Lyndsay,
I am going to agree with Dave and say go get some patches, lozenges, or some kind of Nicotene Replacement Therapy. Doing so increases the likelihood of succesfully quitting by 50 percent! You need to remember that while your husband might not understand what you are trying to do by sleeping alone and eating alone, you are in fact avoiding triggers. If these situations will cause you to be irritable and stressed or start fights with your husband (making you want to smoke) then they are in fact triggers. And identifying your triggers and taking steps to avoid them is a big part of learning to become an ex-smoker. While it might be inconvenient and upsetting to your husband right now, just remind him of the big picture and how quitting smoking will ultimately benefit your relationship in the long run. And don't feel bad if you have a million melt downs in one day, it is all part of the process. I am 28, I started smoking when I was 14 and quit cold turkey when I was 21 (and it was ugly,horrible and hard, by the way). When i was 25 I got divorced and started smoking again. Three years later, I was back up to over a pack a day. I quit 19 days ago, but this time I am using the patch. It is still hard, but much easier than trying to do it on my own. There are going to be days when you are pissed off at the world, when you cry for no reason and when it just feels too hard. But you can do this, and it does get easier with each day that passes. For me, one of the things that keeps me from smoking is I take all the money I would have spent on cigarettes in a week (I live in Alaska where cigarettes are $9 dollars a pack, so that adds up to $63 a week for me!) and put it towards something I really want. In the 19 days since I have quit smoking, that is $191! After 30 days I am going to buy myself a Coach purse that I have been drooling over forever! Keep your chin up, you can do this. And if you slip up and smoke, don't beat yourself up, you just have to try again. Good luck and keep us posted!
