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What To Expect In The First Four Months

JonesCarpeDiem
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You can choose to be anxious and fearful

to quit smoking but, it is not required.

cow.jpg

     Sure, you will have some rough days in first two to three weeks experiencing the physical withdrawal symptoms and beginning to unlearn the habit part of smoking. We all did.

      You will feel "out of it" like something is missing or not right.

      The memories of smoking are strong because they are connected to every emotion and life experience.

       Quitting is a process. After being on this and another site for over 10 years an average of 10 hours a day listening and watching and helping,  I see it as a definable process.

     You can begin to understand what is happening by living smoke free but, you must continue making the choice to not smoke for a period of time in order to unlearn the psychological connections and be successful.  As you live daily without smoking the unlearning process continues as you build new memories that don't include smoking.

     This is the secret of success. You must unlearn the hand to mouth and inhale motions that are connected to the memories and emotions experienced as a smoker.

     Enjoy the process, don't bemoan it. This is the only way to be free and not desire to be a smoker ever again.

     After about 130 days you will not be thinking of you as a smoker or of smoking as often.  Be willing to give yourself that amount of time without giving up on yourselves.

Accept your new path as a non smoker. The only way out is through.

Here Is The Timeline Of What You Can Expect

1st week toughest. (It feels so awkward to make the change initially)

2nd week is better (some are through the worst portion after 2 weeks)

3rd week is mo' better (most are through the worst withdrawal symptoms by the end of the third week)

4th week even better.

      By the beginning of the 5th week, you think you got it licked. BUT

The next three months are the test because you will get urges out of nowhere They can be strong they can last an hour or longer and be spread over 2-3 days, but these are usually far between.

Get up! Get busy. Use the tools that got you this far.

     They typically aren't stronger than anything you've already experienced. It's because they are so unexpected and can catch you off guard that makes them dangerous.

      You've smoked for a long time.

      Promise yourself 130 days from your last puff without giving in and you will rarely think of smoking.

and....laugh when you crave (chuckle in church)

(Please read the no mans land blog that follows which describes the feelings you might  experience at one point or another in those 3+ months after the first month quit)

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2011/05/24/no-mans-land-days-30-to130-appr...

and also, about the two sets of seasons building your new non smoking memories below.

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2013/12/05/the-two-sets-of...

177 Comments
barbara42
Member

speaking as a former smoker, this is the best blog that any one going through this could read, they just need to know what to expect, and you have given them this, from all of us, thank you my friend for caring so much !

Ex_Nancy
Member

Thanx for posting Dale, it's great to see this time-line...especially for those new to our site...The cow looks happy TOO...Ha !

Strudel
Member

Great blog Dale! Love the chuckle in church idea!

sspahn49
Member

I always like to re-read this and see where I fit on the time line. Also, that cow has a great dentist!!!

freedom5
Member

Thanks Dale. I am getting those crazy cravings but I know not one puff ever and I will be alright.

lorilincoln
Member

Dale, I really needed this today. It's been about 6 weeks. You were one of the first encouragers. I couldn't have gone this long without this site. Thank you.

sixfoot14
Member

Thanks so much for this post...it's just what I needed to read!!! I just started day 5 of my quit...so far all my friends are proud of me, but don't understand that I'm STRUGGLING!!!! People keep telling me since I made it through 24, 48, 72hours I should be good to go and 100% over smoking. But the fact is I'm not and because of that, I doubted my ability to stay quit, since everyone was telling me I should be over it by now.

130 days can seem like a long time, but when I think about how long I smoked...it's not long at all!!! Thank you for giving me the milestone of 130 days. I feel better in a way, and ok with the fact that I'm still struggling. I was addicted for a long time, so clearly it will take a long time to not have that STRONG desire to smoke. 

I don't know if any of that made sense, but the point was, thanks!!

N.O.P.E.!!!!!!

techkid
Member

Thanks for lovely insights on your blog . I am Just A day old quit, i pray i could happily write that all above 🙂 after 1 30 days. By now i have 2 more cups of tea with out smoke and thats how i am dealing my days. When at job i am mostly carving but i am sure it will pass with time.

