It's been three weeks tomorrow and I am doing great except that I am no fun at all anymore. I can't seem to even go out for a drink with my friends. As soon as I have a drink I want to smoke. I'm getting depressed about it. I have done gone out and had several and not smoked but it is such a huge struggle! When am I going to get over this feeling??!!
The "when" is up in the air, Swanbird ... everyone is different. Just know that it WILL get better! Just because you joined the nonsmoking brigade does not mean you jumped off the fun-mobile forever. .
Three weeks is a TREMENDOUS accomplishment, it really is!!
However, in the grand scheme of things it is a short time compared to the length of time you smoked, am I right? You will not get over those smoking years in a day or three weeks. But you WILL get over them and it won't take years. Hang on, maybe forgo or severely limit drinking for the short term, and if you do drink, have an escape plan so that if you feel you're going to smoke, you can vacate the environs and do something else quickly without smoking.
One comment though... you've faced the demon with drink in hand, looked it in the eye and didn't smoke... so it will possibly get easier now. Just always be prepared for it to NOT be easy. As I said, have a plan, and stick with it so that drinking doesn't make you lose your mind AND your quit. (drinking is probably the #1 quit-killer I've seen on quit-smoking sites)