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Why you can’t hide cigarettes “just in case”

Dr_Hays
Mayo Clinic
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Have you ever stashed cigarettes in the closet or the freezer just before quitting?

 

Some smokers reason that a secret stash will give them “peace of mind” to focus on quitting, kind of like a security blanket. Others believe quitting in the face of temptation will only make them stronger.

 

This is faulty reasoning!

 

Keeping cigarettes around when you quit is not empowering; it’s sabotage.

 

If cigarettes are just a drawer pull away when a craving hits, you’re likely to act on impulse. You probably won’t stop and think: I’ve saved $350 this month not smoking or I’m really going to regret blowing my quit.

 

Nope, in the moment, when your chest is tightening or your mouth is watering, you’ll tell yourself: Eh, what’s one cigarette going to hurt?

 

Of course, “just one smoke” leads to another and another. . .

 

Sure, you can always head out to buy cigarettes, but unless you live next to a convenience store, making your purchase will take more than 5 minutes, which is how long a craving typically lasts. That 5-minute buffer is important. It gives you the time to think more clearly.

 

The problem with hiding cigarettes goes beyond temptation. It’s sending the wrong message to yourself. If you keep a pack hidden “just in case,” you’re conceding that you might smoke again.

 

You’re giving yourself an out — essentially preparing to slip up.

 

Instead, prepare to succeed by making a firm commitment to quit! Go full steam ahead, and destroy or give away every cigarette and ashtray you possess. Show yourself that you mean business — that you’re not just trying to quit. You are quitting.

 

What if you relapse? You’ll deal with it. Chances are, you’ve dealt with setbacks before. Most ex-smokers have blown a quit — or 20.

 

What’s important is committing 100% right now.

 

If you’re an ex-smoker, let us know: What did you do with your cigarettes right before you quit? What advice do you have for folks who are in the process of planning their quit?

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23 Comments
Thomas3.20.2010

We can make it easy-er to Quit or easy to Relapse! Which are you doing? I let my Wife gas my Car for the first Weeks!

Diannnnn
Member

The last pack I bought before my quit was my SIL' s brand. Simply left her the rest of the pack. Great advice Dr. Hays.

Roller831
Member

I smoked the last cigarette in the last pack of the last carton I was ever going to buy at 10PM and went to sleep.  I had no option to smoke the next morning.  I planned out my quit date because I knew I could not have any cigarettes around or I would not actually quit!  Get rid of everything and stay away from triggers at first!

elvan
Member

I still had eight packs left in a carton of cigarettes and I had about half of an open pack when I quit.  I put the carton, all of my ashtrays, coupons, and lighters into a bag and I gave them to my friend who has absolutely no intention of quitting.  I soaked the cigarettes from the opened pack in water and I dumped them.  I TRIED in the past to quit and keep cigarettes "stashed" and I ALWAYS smoked them. I would never recommend keeping any around, it doesn't work.

Ellen

bacardigirl
Member

I gave away the remainder of my last pack to a neighbor - put it right in her mailbox and never looked back. My motto was 'if I have 'em, smoke 'em', now my motto is 'N.O.P.E'.

My advice to newbies is this:

   Don't keep emergency cigarettes, because if you have 'em, you will smoke 'em

   Plan, plan and plan some more for this journey. Use the tools and read the literature on this website, get a quit kit and know your triggers and how you plan to tackle them.  I set my quit date in Aug for Oct and have been very successful. By the time Oct 1st came around, I was mentally ready for this journey. Getting past 'being in my head' was the biggest challenge, for most of my addiction was habit.

   Connect to this website DAILY. Read the blogs, and post your own blogs (tell us about your journey). Make friends - everyone on this site cares about your progress and wants you to succeed.

   Find what motivates you. For me, it was money saved. Find your motivation and remember it.

   Reward yourself as often as you can. This is a major feat and if you need to pat yourself on the back every now and then, go for it! It will be well deserved.

