"What can you say to me that will help me stick to this set time."
What are you saying to YOURSELF to make you stick to it this time? To quit you have to change behavior. You change behavior by changing your attitude. You change your attitude by introducing new thoughts and reinforcing them. Many of the successful quitters here spent a goodly amount of time prior to their quits and following their quits reading constantly. That's the reinforcement part. When I quit the last time I put up pieces of paper around my place with positive words on them. Like: "YES, YOU CAN!" "ATTITUDE STUPID!" "WHAT AM I TO LEARN TODAY?" You, of course, find your own words to boost you on.
Remember that quitting is not an event, it's journey. And because it's a journey we not only need to continue educating ourselves, but we need to constantly stay AWARE and agree to the changes that take place. It helped me to think of quitting as a rite of passage. In many tribes you have to go through physical challenges to be afforded "adult" status. In our case it could be going through the gauntlet of cravings to get to the other side where "freedom" is experienced.
Think about what words YOU need to say to yourself to make this quit stick. Not the old ones that didn't work. New ones that do. They can't be simply intellectual "words." They have to be words that make an emotional connection within you. Addiction isn't about intellect, it's about the emotional connection to the behavior we so desperately want to end. And to overcome it we need to delve deeply into ourselves. That's part of the necessary homework too.
