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What To Expect In The First Four Months

JonesCarpeDiem
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You can choose to be anxious and fearful

to quit smoking but, it is not required.

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     Sure, you will have some rough days in first two to three weeks experiencing the physical withdrawal symptoms and beginning to unlearn the habit part of smoking. We all did.

      You will feel "out of it" like something is missing or not right.

      The memories of smoking are strong because they are connected to every emotion and life experience.

       Quitting is a process. After being on this and another site for over 10 years an average of 10 hours a day listening and watching and helping,  I see it as a definable process.

     You can begin to understand what is happening by living smoke free but, you must continue making the choice to not smoke for a period of time in order to unlearn the psychological connections and be successful.  As you live daily without smoking the unlearning process continues as you build new memories that don't include smoking.

     This is the secret of success. You must unlearn the hand to mouth and inhale motions that are connected to the memories and emotions experienced as a smoker.

     Enjoy the process, don't bemoan it. This is the only way to be free and not desire to be a smoker ever again.

     After about 130 days you will not be thinking of you as a smoker or of smoking as often.  Be willing to give yourself that amount of time without giving up on yourselves.

Accept your new path as a non smoker. The only way out is through.

Here Is The Timeline Of What You Can Expect

1st week toughest. (It feels so awkward to make the change initially)

2nd week is better (some are through the worst portion after 2 weeks)

3rd week is mo' better (most are through the worst withdrawal symptoms by the end of the third week)

4th week even better.

      By the beginning of the 5th week, you think you got it licked. BUT

The next three months are the test because you will get urges out of nowhere They can be strong they can last an hour or longer and be spread over 2-3 days, but these are usually far between.

Get up! Get busy. Use the tools that got you this far.

     They typically aren't stronger than anything you've already experienced. It's because they are so unexpected and can catch you off guard that makes them dangerous.

      You've smoked for a long time.

      Promise yourself 130 days from your last puff without giving in and you will rarely think of smoking.

and....laugh when you crave (chuckle in church)

(Please read the no mans land blog that follows which describes the feelings you might  experience at one point or another in those 3+ months after the first month quit)

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2011/05/24/no-mans-land-days-30-to130-appr...

and also, about the two sets of seasons building your new non smoking memories below.

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2013/12/05/the-two-sets-of...

177 Comments
elvan
Member

I read this post over and over and over again at the beginning of my quit and it always gave me something, still does.  Classic, Dale.

Ellen

Ldavies_01
Member

That was the boost I needed today. Thank You.

JonesCarpeDiem

Glad to be of help

Jono28
Member

I remember reading this on day 4 or 5 and thinking 130 days was going to be beyond difficult. And as I sit on day 120...it has been. For me I'm finding it's going to be difficult beyond 130 days. Whether through a fault of attitude, genetics, stronger than average addiction/dependence, or some other reason, I still think about smoking or how quitting continues to be hard many times throughout the day.

I am the exception though as most have managed to break free by now to a greater degree. That said, I just wanted to reinforce for those few like me that seem to suffer more/longer - it doesn't matter. The only way out continues to be through.

I didn't quit to feel better, I quit to BE better. Eventually I'll feel more comfortable with my new normal but until then I just know that smoking caused the changes that make going back to being a non-smoker feel like this. Time will change that. How much time? God only knows but I'm willing to wait and find out. 

JonesCarpeDiem

There are those who said they didn't feel free until after 6 months. As long as you stay willing, you will grow into your freedom.

What are you really missing? The ghost of something you used to do.

Have you found things to replace the dopamine release in your 120 days? 

Jono28
Member

Regarding dopamine...It's not something I've ever really felt other than perhaps while smoking. Exercise, food, breathing, even sex...none seem to make me feel what others describe as a dopamine release. Not sure why but it hasn't been a factor for me in helping as I move towards freedom.

SuzyQ411
Member

Wonderful attitude and great persistence you have Jono28‌...  "The only way out continues to be through."...

Excellent outloook... "I didn't quit to feel better, I quit to BE better."

When your breakthrough happens, we'll be here to celebrate with you!!

In the meantime, we remain here as support and encouragement for you, and the sharer of our own stories.