#285daysdown

mjlibbie
Member

Hi, I'm new here. Quit date is right around the corner. This is an amazing site and I'm so grateful I've found it. With regards to this particular issue, getting rid of the "secret stash" is not an option for me. I already stopped smoking my fav brand but my significant other is a heavy smoker with absolutely no desire or intention to quit. (I'm not fond of his cigarettes, so I've been smoking his until my quit date.) The dilemma is this: while he may slightly curb his smoking around me once I've quit, I have to find enough strength to not cave while he smokes. My "plan" is to internally feel sorry for him that he has to continue smoking while I get to ENJOY the freedom of being a non-smoker and I'm truly hoping that will be enough. It has to be.  

Just wondering if anyone here has dealt with this scenario and how did you handle it? Thanks!

MJ

mjlibbie
Member

Well! Ignore my last post! hahaha! As I scrolled down, I see that Dr. Hayes has a blog related to this very topic! Guess he's got it all covered.

Diannnnn
Member

Welcome mjlibbie‌! Having a smoker around does add another "tough" factor to an already difficult task. My bro and sis in law both smoke, but outside only. For some amazing reason, being around smokers does not trigger me, though I don't push that envelope very often. I am able to walk by a pack of cigarettes and not cave, though it isn't always easy. I have a nicotine patch on 24/7, so I know it is mostly psychological. 

It took me a bit to learn, but getting your head in the right place to quit is a very important part of the preparation. I hated smoking by the time my quit date rolled around. Is it hard to remember that when a crave hits? Heck yeah it is! But then I remember I am stronger than my addiction and I like the life I am working to create for myself. Plus, I've announced my quit to half the free world...can you imagine the embarrassment if I fail?

Glad you found EX! Hang out, explore and read. These people on here seriously rock and they have experienced just about everything. 

Dian

dwwms
Member

Great Blog! I made sure every aspect of smoking was gone away from the house. I timed out my last couple of days so I'd smoke the last cigarette I had late that evening before bedtime. There's a fire pit on the back patio that I'd used for an ashtray (so to speak - broke off the butt but left the very end of the cigarette there). I built a small fire, made sure all those cigarette ends burnt up, watched my last empty pack go up in flames and envisioned the addiction was burning up as well. Through out the only ashtray I had and my lighter - made sure they were in a full bag of trash waiting to be put out. I even washed some clothes to make sure they didn't smell like smoke!

Doug

elvan
Member

If you hide them, you will FIND them.  I remember a failed quit from a long time ago....long before I found EX and did the reading and I started to lean on the people here and learn about how to go forward.  Lean on us...seriously, you will find that we are a pretty reliable and diverse group of people.  We have all learned from each other and we have all leaned on each other at different times. I cannot begin to tell you what a gift this site and these people have been to me.  One time when I quit, I felt like I was going out of my mind and I remember screaming, "I cannot DO this."  I was home alone and I was looking for food...I was ALWAYS looking for food.  I slammed the refrigerator door and an unopened pack of cigarettes, fell off the top of the fridge.  I somehow thought it was a sign...what a moron. I went on smoking for I do not know how long.  I not only ALLOWED the damage to be done to my lungs, I INVITED it.  I am seriously so glad that I do not smoke any more...my life is SO MUCH better and I am so proud of myself.   I have more self esteem now than I ever remember having.  This journey to freedom is worth every bump and curve in the road.  The person I have come to know is strong and capable of doing so much more than I ever thought I might be. Freedom is NOT just another word for nothing left to lose...freedom is a choice and it is the best one I have EVER MADE.  Welcome to EX  mjlibbie .  You will never regret starting this journey and going forward one step at a time, one day at a time.

Best,

Ellen

Giulia
Member

What a great blog!  So many good points to take away from it.

  • "Keeping cigarettes around when you quit is not empowering; it’s sabotage."
  • "If cigarettes are just a drawer pull away when a craving hits, you’re likely to act on impulse."  Impulse - yes, that's one of the clues as to why people relapse.  Had never thought of it that way before!  Duh!  It's purely impulsive, without thought.
  • The problem with hiding cigarettes goes beyond temptation. It’s sending the wrong message to yourself. If you keep a pack hidden “just in case,” you’re conceding that you might smoke again.  You’re giving yourself an out — essentially preparing to slip up.

