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Some will make it~Some won't

Mandolinrain
Member
8 15 218

QUITTING SMOKING

A decision you are thinking about or are in the process of doing....or already have....Some will make it and some won't and as cold as that may sound, it's the truth.

WHY DO YOU SUPPOSE SOME WILL MAKE IT?

I think they got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was one f them. I was sick of the smell it left behind me, and on me....The cropping up of health issues....the money I was throwing away weekly, monthly- yearly....to do what? Make me unhealthy and stinky??? Yes I was sick and tired of it all. I was sick of being a prisoner of Nicotine.

THEN THERE ARE THOSE WHO MAKE IT

I finally did that as well. Not overnight. It did not happen without a plan. It did not come with green eggs and ham....( sorry, me brain needed to add a touch of humor there)......It came because I made a decision to go through whatever I must, uncomfortable situations, bad feelings....I had to RESOLVE to get it done. No more excuses, whining. Just make a CHOICE one day at a time, that I will not smoke today.

I decided to read about how my brain turns on and off the receptors when I smoked vs not smoking and how it had been playing cat and mouse with me for YEARS. Once I understood this concept, for me, it was like a superpower of understanding. My AH-HA moment, if you will.The Elders here planted so much info into my brain and now it was all coming together. The lesson plan they gave me made sense. It was time.

THE SUPER POWER IS FOR EVERYONE

You knew enough to put a flame at the end of your cigarette to make it burn and engage in 'smoking' so why not use use your brain to learn about this addiction once and for all and stop this crazy war going on inside of you. Or....Don't.

I PUT IF OFF A VERY LONG TIME

I used excuses I hear on this site over and over again. I know them all and then some. I feared I would get fat, lose friends, lose smoking buddies, never be able to relax, never be able to make decisions, I'm sick, I lost a loved one, I'm depressed, I'm sad, I really angry...I will, I won't I will I won't......Damn if I do Damn if I don't...No one cares, why should I. Poor me. I THOUGHT I resented my quit..but I had it backwards......

MY QUIT RESENTED ME

SO what's YOUR excuse? You do know the moment you decide to quit smoking it will never leave you? Nope, never. And FYI..... you probably WILL GAIN WEIGHT., lose some smoking buddies, not be able to smoke in stressful times...but what are you really missing? Think about it. Most of your friends that smoke really want to quit also. Don't you ever recall looking at a group of non smokers, wishing you were them? I know they were never wishing they were smokers, like I was. Quitting smoking ruins the habit from the first time you begin a quit. Smoking will never be the same again for you, and you know that to be turn or you would, not be here.

WEIGHT GAIN

Of course I gained weight. 10 lbs maybe more or less? I know theres a variety of thoughts on this subject. I can only share MY experience with you. I have always taken good care of myself. I once was a gym rat back in the day and taught aerobics on the side. I used to be a runner. I am no longer into the gym scene. I work out at home and I walk now and no running. I enjoy a whole food diet most day and intermittent fasting most days.  I have several sweet teeth, lol, and if I want something I do not deprive myself, but I have learned to recognize true hunger from emotional eating. Its all about balance for me.. Always has been.

I know when my body needs to rest and when it needs to move. I make it a priority to listen to it. When I quit smoking I decided I would need to listen even clearer to my body's food requirements. This was where the fasting began for me and helped me to stay in tune.  I drink a lot of water, always have. The best way I taught myself to recognize hunger vs emotional eating was with water. I start each day with water and end each day with water. If I am hungry, I drink water, wait 20 minutes and if I am still, hungry, I eat. Water is fuel. You would not put crap in the fuel tank of your car and expect it to run great, so why would I think less of my own body? You get out of it what you put in to it. My opinion.

Early in my quit I journaled my food and exercise. It helps me when I have a visual of whats going on.

Okay, thats my thoughts for the day. I'm headed out to walk Nico.

This is as good of a day as any to quit.

Missy 1689 DOF

PS: Thank you to ALL of the wonderful Elders who have taught me I am worth my quit and for sticking around to remind me /teach me and others, we can all do this together, One day at a time. Thank you to EX Community.

Together we are One!

 

The above reflects my opinion on quitting smoking. It may or may not apply to you. Take what you need and leave the rest. Someone always shows up for leftovers.

15 Comments
JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Your blog is a reflection of some of my thoughts that I have been having lately but not the EXact words.  Everybody is not going to quit, I had to learn to accept that, even if it was your quit buddy.  Some will and some won't. We can only help.  Even if we would like to we cannot quit for anyone.  It is up to each individual whether to choose to be free on not.  This thought keeps coming back to me, it is like planting a seed some will sprout some won't.  Some get thrown on rocks and cannot take root.  Some get washed or blown away BUT the ones that are planted on good soil take root, sprout grow and are able to produce much fruit. No matter what NOPE.  Keep spreading the word, Missy.  Good Job. Never give up never give in.  Hang tough Never quit on quitting. 

Sandy-9-17-17
Member

I feel the way JACKIE1-25-15‌ does,  You just wrote what I could not put into words!  Great post Missy!  Oh, and I miss you too, Mandolinrain

YoungAtHeart
Member

This is a KEEPER!

Applause!!!

MarilynH
Member

This is wonderful heartfelt thought provoking blog post that I wish had a helpful button because I'd be tapping on it right now but I'll have to settle for the like button instead, thanks Missy you've got a powerful way with words XO .....

Mike.n.Atlanta

Good blog & just think Missy...of every 100 people who begin a quit, only 6 will remain so for a year. Only 6. That's how strong this addiction is.

Mn@.JPG

Daniela2016
Member

Wow, thank you for taking the time to share your journey, your reflections, your advice, with us, that was a lot Missy~!

And seeing how you are so much in tune with your body, and learned to make the distinction between your physical and emotional needs, I even wonder , and I am surprised you've been a smoker, ever.

But since you were, we are enjoying the benefits of your support, friendships, dear presence here with us.  You are one of my elders, and for that I am thankful!

jonimarie
Member

Love this thank you. My quit day is fast approaching April 22nd. I pray I can be a lady through this and have been reading and preparing. It definitely is tired of being sick and tired

Mandolinrain
Member

 I'm so glad your jonimarie   with us now and learning about this addiction. The more you educate yourself I feel, the easier the transition will be when you quit on the 22nd. We are all here for you.

elvan
Member

Mandolinrain‌ This is a great blog, you are so right, some will make it and some won't.  How sad that we take it so hard when someone doesn't make it, like it's something we missed.  This is beautifully written.

Love,

Ellen

Strudel
Member

What a wonderful blog Missy - thank you!  

AnnetteMM
Member

Always worthwhile to revisit our own journeys and share with everyone who knows you and with those just joining. We all have our own stories to tell! Thanks so much for sharing yours.  I think you, like me, kind of take it as a challenge when they say only 6% make it to a year, and 2% to two years.

SimplySheri
Member

Truly lovely, Missy.  Just lovely.  Nicely done

lewald
Member

Very nice!

TW517
Member

The other day, I was looking at a chart here on EX that shows peoples point totals and noticed several names who hadn't been around in months.  Broke my heart at how many of them I used to consider my quitting partners .

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

I know how you feel.  I continue to pray that they find a way back. https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/poetry-lovers/blog/2016/07/25/where-are-you?sr=search&sear...‌ I use this to send.  I get a response every now and then someone comes back.  I have come to realize we can not carry that weight in our hearts.  It can really hurt when you become so close even virtually.

About the Author
Smoking is not an option for me. I no longer have a wishbone to quit smoking...I developed a backbone and I quit. When you're sick and tired of being sick and tired, you will quit smoking too.