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The Things That We Have No Control Of And The Things We Do

JonesCarpeDiem
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I was watching the pregame show for the World Cup before the last US game. The US coach was talking about what they did wrong in the previous games and what they were going to do differently with the Belgian team.

As we all know, it didn't work out the way he thought and we hoped.

Why? Because you can't predict what your opponent is going to do. Another player can slide in behind yours and take out his legs and your star player is sidelined for the game and perhaps the rest of the games.

When you quit smoking, there is no other team, no opponent, NO VARIABLES.

What's between your ears is what controls the outcome.

Nothing can make you smoke. There's no one to blame if you choose to smoke except yourself.

What causes people to fail is what they make up in their own heads.

This is why we say you can make it (your quit) whatever you want it to be.

In the quitting process it's what you focus on that will determine your outcome, nothing else.

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.