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Genesislazarus · ‎01-19-2020

I finally got WiFi at home so please get those letters and notes coming. What helps me the most is to get connected to people and have conversations about our struggles and success.

I have over 100 DOFreedom but still struggle to keep myself busy. I think it has more to do with my other problems. Anxiety, depression being the biggest.

Going through a lot of tough life right now. I've heard these days are like being in no man's land and that triggers are trying to do their worst. It seems that way to me because for a long time I had smooth sailing. Now I'm going through counseling with a teenager who blames me for every hardship after the divorce and every poor decision that his older brother has made. Dealing with the abuse my ex-husband dished out also brought up all the abuse my parents put on me has been crippling. I'm getting MUCH better but feeling it all makes me want to reach for a cigarette to dull the pain and get that feel good from the drugs in it.

My 21-year-old moved back home after having run away to Chicago and Atlanta. It has been a joy for everyone. He has matured some and is ready to live by some house rules. He is contributing to chores and $$$. He's already taken a job that will support him until he finds a better paying one. I'm so proud!

If you are someone who likes to chat to keep your mind off things, please send me a note.

Have a great DOFreedom!!!

YoungAtHeart · ‎01-19-2020

If you can, get outside - go for a brisk walk. It does more than smoking to raise your spirits (it gives you a hit of dopamine that actually lasts longer than a cigarette!). Or just gaze at the clouds and listen to the birdsong. If you live near any bodies of water, being near them is soothing to the soul, too. You might also put on some tunes and dance or sing aloud with them. All of those things will help your depression.

Congratulations on entry into the TDC (Triple Digit Club)! You only have a bit more to go before you should be out of No Mans Land and it should get easier and easier as more time passes. Learning NEW ways to deal with your feelings is a necessary part of this process. You re doing GREAT!

avian3 · ‎01-19-2020

I'm sorry you have had to go through some bad times. The first few months after I quit it seems everything went wrong and made it tougher to quit. Now when I look back I realize those tough situations are just everyday life. The difference is that I never give smoking a thought now.

Congratulations on your over 4 months quit!!

Giulia · ‎01-19-2020

Nice going on the 100+ days. So glad your son is acting more mature and contributing to the household! No Man's Land is one of the tougher times in this journey. Once you make it through that you'll feel more confident, so you just keep hanging in.

Lookin' real good (even if it may not feel like it yet!)

sweetplt · ‎01-19-2020

So happy for your 100 days of Freedom and the WiFi ... Genesislazarus ... I am sorry that life has been so rough...for now remember that this quit is something no one can take from you...be proud, You are doing it...~ Colleen 412 DOF

Mandolinrain · ‎01-19-2020

Welcome and glad your with us! 100 days is awesome and so happy for you that things are looking up for you 21 yr. old. Your doing wonderful.

Barbscloud · ‎01-20-2020

You're doing great with your 100+ days of success. NML is a reality to many, sot it's good to know about it so you rise to the challenge. Even though you've been dealt with some difficult situations, don't lose site of the good times you have those "kids". Let your success with not smoking continue to build your confidence about life.

Hugs

Barb