Th easiest way out i have figured is not to think what you are going through the rest is easy.

hanahscloudy
Member

Great Blog, This is the first time line (blog) I have seen so far. I have been reading A LOT.

Before my quit I focused a lot on the first 24, 48, 72 hours Because I thought that's the night marish part??? Well it really hasn't been bad at all, compared to the FEAR I carried about what quitting smoking would be like.

Thanks, And now I finally know who DALE is...  lol.  People would refer to Dale and I'd look all over but no one was using that log in??/   🙂

graygoose2
Member

I just printed this out to put up on my refrigerator. Maybe I'll run it off several times and plaster it to the walls. Thanks. I needed this kind of "kick in the pants" to get myself on track and, hopefully, to stay there.

TracyB2
Member

you sure have a lot of wisdom when it comes to fighting cravings. I will tell ya you are so right about the 130 days though. my last quit I quit for six months then for two days in a row this really strong urge hit me then I got this I miss smoking feeling. dreams of buying cigarettes both nites.  finally I went behind my husband and kids backs to the mini store bought a pack of marlboro lights and a lighter and took a walk smoking. I sneak because I was ashamed at that time to tell them I gave in I did not want them to see me do it either after three days I got tired of sneaking and told. This time in 6 months I am not going to let it get the best of me. I am not going back no matter what

mojo8
Member

Dale you never end up surprising me, you are so well rounded and knowledgeble, even us quitters out of NML can appreciate this blog, as well as the newbies.  Thanks for always being here for all of us:D

krystal-beavers

THANKS this is what i needed to hear. I t has been 3 weeks and sometimes i can't help but think about smoking. Good to know there is nothing wrong with me... 

aquinnah
Member

Thank You Thank You Thank You !!! please keep it all coming !

Kim

tara10475
Member

Thanks so much for posting. This timeline is great. I'm bookmarking it for reference. 

andrea64
Member

Thank you for this Post..

It explains what I'm going through right now and know what is going to happen and know what to expect.. :-)))

pelican49
Member

Thanks so much for this. I really need to know what I might experience.

Denise

peacefulspirit06

This is pretty cool. Thanks.

sherrydenise
Member

Wow, thanks Dale, I never really understood the process of quitting and this is going to help me tremendously.  Think I am going to print this to look at for a daily reminder.

 

Thanks so much,

Sherry 🙂

makebettermstks

Love it. Wise man, Dale. Thanks for sharing.

rmcfadden88
Member

Just saw and read this for the first time! LMAO! What a smile! And I loved the chuckle in church part at the end! Hilarious! Thanks, Dale.

AnthonyAMorton

Just read post for the first time.Thanks for the time line.

glindagoodwitch

Thanks, Very useful information. I'm going on day 7. Very little cravings and my mindset is strong. I live in a peaceful non smoking environment with lots of support.  Looking forward to many, many more days, weeks, months, and years  with out ciggibutts.

PEACE!

kate8
Member
110 Days into this NML. Thank you for your blogs. They are a blessing Dale.
dmickow
Member

Thank you Dale!!!! I love it and will remember it!!!

nickmillerz
Member

Very useful. Thank you for sharing with everyone 😃

beautymom1
Member

Thanks for the blog. I also was told the first 72 hrs were the worst. Then I was recently told that it take up to 2 weeks for the nightmare to go away. Reading this blog has given me the knowledge of what to expect. Thank you for your contributions after being smoke-free for so long.

ladypegasus
Member

Havent started to quit yet....But.....This gives me the satasfaction of knowing for one im not alone and 2 it helps me to know that it isnt gonna be easy but i have to fight all that much harder to do this, I know i can win. Thanks

jackieb03
Member

Thanks Dale This does help!

maurac24
Member

Thanks Dale...this is really going to help me!! I will be re-reading this ALOT.

Maura

owlfeather
Member

Amen and Amen....

JonesCarpeDiem

Kevin,

Its funny how everyone thinks their quit is so different than everyone elses.

