19 Days!!!!!

[eady36]

Good Morning!  I am at 19 days today and feeling pretty good.  In January it was at day 20 that I relapsed and SMOKED.  I know I can't get over-confident becuase I felt great then too and from one minute to the next thought I could smoke "Just One".  There is no such thing as just one.  A motto I have been repeating is "Just One and I am DONE!"  Used the lightest patch until yhis past Sunday so I know nicotine is leaving my system which has given me more cravings then I had the first few weeks and I feel tired but I know it will pass been down this road before just hoping this time I by-pass the shortcuts!  There are no short cuts on this, Must walk through to get to other side.

I am having surgery on the 21st of March so in 8 days.  Am nervous, it is neck surgery getting a fusion and a disc replacement.  I know healing will be much faster without smoking and am glad I have taken this step.  With the anxiety of the upcoming surgery I want to smoke.  Anxious=Smoking soooo trying to redefine: Anxious = Deep Breathing or something like that 🙂

Am also a bit worried because I will be laid up for a bit.  My Mom is coming on Sunday to help me after the surgery.  I think I have mentioned this in earlier blogs but she is a hard core smoker.  She gets offended when you ask her not to smoke or she can't smoke in a restaurant etc.  I have explained to her she can't smoke in my house but I fear she will be a bit resentful.  She also has physical disabilities herself, meaning pain so in a way I do feel bad sending her outside but at least the weather here is really nice.  I am just afraid that being around will make me want one. or worse yet I will just smoke.  So I need advice, mottos thoughts ideas.  I am going to make little index cards to have next to me and read allen carr's book AGAIN! LOL 🙂

Thanks fior everyone being here, you are truly Life Savers!  Have a great Day 🙂

[sk51263]

Before your surgury put a nice little chair or something outiside so your mom is comfortable for when she goes out and smokes, she should be happy for you that you quit. Buy some yummy smelling candles to light while you are healing!! Good luck with your surgury and your quit!! You can do it!!

[donna-b2]

if you were on the lowest patch  you should not be experiencing any withdraw from not using them.  i used them too and my body was relieved to stop them.  i think  perhaps its your thinking about this   your all ready contiplating smoking;  your kinda giving yourself consent to smoke by the idea of your mom smoking-  making it an option.  it is not an option  if  you are done  you are done  and thats the mind set you need.  there is never a good time to quit smoking; life always throws things at you to stress you out 

bottom line.....

are you a smoker    or  non smoker??????  nothing to do with anybody else but you.

[tomthetool]

Eight days from now you'll be that much stronger with your quit, and the nicotine from the patches should be outta your system for the most part. Maybe your mom can read the Allen Carr book too!

Good luck with your surgery, and hoping you a speedy recovery!

[babs13]

I too, had a surgery with spinal fusion.  This was many years ago.  Have hope that your surgery will be as sucessful as mine.  I had been in excrutiating pain, prior to the surgery.  You probably won't be as laid up, as you imagine, either.  If you aren't smoking, your body heals faster.  Don't let this surgery, or healing time interfere with your quit. 

[Ex_Nancy]

You will make it this time so keep your eyes on the prize....like "sk" said, set up a place outside for her.....AND be STUBBORN, hold your ground...this is your new YOUNG life and YOU are having the surgery, not her.....you need to heal and if she smokes inside it will make you hurt twice as much in healing time......if she want's to fuss about the NEW NORMAL in society today, let her....HOWEVER, when you both have a real TALK and establish the ground rules ahead of time, and even AFTER, I KNOW she will be happy, not only that she can be useful, but happy that you GREW up enough to tell her in a loving way that smoking is NO GOOD, and maybe this time she will be relieved to hear the truth....think of it that way....she just may need some reassurance herself....PROTECT THAT QUIT !!!  xoxo ❤️