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Give and get support around quitting

I came back

Well my quit date is approaching, 9/11/2017.  I've collected a few things to have around in preparation, made some plans for triggers and FORCED myself to get back to this group and study.  Not sure if I need a group.  I found the groups that I opened to be out dated.  Not sure what if any response if any I would get from someone who hasn't posted since 2008.  I also don't know if I need a "quit buddy."  Anyhow, Thanks all.  I am sufficiently inspired for now.   

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YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome back!

I quit in 2012, so I wasn't here for your first go-round.  I'm glad you're here and I am now, too!  Please don't follow the same routines you did back then.   I love a quote attributed to Einstein:  The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.   This is a brand NEW quit!  THIS time you will be successful!

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. Here is a link to a free PDF version of it:

http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

Daniela2016
Member

And please take it from someone who tried with no support group in the past and never made it past 6 months.  This group took me where I am today, 542 DOF (days of freedom), taught me what to do, how to do it, why and when.  Gave me support with the quitting, advice for my health, my pets, my home.  This is not a support group, this is a group of friends opening up to you and who are inviting you to do the same, so they can help you succeed as they did it for so many here!

Welcome and I hope we'll see you here often, counting up your DOF!

this site has so much to offer now.  there's https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/newbie-quitters?sr=search&searchId=d64c839f-ab16-4475-81d0...‌ and also https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/find-a-quit-buddy?sr=search&searchId=9231a86b-ac30-4cd1-a3...‌.  Go to the Groups tab and search out which one interests you.  Welcome back !!!!

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Giulia
Member

Welcome back!  And glad you FORCED yourself to come back.  I can only speak from my own experience, but I am 100% sure that if I did not have a support group when I first quit (and that was 2 years before this site came into being) I would not have an 11 year quit.  Support is what made THE difference in quit longevity for me.  That and continuing education.   Unfortunately the group that I had control over Relapse Traps, and would be notified when anybody responded is no longer "owned" by me.  That is to say ALL groups are now under the broader and  higher authority of the EX administration/company manger.  However, if you put "relapse traps' in the community search bar, I believe I will still notified if you post on one of the blogs I created there.  The Relapse Traps group is now simply separate blogs in the larger Relapse Prevention Group.  (Not sure what group you were referring to.   I would imagine, though, that if the original group owner was still around, they might respond if you posted on a blog of their group)  You can find out when the person was last on the site by hovering over their avatar.

Stick around and stay inspired!

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CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
Community Manager

Welcome back!  Did you have a different account previously when you were a member of the site?  If you were around in 2008 then you were around when the site was just a baby.  Yes some of the groups are inactive now.  We consolidated everything when we moved it over as there was a lot of duplicate groups.

Mark
EX Community Manager

EX Community Admin Team
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Hi Mark, I really just joined for the 1st time. After I joined (mid August) I came back yesterday. I probably took a week off. Now I really need to keep a strong connection to this site especially as I approach my quit date. Thanks for connecting.

CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
Community Manager

Thanks for clarifying. Sorry I misunderstood.

Mark
EX Community Manager

EX Community Admin Team
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MarilynH
Member

Welcome, we're all here for you and your precious upcoming quit you can and will be successful, believe it and read everything you can about quitting smoking and Remaining Quit because there's a wealth of information here to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb and start living a life of Freedom. 

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Jennifer-Quit
Member

I believe she is saying that the groups that she looked at have not been active since 2008?  And no - there is not much activity in the groups but Lori did give links to a couple of the more active groups.  Welcome to EX - hope that you stick around - having the support of this community helped me more than anything in the beginning.