There's a lot of truth to the fact that each of us is different and each of our quits is therefore unique.

But one constant we have in common is the only way to quit is to not have one puff ever (NOPE), no matter what, (NMW).

Stay the course~ 

Suzy

194 days as a non-smoker ( 6 months and 12 days)

lucky4babs
Member

I hear you!  I’m on day 2.  It’s maddening... brutal.... I’m angry, anxious, out of sorts.  It’s like being in Alaska in winter

but the universe won’t let you wear a warm coat

i want people to really get

60% of my waking hours right now

is real suffering

angst

I hear YOU.

write down

in order of importance 

WHY

quitting will enhance your life

then 2 qualities you possess

that make you a Rockstar in this world

then

deep slow breaths 

2 minutes!

redpepper
Member

I could reas it again and again and again and again and again.

she says, thankfully

Peggy40
Member

I was a unexpected blessing to stumble upon this blog from you Dale. It has given me some insight and preparation as to what to possibly expect and plan for in the future. 
it is an insidious addiction and I realize I must preserve to beat it.

JonesCarpeDiem

Good for you. Stumble into self talk. Say, "I don't do that anymore" every time you think of smoking. The results will amaze you.

Rachy2283
Member

Thanks so much for this very informative post ...I read this a few days ago but did not thank you for writing it!! I went on to read no man's land which was a great read also.. keep writing and thank you so much!!

dsprague
Member

Thank you, this is a fantastic piece. Lots of great information.

Giulia
Member

(Just trying to see where this comment will present and how difficult it is to find current responses on posts on the new platform.  Seems like we have to wade through page by page to get to the last page where the most recent comment has been made.)

MarilynH
Member

Good Thursday morning Giulia 🖐

amycockerham
Member

My first quit day is tomorrow. I know it’s going to be extremely difficult, but i’m ready! Hoping it helps my tiredness and feeling like crap all the time. Tired of not being able to breathe. Love the blog and the motivation! Just what i need!!

Barbscloud
Member

Welcome to the Ex @amycockerham   Glad you found the Ex.  Have you been reading about nicotine addiction and created a quit plan?  It really can be helpful for a successful quit.  Along with the support of fellow quitters, I know it worked for me.

We're here for you, so just reach out anytime.

Congrats on your first day smoke free.  You can do this one day at a time.

Barb

Carenda
Member

Speak on it!  So true, following theses guidelines will lead you to success!!

Ready2021
Member

Definitely a good read I'm at the point I forgot I quit smoking so focused on the surgery I just had thanks for sharing

Giulia
Member

@Carenda   Well, wow, look who's here!  Just - thrilled to see your face!  Totally!

Grammy25
Member

Thank you so much for sharing this information it helps a lot 

ReallyReal
Member

Thank you.  Glad I read this today, 13 days quit.

Tina12312
Member

I quit Sept. 1, 22 and it is still hard but I am determined to never start again. I found this blog and it has been very helpful. Hope that the people who started it are still doing well.

Thank you!

lwest77
Member

Thank you so much

Prettypumpkin
Member

@JonesCarpeDiem Thank You, I'm at over 60 days quit now and it's been a battle but I'm determined to stay quit. I had a scare a week ago at the doctors office with my patient and out of nowhere I had the worst craving yet, scary thing is don't know what the trigger was,but I worked through it! Still quit!!! Thanks 

ernestinefouts2

Ok 130 days! Bet I’m gonna make it this time the longest I’ve ever went was 90 days this time I’m on day 80 I went for like 2 weeks not having much of an urge and out of the blue yesterday and today oh man I wanted to inhale a big cigy so bad! I keep rubbing the nicotine patch on my arm and believe it or not it is helping. Lol today better then yesterday I surely thought I was gonna need to chew on the patch to get through  it ( joking I would never do that) the hardest part is finding something else to do when I typically would smoke such as getting up early to smoke and have soda. Now I sleep later to avoid that. 1 day at a time. Now is there a patch to quit eating as much? Lol seems like the only thing that curves the smoking crave is food! 

Tina12312
Member

You're doing great, keep going. 😊 I'm at a year and a half in March and I rarely think about it anymore. You will feel so much better and save so much money. It's worth it.

About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.