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doxiemama · ‎01-25-2015

Quit date is approaching quickly, 11 days. (Wish I was counting up, not down) but 1 step at a time right? Anyway my own MOM has doubted me! She said "Debbi, who are you kidding, you will never quit!" Now I'm freaking out, I already question myself about being able to do this, after knowing no other way in life, but to smoke. This statement of my moms should be fuel for me to quit! Instead it's making me question myself more, and more. I was so excited for this, now I feel pressure.. Ughhhhhh need help getting back on the right track. Thanks for being here, and so sorry to whine

aztec · ‎01-25-2015

We all go through stages in our quits.

In the beginning when we start to commit to quitting, it can be difficult especially when others doubt us, Take it as a challenge. we have smoked for so long that people around us will either encourage us or challenge us.

I know you don't want to suffer an agonizing death suffocating.

or keep breathing the 4k chemicals in cigarettes.

If you have kids or pets they are breathing that smoke too.

I hope you start pushing them away,

and when you get to your last one. YOu should have somemore resolve.

go on my page and look for the 6' ds and takes alittle time there.

go to whyquit.com and read or listen to Joel spitzers pod casts. there are over 60 of them. listen to one a day.

put alot of time into researching the amiercna cancer society, lung usa, american heart institufe. put smoking cessation into your search engine on your computer and start learning,

find a good class, check out your local hospital to see if there is a smoking cessation class, call 1-800 quit now, I think they are nation wide, and you can get a mentor to talk to.

start putting alot of tim eon here,

read allen cars book.

do the program on this site too.

there is alot of help out there for smokers.

I hope you don't balk on your quit date.

the sooner you start the better.

warm regards

aztec

quit date 5-5-09

candu2 · ‎01-25-2015

We have to learn to "tune out" the doubters...I know, easier said than done.

Picture yourself tuning into another radio station...like this site, where there are lots of people who have quit and know you can too.

Best to you and keep us posted!

49 days 1 hour 47 min

JonesCarpeDiem · ‎01-25-2015

I don't know if your mom is or was a smoker. She's basing on what she has seen of your attenpts with no real knowledge of what it takes to quit and no support.

You are in a completely different place with a support system.

Yes, not smoking is a huge change from smoking but it is only a change. Life is about change.

jdrabbit01 · ‎01-25-2015

I can relate. My mom would say the same thing. I didn't tell my family yet and I am 1 week into my quit. Just remember, you are doing this for you. Use ths time to read all you can. It really does help. This site is a fantastic support system if you feel you arent getting the support you need IRL, come on here and chat away.

hampton · ‎01-25-2015

Well I say "The hell with you" WATCH and learn!!!! Educate yourself,it's the best thing I have ever done for myself. This site will get you started in the right direction. This site works,it's a miracle happening right now. Read the blog's,were all real people going through the same thing,just @ different times and under different circumstances. You can do it,We all can. Support is here. Loads of it. Reward yourself.I swear this gives me the kick I need and we deserve it!!!! I'm proud of you.Someone said on here awhile back,that her/his friend handed a lit cig for her/him to hold!!! get ready,people can really show their true color's. Doesn't mean we have to put up with it. keep going forward. Have some fun.:)

hampton · ‎01-25-2015

Correction,I meant for you to say:" The hell with you" Not me saying the hell with you!!! jeepers,i'll shut my mouth now.lol

djmurray · ‎01-25-2015

Deborah, I love you!! And Doxie -- you are exactly where you belong. This is a community to which YOU now belong -- and we have your back. All you have to do is spend the time preparing for your quit day reading and learning -- everyone here knows exactly how you feel, has felt it him or herself, and has moved through to whatever stage of quitting they're at right now. You will be there, too. And all of those who doubt you will be left in the dust with a look of amazement on their faces!

elvan · ‎01-25-2015

Doxie, you can do this, you do not have to listen to anyone who says that you can't, even if it happens to be your mother. This site and the support you will get here and ARE getting here is incomprehensible to people who have not experienced it. I could never have made it through the past year without the people on this site and the support I have gotten every step of the way. Seriously, if I can do this after 47 years of smoking and the year I have had...ANYONE can do it. Nicotine has no power over you that you do not give it.

doxiemama · ‎01-25-2015

Love all your support, thanks for all the great advice, and laughs xoxo Debbi

littlebear3 · ‎01-26-2015

I don't know your mom's regular mode of operation, but is it possible she said that so you COULD prove her wrong? Just a thought. Either way, just know, you definitely can do this. It's completely ridiculous for someone to think they can't. It's a matter of determination and mindset. With the right tools and the right support - both of which you can get on this site and other helpful sites, you got this - no problem!

littlebear3 · ‎01-26-2015

I don't know your mom's regular mode of operation, but is it possible she said that so you COULD prove her wrong? Just a thought. Either way, just know, you definitely can do this. It's completely ridiculous for someone to think they can't. It's a matter of determination and mindset. With the right tools and the right support - both of which you can get on this site and other helpful sites, you got this - no problem!

Diane145 · ‎01-28-2015

I never had the urge to smoke in the morning during the last several years because I'm always busy getting out the door.

Many people use a E-Cig or a Vape to get them going. Perhaps that would help you if you can't give up that morning one. Many on this exchange say it's a crutch and worse than cigs, but I didn't find it to be.

I say, no matter how you do it, even with NRT such as the patch, the first 3 - 4 days are not going to be easy. At least they weren't for me. I wish you the best of luck and recommend that you stay away from anyone who discounts your courage to give it up and those who smoke. Well, if you don't stay away, just change the subject to something positive like that new dress or pair of shoes you're going to buy.

Me, I am so crazy, I booked a cruise for April 2016 and will be making payments until the date approached. You deserve rewards, so reward yourself ... of course without a cig.

I wish you good fortune and good luck. You CAN do this but no matter what, you have to WANT to.

Keep me posted on your success!!

Mike.n.Atlanta · ‎01-28-2015

Do it for you Debbi. You can't do this for anyone else. It's an entirely selfish process.

Keep on keepin on,

M n @