We are not here to beat you up BUT, WE ARE HERE TO SHAKE YOU UP!

[JonesCarpeDiem]

People who have failed over and over need to change their thinking. If you see a comment from an elder it is not meant to antagonize but to simplify.

We are also here for those who have never lost a quit or never tried to quit so please, keep that in mind. They have a right to not fail the first time nor be dragged down by everyone's excuses.

What we say is not meant to be harsh. We are here to help people quit smoking.
We know we can't help the arrogant ones. Some of them may get so angry they will keep their quit just to spite us. That's a win for us and them.

You see, whether you've quit 200 times or one time, everyone must get to the place of acceptance of not smoking to succeed. You can't be comfortably quit long term until you realize this.

We are simply trying to help you find it sooner.

[freeneasy]

Well said! I 2nd that.

[froguelady]

🙂

[elvan]

And we appreciate that.

[Eric_L.]

😄

[YoungAtHeart]

Amen! 

Everyone also needs to keep in mind that quitting smoking can make folks CRANKY!

just sayin'

Nancy

[constanceclum]

I do not think there is a one size fits all to helping someone quit smoking. However, Thank God, there are so many elders each with their own style that any newbie should find someone that they will respond to. There is no need for anyone to be viscous to anyone else. Maybe it should be mentioned in the "About EX" page so some newbies will "get" that this is how this group works and "take what you need and leave the rest"

[Giulia]

Yup.

[Barbara145]

I think we can also help the arrogant ones.  People who come here to quit smoking can be pretty crazy.  I know because I was one of them 🙂

[TerrieQuit]

I'm just here to quit smoking! With this EXsite and the people on here, I am doing that! One day at a time!

Thank you so much!

Terrie  39  DOF

[MarilynH]

Thank you Dale ●●●●●●

[bonnie-12-28-14]

What you do is priceless.  Just keep going.  

Thank you!

[Strudel]

2 thumbs up!

[Sootie]

Here is a "Dale-ism" posted on my third day on this site.......

I never forgot it. Without tough love or warm fuzzies......it pretty much sums up slipping and relapsing without judgement or blame (and with some humor!)

"If you are quitting smoking.....and still smoking.......YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG!

Amen.

[Newfound_Joy]

Yes, I wish I could have quit smoking sooner rather than later, and yes, I have had some tough love on this site.  Everything that was said to me or that I read, was to get me to where I am now.  And I will NEVER go back.

Joy

1309 DOF

[Mrs.Rum]

Well said.  It's not everyone's cup of tea, but everyone is welcome to the table.