WHAT JUST HAPPENED?

[mare5]

I'm on day 5 of not smoking. I feel great - no anger. Out of seemingly nowhere, I snapped at my 14 year old son. I feel sooo horrible about it.I cant go back in time, I apologized, he left for school still angry. I've been so patient, since he seems angry alot & wants to argue alot.  Not a good start for our morning.The tears flow as I type.

[JonesCarpeDiem]

so sorry.

things happen occasionally when we quit that were often kept under wraps.

would you have snapped at him if you were still smoking?

no. you would have gone off and smoked.

I think you were not mad at him but at the fact you couldn't slink off and cover your feelings.

[cocochase]

living with a 14 year old is trying under the best of circumstances! focus on this positive wonderful thing you are doing by quitting smoking - it is a great gift to your 14 year old as well as to you and all your family. I am one day behind you so you are an inspiration to me.

[laney4]

I'm on the same page as JC.  You might have had the same argument as a smoker but rather than shed tears as you type, you would be outside smoking and filling your lungs with crap and truly making a bad situation worse.  Isn't it wonderful to express ourselves and to have emotions again?  These are moments we should embrace, not question.  And... your son is angry now but it will pass and you can talk to him about it when he gets home from school and hug and kiss him without smelling like an ashtray and tell him you love him, and be proud of yourself at the same time for not smoking.

[edith2]

Awwww, don't feel bad.  I am amazed at the love our kids have for us and how deep it goes.  I have had so much guilt from being a working mom and then putting the kids through divorce when they were so young.  I remember when I was little, my Dad got mad at me and smacked me.  I went straight to bed and was sobbing.  He came in and gave me a big hug and told me he was sorry.  I will never forget that.  It made me realize that he is human too.

[jan__tx]

well all I can say is living w/a 14 yr old boy is a bitch - but you can stop smoking....I loved my son @ 14 but he was something else at that time - it's like who in the hell is that person that just walked out the door..then in the next breath he is the angel on earth..hang in there with parenting and quitting you will make it:)

[fiddler2]

I tried to avoid my family as much as I could the first few days. I hid in the bedroom a lot...lol. I was a bear at times. My son dreaded seeing me emerge from my cave...grrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Id bitch about too many lights on,etc.

But were cool now,I explained and he understood that the Mad Dad was from addiction withdrawl. Just to to him and let it be a lesson to him on how hard it can be to quit smoking and the changes withdrawls can make.

May be a great opportunity to plant the seed so he never starts

Barry

[fiddler2]

to to...lol, umm,that should have read : just talk to him

I still aint right..lol

[anacondahead]

Yes, snapping can also be a part of this stupid addiction but your gift to him of quitting is HUGE.

Fiddler has offered some really sound advice and I couldn't have said it better. I am sorry that happened to you today but don't be too hard on yourself. The Nicotine Monster has made us all do some really dumb things.

Best wishes to you.