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No Man's Land Weekly Blog -- Sudden Stress

SarahP
Member
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We do this blog every Wednesday afternoon to offer encouragement and camaraderie to those in No Man’s Land -- months 2-3-4 of a quit. Regardless of how long you’ve been quit, anyone who likes the conversation and wants to offer support is welcome to participate!

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This week’s topic: Sudden Stress

For so many years or even decades, we associated smoking with stress relief. In times of stress your brain is going to gravitate toward what it knows. That’s not something you can change in just a couple of months. So plan ahead – when a major stress hits you, how will you defeat the urge to smoke? What will you say to yourself, what action will you take, to drive away the sudden and powerful belief your brain will have, seemingly out of nowhere, that a cigarette would be helpful?  PRACTICE it now, so you’re prepared when it happens!

Sudden stress = smoking thought = acknowledge = dismiss

“Yes I acknowledge that part of me thinks I want a cigarette. But, I don’t want all the other cigarettes that would come with it. I also realize this is just my addiction attacking me in a weak moment. So there’s no point in dwelling on this thought. Instead, I’m going to turn my attention back toward resolving this stressful situation.”

Quitting smoking is a skill, and like any other skill, it takes practice. As you progress through No Man’s Land, you will put all of your new skills to work! 

 

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If you're in NML right now, give a shout!  Reach out and find each other! 

 

Click here to read Dale’s helpful blog about No Man’s Land: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/05/24/no-mans-land-da...

5 Comments
JonesCarpeDiem

learn those coping skills and practice them. you have the power, use it.

avalons1
Member

This is new thinking for me.  I have never acknowledged my thought.  I always try to ignore or deny it.  I will practice acknowledging and dismissing instead.  Bit of a shift in the thought process, which can be good. Thanks!

Another tool in my toolbox:

Sudden stress = smoking thought = acknowledge = dismiss

Connie55
Member

Avalon- I'm glad you read this today. Ignoring or denying will onyl get you so far. Acknowledging the thought and then dismissing it is pretty powerful stuff. It leaves you feeling in control of yourself and that is priceless. As you build this power, you may also find it interesting to ask yourself why am I having this thought? What do I think I would gain from a cigarette? what will it solve or what additional problems will it create?

All of these thoughts lessen and lessen the power that nicotine has over you and give you great tools to help you win your freedom.

So for me, I add to this equation (acknowledge+analyze)=dismiss

SarahP
Member

Avalon, I'm so glad you are here. Ignoring/denying is the path to mental exhaustion -- you can't win an argument with yourself. Let those thoughts float right on through, just like the thousand other random thoughts you have in a day.

Did I leave the iron on. I want to go to the beach. What should I cook for dinner. That cigarette smells good. Does my dog sleep all day. What would I look like with purple hair. I really like caramel. Is it time to rotate my tires. I don't like this font. Bla bla bla.

Thoughts float in, thoughts float out. That's all. 

YoungAtHeart
Member

I am almost to three months and have been having cravings almost nonstop the last three or four  dayys - these thoughts aren't floating through --- they seem to be taking up residence!  I am using ALL my tricks to keep on track, includng walks several times a day.  

I have no intention of the answer being smoking a cigarette - 'cause that is NOT an option!  But , I am ready for them to STOP!!!!  Hoping it's soon!