When things get hard go to your support . It can change your perspective instantly .It doesn’t have to be quit support but maybe supportive people in your life you can and do have fun with , that you can share with or you have common interests with . It’s so helpful to space yourself from your quit because you can become overwhelmed with it , with helping others , etc .
I was just over eight years quit when I came here . Sometimes I think when my previous site closed that maybe I should have closed my final chapter then but it didn’t happen for a reason . All things happen for a reason . For me there was more learning to be done and altho it wasn't quite what I expected I learned a lot here that would help me to keep that quit forever moving forward .
This is a great place for those of you beginning your quit and with every passing day you will learn much about yourself and how to keep your quit or why you are not keeping it . That learning however comes from inside you and no one can really teach you what you need to learn for yourself because you know you best .
I am trying to do more of the things that bring me joy these days because much of my focus in life was taking care of others and bringing them joy . Taking time for me is doing things I love or being an adventurist and trying new things . So if you are not doing that , I highly recommend finding your joy , try new things , spend time with you and be kind to you .
I never would have dreamed a few years ago to ever come out of my shell enough to start a walking group , or sing , or be confident enough to do much of anything . Yes, I did my job and was good at it but it was all about taking care of others .
You may feel a void . Quitting smoking is like empty nest syndrome but for any of us who’ve had kids leave the home and spread their wings we know it was a learning curve for us to adjust to , but we did it .
Quitting smoking added a quality of life I didn’t expect and the learning only took place because I took the plunge and dived into a something I thought I could not do , changed my attitude and did .
Quitting was really was hard , don’t get me wrong , it wasn’t easy , but yet looking back it was simple , really simple . Use simple thoughts like “nope “ , like “ not today “ , like “I don’t do that anymore “ like “not an option “ . Find one simple simple definitive word that works for you today and follow through .
You may be elated today that your quit is going well or sad because it seems forever is too long , or angry or happy , but if you find yourself wanting to give up find your simple , please don’t smoke , it’s worth putting off, it’s worth the wait and the work .
