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constanceclum
Member
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Well it's day 1 for me and I am so glad to finally be here. The last 2 weeks of preparation has felt like a month. I think the cutting down has really helped. I am having mild to moderate cravings and have only had 1 lozenge today. I am also using the patch to help stay more comfortable as I have failed so many times totally due to the discomfort of the strong cravings. I am not naive, I am so aware that day 1 is not the hardest, I just feel more confident. I also am not in denial. I have severe copd and will not live for another few yrs if I keep smoking. I will say that my cough has pretty much gone away and I am getting more sleep because of that which is good because I am exhausted. Because of the copd I am not very active but my lung Dr. says it is just as important to exercize the lungs as anywhere else so I am climbing 18 concrete outside stairs to the 2nd floor of the apartments I live in twice/day. I will also mention that I am bipolar which increases the level of difficulty in quitting smoking but for the 1st time in decades, I am stabilized on medication. I do have the challenge of having a husband that smokes but when I get to the point where he realizes that I am going to make it this time, I am going to ask him to smoke outside.

I love the support on this site. I am so grateful that the elders are still here, how encouraging is that? I am also grateful for the newbies as we can support each other by recognizing each others days quit and share symptoms and what we are using for quit aids. I know that there are minutes that feel like hours and hours that feel like days. We can support each other during those difficult times.

I will close for now. This is lengthy enough. Wishing everyone a wonderful smokefree day!

9 Comments
joyeuxencore
Member

Congratulations on taking your life back Constance! I would suggest those stairs to walk through any cravings. Just remember to say to yourself "I don't DO that anymore, what am I going to DO instead" Be prepared not surprised by cravings. Look at them as wonderful opportunities to re-learn life without cigarettes. When they pass  recognize that you made it through and know you can do that always!

healthy4life
Member

Congratulations on your first totally smoke free day! You've done a lot of prep work to get here, and you know just what needs to be done.

 

Have to say, I'm a little concerned about your husband smoking...how will you know when he realizes that you're quit for good, and how will you know when it's time to ask him to smoke outside? I'm not in your shoes, but if I were, I would tell him that you HAVE quit for good, that you ARE going to make it this time, and NOW is the time to start smoking outside. 

suzanne41
Member

I agree with Theresa... you ARE going to do it this time, ask him to smoke outside!

cookie804
Member

I totally agree please ask him to smoke outside. You will still have to deal with the smell of smoke on him and his clothes. Congratulations to you.

constanceclum
Member

I have mentioned to him that people on this site recommend that he smoke outside. That my copd will continue to worsen if he smokes around me. I think that because I have failed som many times that he just doesn't have faith. At day 4 and 5 I will start getting a little more forceful. I'm not willing to leave my marriage over this but I do choose my life and health.

YoungAtHeart
Member

Yes - please ask him to smoke outside.  If you don't, seems to me you are giving yourself the out if you don't make it.  Remember - you are not going to smoke again NO MATTER WHAT - so don't leave the door open for failure!

Congratulations on your decision and your preparation.  Remember to distract through any craves....play a computer game; do slow, deep breathing, going slower and slower and deeper and deeper (you can raise your arms straight out in front of you with the inhale and lower them on the exhale if you are in a place you can do that), find a funny YouTube video and laugh out loud; sing or dance to your favorite music, eat a bite of chocolate, march in place.  In the beginning, you will have to be very disciplined not to let that crave thought be in your head alone. 

You CAN do this.  Let's get it done this time!

 Nancy

Strudel
Member

Congrats on day one! I agree with all of the above - please ask your husband to smoke outside. Please! 

Barbara145
Member

Hi Constance.  You are doing great.  You have a good plan for you and you will continue to do great.  It sounds like it is truly a matter of life and death for you.  You are choosing life.  We will be here for you every step of the way.

renee108
Member

Hi Constance,

I wonder if you might have a discussion with your husband that his smoking outside would be a small way to help you and support your decision to quit. It is super tough to quit when someone is smoking in front of you. And also, yea, that's terrible for your copd.

About the Author
I'm 59 with severe COPD. I've decided I really want to live and I won't if I smoke. I have 4 grown boys, a grandson and granddaughter due on 9/10. Lots of reasons to live.