The Story Of A Smoker In Denial-Continued

[JonesCarpeDiem]

my friend who quit smoking 5 years ago and started back a month or so back?

the person that provided her the cigarettes and company to win her back as a smoking buddy is having her legs amputated this week. So, the hip surgery the doctors would not perform because my friends friend is a smoker? Well it doesn't much matter because she won't be able to walk with no legs.

it seems those sores on her feet would just never heal because they never got enough oxygen.i explained to my friend that smoking robs the blood of oxygen and replaces it with carbon monoxide.

i wish i would have known this and considered quitting when i severed my right foot and was in a wheelchair and crutches for three full years because, it never did heal right.

in any case

i warned her that if her friend comes back home and continues smoking, the wounds from the amputation will never heal from the inside out like they should, and she can expect her friend to continue to lose her extremities one piece at a time.

her friend has not been able to smoke for a week because she's been in the hospital with pneumonia.

the smart choice would be to never smoke again.

Do you know anyone who is approaching this state and totally oblivious as to what may have caused it? You would do well to let them know what happens next. Don't be bashful if you care about them.

[laurah]

You are right on about the slow healing process for smokers.  If she really wants to help her friend, she will give it a try.  Although if she is her friends sole caregiver when she gets home, then I think it will be really tough.  I also think that if  it's gonna work she needs to talk to her friend before she leaves the hospital about her home being a smoke free environment and that it's really best for the both of them to do it together.  Besides her friend is already over the worst part (in my opinion.)  However, it's sooooooo hard, especialy when you've just reunited with your long lost love of cigarettes and your best smoking buddy is right there.  That's a toughie.  I will hope for the best for the both of them!

[JonesCarpeDiem]

i told my friend to ask her friend how she was doing not smoking

then to find out when the amputation was being done and when they anticipated

her coming home

and finally, to have a heart to heart before her friend ever came home and ask her if she was finished with smoking or going to remain in denial as to why she lost her legs and continue on her path of self destruction.

[aztec]

Dear G-d help this woman to be free  and to heal well and find a new life ahead with healthy things in it . Amen

[glindagoodwitch]

AMEN! I just said a prayer for her. That is very kind of you Dale to be concerned for your friends well being.

[Newfound_Joy]

Such an sad, sad story, Dale.  Prayers up for both women.  What struck me is the insanity of this addiction and the INCREDIBLE DENIAL that we were all in!!

I count my blessings every day.

[Ex_Nancy]

It sounds like she doesn't want to live....very sad to give into an addiction and let it kill you.

[summer-07-06-15]

My father has stomach cancer was operated on it. Only has 30% of his stomach left, at the time I was the time I was taking care of him and I didn't quit smoking but I didn't smoke in the house. He however had quit but now he has gone back to smoking and drinking I'm sorry to say I did'nt back in his quit during his time.  I don't dare say to him to quit he and I don't have the best of relaships and did not part on best terms. I wish your friend the best some times we go with the best intetions and end up with egg in our faces. Hope that whatever happens that you can help your friend get thru it.