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The First Day.

acjudd830
Member
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I am 29 years old. My goal is to have a substantial amount of time being nicotine free before my 30th birthday, later on this year.

When I started smoking cigarettes at age 18, I did not think I would be labelled the smoker. I have had too many people tell me I am too pretty to smoke. But I loved it. I did not want to quit. Cigarettes was replaced by a vape and I would be on it constantly... in the middle of the night, right when I wake up, before a workout, after a workout, in the bathroom at work, in the car, on the couch watching tv. NON STOP. Finally, after meeting my current boyfriend, I knew I needed to stop. At first, he did not mind the vaping. Then slowly, he opened up about how he wishes I stopped. Finally, as we both started new workouts regimes together and eating more healthy, I feel finally ready to stop. 

The biggest factor is my age. I do not want to be 30 years old and still smoking. I do not want to be a 40 year old still smoking, 50.. 60.. and so on. The time is now. I also want to eventually marry my boyfriend and have children with him. I do not want the pressure to quit smoking only when I'm pregnant. I do not want to be smoking a vape and hiding it around my child. The time is now.. in order to achieve my goals and dreams, I need to quit NOW.

It's been a long time coming. My mother had heart problems at age 40 and my dad got diabetes at the age of 45. There is a history of cancer and tumors in my family. I do not want to have premature health problems because I could not quit vaping. The time is NOW. I control my health with good food, exercising, and NO SMOKING.

I know it's going to be hard. I've only really tried to stop smoking about 1.5 years ago, when I first met my current boyfriend and I wanted to make a good impression on him. I lasted 8 days without a cigarette or vape. 8 days. That is the longest I've gone smoke free in 11 years. 8 days. So that is where I will start. One day at a time. I want to hit a new milestone of 9 days smoke free. Then 10.. 11.. 12 until eventually I will turn 30 and be months without vaping.

I can do this. I have gum, sunflower seeds, lollipops.. I have the stairs at work to work it out. I run a mile on my lunch breaks during work days. I believe in myself. I can do it. I have to do it. I need to do it for my future self. For my goals. For my dreams. To be and stay healthy. I can text my boyfriend if I'm struggling. I can text my parents. I can text my best friend. I can text my cousins. I have so many people who love me and want me to be healthy. They want to help me quit. They've been wanting me to quit. But it is all up to me. My mental state. My eagerness to want to change. My actions to choose to do something else besides smoking.

Again, I know it's going to be hard. I may cry. I may be irritable. But it will past. I want to do this. I have the support. It is time. It is time. It is time. I WILL STOP AND I CAN DO IT. I love myself and I want to commit to being vape, cigarette, nicotine free. The time is now and my future awaits. 

❤️ 

18 Comments
Treehugger85
Member

You're right it is up to you. I'm in my 30's but been married for 10 yrs.  Just like a marriage, quitting smoking can be hard and your mind can play games on you, but you must work at it EVERYDAY! You must be prepared for any situation TO NOT SMOKE!

Even if that means your boyfriend breaks up with you, you have to be prepared to deal with feelings and NOT SMOKE!

I've been married long enough that I doubt we will, ever, get divorced but if it happens I know cravings will come. Emotions are my weakness.

Stay close here, read, post. I think I post 3 times a day! If that makes you feel better do it.  Boyfriends come and go but your quit is yours!

I'm now on day 5!

acjudd830
Member

Thank you for the comment. I definitely feel strong this time around to quit. I know you can't do it for other people, but I am very confident with my current boyfriend that we can get through this together. We have talks about our future together, marriage, children. And a big motivating factor for me is that I don't want to be a smoking mother. And we realize we both have things we need to work on. We support each other to make more healthy choices. He is on week 4 of no alcohol after work days, something he has never done in his working life. And I finally feel ready to quit smoking. I know this is my smoking journey, but I know I can't do this on my own. I need the support of my boyfriend, parents, family, friends. I've been texting so many people non stop today. But I also went on a run, I ate sunflower seeds, I chewed gum, I have lollipops. I have full faith that this time around I can stop and it is up to me to choose to live a happier and healthier life. I definitely look forward to being on this website and BecomingAnEX. Thanks for the support

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

Your GREAT attitude should take you far.  Quitting at your young age should allow your body time to heal from any damage already done. Exercise is one of the best things you can do when you quit; it reduces your stress levels, burns the calories from any junk food cravings you might indulge and gives you some dopamine that you will miss from smoking.  ALL good!

