites for she and her daughter. My daughter does not work and has no means of supporting her baby.
The problem is that I have been struggling with my daughter to clean the baby bottles, make the formula, fold baby clothes and in general do the "work" associated with being a mother, as I am providing the home and necessities for them both. I don't feel that I should have to even mention to my daughter to take care of her responsibilities. However, daily I have to ask her to get off Facebook and care for the responsibilities. She then lets out a breath of disapproval at me along with an eye roll.
I am sick of this! I love the baby with all of my heart, but feel as though my daughter should not balk at her responsibilithes! I told my daughter that she(my daugher) has been becoming a strain on me and since I am paying for my granddaughter and having to do much of the work for her, driving her to daycare, to doctor appointments, etc that I feel that my daughter should just go (leave my home) and figure out her own way in life and that she was becoming a burden on me having constantly to ask her to take care of her duties with her daughter. In essence, I let my daughter know that I could manage her baby alone better than having to tell my daughter to be a mom day in and day out. I told her that SHE was a strain on me. I told her that she needed to find some place else to live and someone else that didn't mind supporting she and her daughter or cleaning up after them.
I went out last night and when I came home, my daughter and granddaughter were gone. Her boyfriend's mother came to rescue them from horrible me! They are now 7 total with my granddaughter in a two bedroom apartment. My daughter has no bed, my granddaughter's crib and all accessories are still here except for her clothes. I AM GOING OUT OF MY MIND!!!
Does anyone know anything I can do? How can I help my granddaughter? Do I have any legal recourse? My daughter is 18, but no means to support herself or a child--No job, no car, no money and no drivers licence..
Help, I have not smoked, but it's getting harder and harder by the minute!