I need help

[Barb102]

It’s day 45. I have been trying to encourage those newer to the quit than I am But now everything is going wrong like I’m being tested. Don’t know if I’m really strong enough any more. Yesterday and today I really can’t handle it   Everyone things I’m fine I should be over this. But it’s coming on hard. I’m crying and depressed and I really miss smoking even though it gave me COPD. But just a few right now seems to hard to pass up. Please help me. I’ve read everything it’s just not working. Only you kind elders understand and I ask for your help. I re-read NML it’s not helping. I know if I go out and just have one who am I kidding 5 I just don’t care Everything is going wrong in my life and I’m sorry but I really miss my evil one. I need help   Please help me 

Barb

[crazymama_Lori]

try these links:  No Man's Land Weekly Blogs, /blogs/Giulia-blog/2015/02/23/expectations-timelines-and-the-reality-you-create , and most of all this one, /blogs/Storm_3.1.14-blog/2015/04/14/the-grief-cycle-youre-not-going-crazy .  What you are going through right now is believe it or not perfectly normal.  You're going to have really good days where the world is wonderful and the next day you just want to close the door on the world.  It's that roller coaster ride that you're on and it's just part of the process.  I can't tell you how many times they told me that early in my quit and I just rolled my eyes, but I hung in there.  They kept telling me it's going to get better.  it's going to be easier.  I doubted them, but they made me a believer.  I'm living proof that it does get better.  This will not hang around for very long.  If you do notice that it's sticking around for more than a few days, I'd have a talk with your physician.  Some people use exercise to increase their dopamine response.  The more you know or https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/message/115756-cravings-schmavings-but-are-they?sr=search&searchI...    Find things that bring a smile to your face, a movie, a comedy clip on You Tube, a certain food or scent you love.  Create a positive from a negative.  Hopefully those links will help you

[Barb102]

Thank I

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[Barb102]

I’m going in my yard to feed the birds. It’s cold and they must be hungry after the snow yesterday. 

[Giulia]

STOP IT!  Stop the negative thinking.  Get up, get out, DO something.  The world would NOT be better without you in it.  Step back.  Watch a movie, watch a funny video, read some jokes, play a game, take a walk - even if it's 10 times around a chair.  You've got to RE-FOCUS.  If reading on here is not working, then find what does work.  Experiment.  Don't just give up.  You've worked too hard for this.  Come on! 

You don't know if you're strong enough any more?  Of COURSE you are.  You have 45 days under your belt.  That takes STRENGTH.  There is no such thing as "a few."  Really.  You must know that by now.  We say it over and over again.

You came here for a reason.  To stop smoking.  Think about that reason and why you've spent the last 45 days (or longer) here.  That's over a month of your life.  You miss it.  So WHAT?!!!  We all miss lots of things in our lives but we survive.  You have the power to work through this.  Really you do.  Please do.  Smoking won't make your life better.  It won't fix the things that are wrong.  

If you're being tested - ACE THE TEST!  You don't have to fail it.  Challenge yourself.  It's ennobling!

[Barb102]

Thank u

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[Bonnie]

thx Giulia this helped me too

[MarilynH]

Chin up deep breaths and know that you can and will be successful BUT you must believe it and stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance because S.I.N.A.O Smoking Is Not An Option, continue to move forward in your quit and keep stacking your precious DOF so each evening you can look yourself in the mirror and smile and say yay for another Day WON, relapsing isn't an option because at some point you'll be wanting to quit again and you'll be back at day ONE all over again ugh so instead keep your mind as well as your hands occupied which helps you through the rough patches and tell yourself that you don't smoke anymore and stick with your quit because it's going to get easier and easier with time under your belt but first you have to go through the roller coaster ups and downs but believe me when I say it's totally worth it to be Free so hang tough because there's definetly Life after Cigarettes so I hope you choose to remain Smokefree! 

[Barb102]

I’m saving this to read over and over. Thank you

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[elvan]

I just saw this, I worked today so I have not been able to keep up.  I am so sorry that you are struggling...it really is not a fight, it is a journey and each day that you have a new smoke free experience, you are building new memories.  You CAN do this, some days are harder than others...I went through a crying jag around day 60 or so and I really could not figure out why, I just cried and cried and cried. Dale told me not to worry about it, that I was "watering" my cheeks.  It DOES get easier, I promise, stay close to the site, reach out like you did here...that is a big key to staying quit.  

Best,

Ellen

[YoungAtHeart]

Of COURSE you miss smoking.  Do you think all those at your stage in their quits don't?  Some don't, but a lot DO.  You are having a really rough time in your life right now - and it doesn't seem to be worth the struggle anymore.  I GET it! 

But (and didn't you know there would be a but?), you quit for a reason.  Do you really, want that darling grandbaby to smell a stinky (REALLY stinky) grandma?  Don't you want to be able to push her a bit in the stroller - or play patty-cake in the yard without carrying an oxygen tank along with you?

Do you REALLY believe your loved ones deserve to watch you die a slow, agonizing death?

PLEASE go for a quick walk outside, or listen to some soothing music, or take a long soak in the tub.  It would be good right now for you to make a list of all those things in your life for which you are grateful.  It's good to remind ourselves of them every once in awhile.

I am sending hugs to comfort you through this time.

Nancy