I think this site actually makes it harder for me to quit. Obviously not all the wonderful support I'm getting from complete strangers (thank you all so much), but reading about how hard it is and if you just have one cigarette "it's okay, don't beat yourself up" is giving me an urge to smoke. I need to remember that I feel like an asshole when I smoke. Smokers are assholes. I do not want to look like one of these ladies: http://www.moviecitynews.com/columnists/pratt/images/2003/something_about_mary_2.jpg However, I have been a smoker for 10 years and vanity hasn't been motivation enough. I'm waiting for those awesome chest pains to start. I know that sounds sarcastic, but I'm serious. I don't know if they're a good sign or not, but I figure it's my lungs getting used to all the fresh air... I need more physical results, besides eating so much candy my stomach hurts. I should go to the dentist.
NO ONE should be writing that if you have one cigarette, it's "okay".....NOT if you want to quit !!! Not even ONE smoke is "OK" !!! We DO tell people not to beat themselves up...cuz we have a tendency to be so hard on ourselves.....just quit...PERIOD !!!!!!! Make a decision, and stick to it !!!! DONE !!!! Best to ya !!!!
I don't recall EVER telling anyone here or anywhere else that one cigarette is okay and to go ahead and smoke. That is definitely NOT the case where I am concerned. Hell, one puff is NEVER ok in my books.
Tabatha, dont think like that!!!!!! a cig will do nothing but awake you addiction!!!! i am pushing 180 days and i would not smokefor any reason 1minute,1 hour ,1day,1month invested is too valuable to waste!!!! i will be here if you need me love and prayers jim the carpenter
Not One Puff Ever. I thank this site for being frank and calling me out when needed and supporting me when needed. I've never had someone say it's ok to have a smoke. I'm approaching my six months on Friday, and could not have made it without this site and my amazing friends through it. If someone sends you that message - block them. You do not need the negativity. The support is here. You can do this. I smoked for 29 years and am a very grateful and proud EX.
It's hard to quit but it is WAY easier to stay quit. After about 8 months of not having one puff ever, it became clear to me I could do this. This site will help you if you help yourself. Take what you want and leave the rest.... Stay tuned.
Never one more puff, that is my motto, if I even just had one puff, I could almost guarantee I would be back to a pack a day in no time. You have to want it and this site will help you stay accountable. Get the counter clock, whenever I get to a place where I think I could even think I could have one or want one, I look at my counter and think not only do I not want to go through that hell first week, but I do not want to fail and have to re-set my counter. You can do this!!
I don't know how far you are into your quit, but I can relate to how you might be feeling at this time. I have tried to quit several times, and found that those who were hopeful that I would be successful would not say anything if I failed. Some were smokers, some were not. Yes, it is hard. To tell you differently would not be truthful. You have to want to quit. If you smoke one, you will smoke another. Tell yourself "I am not a smoker". vicki
Everyone who I quit with who chose to smoke "one more cigarette" are all back to smoking. I am proud that I quit before chest pains, cancer, emphysema, asthma, etc. Isn't that the goal? If not, shouldn't it be? I've been quit coming up on 6 months, and one of the only reasons that I have made it this far is the realistic advice that I received (yes, I still crave, but a lot less than in the beginning). At first, I was on this website for hours a day, which is no longer necessary because I am becoming stronger.
I'm with diana! I wasn't an asshole when I smoked but I AM an addict! Big difference! With me, one puff leads to 2 leads to 33 etc! Like she says..take what you want and leave the rest! I can go hours and days without thinking about cigarettes but I remain on the site to remind myself why I don't want to go back to smoking and to offer help whenever I see anyone fighting it. 😉 Good luck!
I find this site hard with the relapsers also.... it seems like sometimes when you log on the whole blog page is filled with people who have relapsed......Or the "relapse threateners" I also think its hard because we are addicts to see, ( I have felt it too, just never acted on it cause it is the addiction making you feel this way) that if so and so relapsed and they were so strong...or so and so said it was so easy in the beginning for them andd then they relapse its almost like your talking yourself into, well they did it why cant I? I had problems with that too. I havent relapsed....and i feel super strong now in my quit. I didnt for the first like 4 months... i went thru hell (which we all do) and i hated that some people made it seem so easy. Just stick to your decision and just know that YOU are strong to YOUR quit. And you know how you would feel if you relapsed, you would beat yourself up enough. I dont feel its my place to "scold" someone for their relapse.......They have to live with choice, not me. Just keep strong with your quit... It will get easier. Well it did for the majority of us. I still see people with nice quits blog about how they want to smoke..... For the most part it will become easier, and you will become stronger. 🙂
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