I have watched people succeed and fail on this and another site for 5 1/2 years

I have kept track of when they fell and when the hard places were and what their state of minds were.

I challenge you to keep track of the first 130 days of your quit and tell me how different your quit is from what I've written.

mystirtn
Member

I really enjoyed reading this thank you so much. I have said that Once a smoker always a smoker but you may be a reformed smoker.  I think (my thoughts mind you) that it is like alcoholism.  You can't go back and have just one.  I really hope to be a reformed smoker one of these days.  Thank you so much for sharing what it will be like.  

 

Laters

Colinda

lwilk
Member

2 days in,  and I will take your challenge of 130 days!!!!  thank you for the warning for the strong cravings, right now I am able to side skip them, they are short and distraction therapy works quite well... 

treehugs
Member

I LOL'd at the timeline. So accurate. lol

tia8
Member

I hope you are right.  I am on day 3 and I am not having fun yet :). This really is not easy and today seems harder than yesterday.  I know I really really want to quit so I am hoping it gets better soon.

thebears8171
Member

Day 100 Dale. Thanks!!!

Roby2
Member

hello Dale,thanks, the cow!!!!!that's what i'll think of when those cravings start,but absolutely also because won't want to go to the dentist often because of all the thingimigies that those cigarrettes cause!actually the cow smiling wide showing teeth even better!and the chuckles......in that i will indeed when i picture your brilliant cow!thank you!roberta

karen-lane
Member

thank you, so no mans land is up to 130 days,  and having cravings coming out of the blue,

jjones4
Member

thanks so much for sharing this.

cathy90
Member

Dale, I like going back to read older posts.  I am very impressed at the time you dedicate to help others, you are a good person.  Thanks for the break down, it's good to know what to expect. People who don't smoke or people who haven't quit seem to think if you get through a week or 2 you made it. End of story. But the reality is it's just the beginning, it looks like a good 130 days. I'm on day 18, 112 days to go! My New Year's resolution will be to make it to 130!  Baby steps, my goal now is to make it to 3 weeks, I was told it starts getting easier, which will be on New Year's Day! I'll figure it out later.  In the meantime, stick around, I'm going to need some good advice and support. TY Cathy

mygirls-6-5-17

Just read this for the first time! I know that this is true because I quit for 9 months and thought I was homefree and then started again. We are all vulnerable and I think it is the same as alcoholism, they say it's the first drink that gets you drunk, so don't drink it.  The same with smoking-if I don't pick it up I won't smoke. Period!

Lisa308
Member

Great posting.  Thanks it really helped me 🙂

jycraw
Member

Thanks for the timeline...I have set my quit date for Feb. 21, 2013....again. 

I have tried several times to quit.  I learned a very valuable lesson the last time- my emotions are "stronger" and I allowed my emotions to rule me.  I allowed anger to run like a savage beast through my mind until I finally got to the point that I needed to either punch something - OR smoke a cigarette...so I went back to smoking.

Since then, I have come to understand our emotions are an "aide" to get us through life, and a necessity that roots us to our surroundings.  In this endevour, I will recognize the emotion, I will either validate or dismiss its importance, and I will remove myself if the emotion begins to alter my decisions.....sounds like a nice plan...let's hope it works. 

spbesh
Member

Thank you so much for the info. I quit before but always went back after a month or two. This time I slipped up but not permanently. I'm back at it again. I will succeed!

grandmashell
Member

Thank u for the good information.  4 weeks for me and my hubby today, we need to keep our gaurd up I really want this to work! 

Shelley

kim59
Member

Interesting, Dale.  I quit once before for 17 years and then started back a little over a year ago.  Just this morning, I told a dear friend of mine, "it took me 4 months before I really felt like a non-smoker" before." I'm sure that will be true this time.  Thanks for the encouragement....it's really appreciated.

grandmashell
Member

Hey thanks for this I am going back to your page you have the best stuff!!!

Shelley d40 something

sammie3
Member

thank you dale this has been very helful wish me luck

wishingstar
Member

thank you, good to know info

About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.