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Akebulon
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Will power

Day 4 and I’m sitting in my recliner, looked over at my dining room chair and in between the pIllow & chair is a cigarette  That somehow had to rolled off the table and landed there I wouldn’t even touch it, my son had called & was headed over so I waited til he got here to throw it away I had to turn the chair around so I couldn’t see it. This was the hardest day so far

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YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to the community!

Congratulations on Day Four AND your decision to leave that cigarette be!  I will give you some reading to do and some tips that I and others have found useful in beating this addiction.

 

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This easy and entertaining read provided a world of good information about nicotine addiction, most of which I was not aware.  I credit it in large part with my success at quitting.   You can search for it online or at your local library.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

 

You didn't mention if you are using a quit aid, so I will give you my thoughts on them.  If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for obvious reasons.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...


The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.


Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Akebulon
Member

Yes I’m using the patch & waiting for my gum to arrive. This is not my 1st time quitting but this is my last time I have a really good friend whose husband is on oxygen & I was starting to have shortness of breath,I have been smoking since age 12, I will be 61 in a few days. I’m dealing with other  Medical issues and COPD is not one I want to have I’m very glad to have this site it really helps. & thanks for the info 

Great Job! What a mental victory! This is quititude!!!

Akebulon
Member

Thanks I chew on a straw almost constantly, it helps. I have found Crocheting helps give me something to do with my hands one day at a time as they say

MarilynH
Member

Congratulations on your precious quit journey YAY for 4 splendiferous Smokefree days and counting WTG you are doing this quit and you're doing it one precious Smokefree Day at a time or hour minute or even a second at a time, hang onto your positive attitude because it'll get through any rough patches that you may come upon YAY for each and every Day WON with many more to come stay close because we're all here rooting you on......

sweetplt
Member

Hi and Welcome to Ex’s Akebulon 

Congratulations on 4 days of not smoking...You forgot one important thing, get rid of all smoking paraphernalia.  However, that being said, I am so proud of you for not smoking that cigarette.  Please read at My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX then read the posts to become more prepared and educated on your quit.  You are an addict and it takes time and work to get through this journey.  Keep busy and/or rest...listen to what your body needs, just don’t smoke...The more you say No to the Nicodemon, the weaker he gets and the stronger you will get.  Keep close to us, we are here to help...You got this...Happy Saturday~ Colleen 593 DOF 

Barbscloud
Member

Welcome to the Ex and congrats on 4 days smoke free.   Each and every success builds confidence and you did it!  Chewing on straws was one of my tools also.  I could do some real damage to them.  

Many of us have had multiple attempts to quit.  What made the difference for me this time was educating myself about nicotine addiction and having a quit plan.  In the past, I skipped they two steps and I failed every time.  Finding the Ex the week before I quit also contributed to my success.  For some, having the support from other quitters is key to their success.

Keep moving forward one day at a time and remember "I don't do that anymore"

Barb

AnnetteMM
Member

Who is this "Will Power" you mention?  

Quitting isn't about will power, it's about willingness.

Let that sink in.

You are now willing to be FREE from nicotine!  YAY!!!!!!

My 2 cents:  A little bit of sugar can help with withdrawal a LOT. I used Tootsie Pops and occasionally a piece of hard candy after supper.

I also did crocheting! Made so many blankets, LOL

giphy (1).gif  Glad you're here!

beazel
Member

That is a moment to be proud of.....shows the strength you possess!

Congratulations on 4 DAYS - that's fantastic.