cathnolan1 What we try to explain to people here is to "take what you need, and leave the rest." Not berate "the rest" for an opinion you don't agree with or like. Speaking for myself only here as someone who has been on this site for 9 years, anyone who has ever quit KNOWS that it's not easy. What we try to do is help make it easIER for the next person by sharing the wisdom we have of our own experiences. When we seen the same serial quitters who have been on this site for years and years and years, who keep relapsing, we tend to get a little frustrated. Because "their way" obviously hasn't worked. And believe me, we have gone the gentle, cuddly "you can do this, rah rah" route and the tough love route. And neither seem to promote their success. I'm talking about people who have 45 quits here. And sometimes they may go for a couple of months and we think "THIS time they've really GOT it! They're FREE!" And then they relapse again. And because we care so very much, we feel like tearing our hair out. Because NOTHING we have said, in all the many ways that we've said it - makes any difference. Shawn's blog was how many of us feel. It wasn't directed to any one person. It was a necessary rant to release some steam and it was really against the Nicodemon, the power of this addiction.
And you'd be surprised how just such a rant can help those who need to hear it.