The night I quit I smoked my last cigarette, may have doused the butt under the tap but can't quite remember,  removed all smoking paraphernalia, and went to bed with a total commitment on my pillow.  And I've slept with that commitment for 11+ years.  Wedded for life, I hope!

greenize1
Member

I know this is crazy, but I timed my quit so that I would finish the pack by 9pm when I was going to quit the next morning. I am so bad that I literally have to change my driving route so that I don't pass the establishment where I used to buy cigarettes.  Maybe someday I'll be able to drive that way, but not now only 75 days in.

Giulia
Member

greenize1‌  Not crazy at all.  Many of us timed out the last pack of our quit day.  And you are not the only one to change driving routes to miss the cigarette store.  That's one of the stronger visual memory temptations.  The day you do drive by it with head held high is  one of those beautiful little incremental breakthrough moments.  There will be many along the journey to look forward to!

elvan
Member

greenize1  That is not crazy at all, many of us had to change routes and routines.  Congratulations on 75 days, that's awesome.  I could not stand to SAY the word cigarette for quite a while, no idea exactly why that triggered me but it did.  I haven't seen any posts from you and that's pretty unusual at 75 days or am I missing something?

Welcome to EX,

Ellen

greenize1
Member

elvan,  I only just got around to checking out your blog, etc.  I've

been using an app on my phone and also recently a group on FB.  I

obviously need all the help I can get.  This is a serious struggle and I

crave that darn cigarette about 5 or 6 times a day at this point.

 That's better than it was, but still distressing.  After 53 of smoking

I think I'm doing ok.

elvan
Member

greenize1‌  I was not far behind you, I smoked for 47 years with breaks for pregnancies ...I tried more than once to quit on my own but I was not successful.  I would say that this site and the education and support I got from it have been lifesavers for me...seriously.  I blogged here, read comments, listened to the elders, did all of the reading suggested and I have not smoked in over 3 1/2 years.  It was not easy and I won't pretend that it was.  I came here every morning and every evening and I looked for help and I was NEVER disappointed.  If you feel that you are in danger, write a blog and put the word HELP in the subject line.  Remember that we have all been where you are now, there are no shortcuts and quitting is not an event, it is a journey.  One day at a time.  There is only one rule...DON'T SMOKE.  NOPE was my mantra....Not One Puff Ever.  I said it over and over and over again along with many other sayings that I learned from here.  We all want you to be successful, please believe in yourself and in us.  

Welcome to EX,

Ellen

Dr_Hays
Mayo Clinic

Thanks for all the comments on the blog.  It's wonderful to be part of such a supportive community.  We agree.  It is best to keep the cigarettes out of the house, and 'not a puff' is the best prescription for avoiding any relapse.

Posamari
Member

Smoked last cigarette from the pack at about 10pm, took ashtray, butts, lighter out to trash, went to bed. Tried to sleep as much as I could for the next few days and avoid people and triggers. Guzzled lemon water and lemon candy plus read everything I could get my hands on about nicotine addiction. Found this site and never left. Educating myself about the whole quit process and addiction was /is a HUGE influence on keeping my quit. Staying close to this site makes a big impact in my success as a NOPE.

265 DOF.

tootiebug
Member

I am happy for all of you!! Congrats! Over the last 43 years I have guit smoking 3 times...twice for 5 years an once for almost 2 years! Ino it sounds crazy but I still did it  I'd use the excuse of marital problems,financial problems,I could go on an on but honestly how do you have the strength when husband,friends,even adult children all smoke? It's not like I can remove myself from my family but there's no smoking inside ever but we do hangout a lot outdoors

Thomas3.20.2010

tootiebug‌ I suggest that you bring this question to your own Blog. I know that many of our Successful Quitters have Family members or roommates who smoke in their home or outside.

bonniebee
Member

I will Pm you soon about this subject but no time at this moment ! Welcome to Ex !

CathyREX
Member

Which FB group.  I'm gathering all the help I can get.  Thank you .

Giulia
Member

CathyREX‌  Greenize1 hasn't logged onto this site since last Aug.  But here's a list of apps that may help:  Best Apps to Help You Quit Smoking 2017   whyquit.com is another site that has a lot of useful info.

About the Author
An expert in tobacco use and dependence, Dr. Hays has authored and co-authored over 70 peer-reviewed scholarly articles and book chapters on various aspects tobacco dependence and its treatment. Since joining the Nicotine Dependence Center in 1992, he and its staff have treated more than 50,000 patients for tobacco dependence.