You will need to substitute “vape” or “device” as you do the reading I will recommend. Research suggests nicotine may be as addictive as heroin and cocaine. Because vaping is available to you most anywhere, anytime, I believe it might be more difficult from which to break free than regular tobacco products - but it CAN be done!  Here is a blog written by one of our success stories that you might find informative: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/AnnetteMM/blog/2019/09/08/how-to-quit-juul-or-vaping-in-ge.... If you would like to use a quit aid and would like information on the various ones, let me know.

I recommend that you educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind To that end, I suggest Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” . which can be found online or at your local library.  Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be

 

The idea is to change up your routines so the vaping associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from where you vaped. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first puff with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to vape so the view is different. Take a different route when you are out and about so you aren't driving by your vaping supply shop.


You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all),, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that vaping thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of vape if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...


The conversation in your head in response to the "I want to vape" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

 

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

acjudd830
Member

Thank you for the comment Nancy. This is very encouraging and I appreciate the links. I definitely plan on being this website often and cannot wait to BecomeAnEX.

AMReed
Member

I'm just 6 months past turning 30, so I know how you feel. I sometimes feel like if I don't quit now, I might never do it. A new decade of life seems like a good time to make that change. You've got this! I'll be starting my quit on Monday, so I'll be right there with you!

sweetplt
Member

Hi and Welcome to Ex’s acjudd830 

I am so happy you found our site...and you are a very smart 29 year old...glad you are taking the plunge and quitting...you have a plan...remember we are here for you...keep close to the support site and we will help ... You can do this... I feel your determination in your post...which will help you greatly...Colleen 815 DOF 

acjudd830
Member

Exactly! Turning 30 is my key motivation to quit. I have a lot of great plans for being thirty and all of them includes stopping smoking. I know it's going to be hard, but it will be worth it. I'm proud you will start your quit date on Monday. I believe you can do it too! We got this!!

acjudd830
Member

Thank you so much Colleen! I definitely feel determined. And I have to remember, the times that feel hard, I must remember to keep going and remember my why's. I believe I can quit!

MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the community you've made the best decision that you'll ever make in your lifetime and it's definetly the best gift that any of us will ever give ourselves which is the GIFT OF LIFE, You can and will succeed in living a life of Freedom and you're going to do one precious Smokefree Day at a time or hour minute or even a second at time and we're all here to help you in any way we can and we are rooting you on You've got this deep breaths and believe in yourself because we believe in you......

acjudd830
Member

Thank you so much!!!!!

elvan
Member

Welcome to EX, you certainly have a great attitude, l smiled as l read your blog. Please pay attention to all that YoungAtHeart has shared with you. Education about this addiction is vital as is the support of people who know EXACTLY what quitting is like. Your commitment & attitude will be very important to your recovery. I came here every morning & every evening when l first quit over 7 years ago. I read blogs, l commented, l paid attention to what was working for others. When advice was offered, l took it. I used the mantra NOPE, Not One Puff Ever & l said it over & over again. I had to remind myself more than once that quitting is not an event, it is a one day at a time journey. You do not have to take it alone, we all want you to succeed. I think you are well on your way!

Ellen

Xraysheila
Member

I am coming to the end of day 2 of no smoking. I am using patches this time. I want to be smoke free before my 60th birthday this summer. Girl, we can DO THIS!!

Barbscloud
Member

Welcome to the Ex.  You've already gotten great advice.  I glad you decided to quit while you're so young.  Hopefully you'll avoid many of the health problems us long term smokers have.

Stay close and reach out anytime you need support.

Barb

acjudd830
Member

Thank you so much!!!

acjudd830
Member

Yes WE CAN DO THIS!!

acjudd830
Member

Thank you!!

indingrl
Member

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CrazyQuitter
Member

Loving this positive vibe in your post! I am so glad you are trying to quit at your age! I was in my mid 20s when I tried to quit smoking and only about 8 years ago I was only able to kick the habbit for good. I am 36 years old now. I can relate to your story. May I ask when your Birthday is? quitting before your 30th is a great indicator for a great quit date!

You sound like a level headed individual. I believe you can do this for sure! Make sure you got your coping skills in place and make sure you blog about your quit journey as much as possible! We are all here for you!