Nervous

[leslie12]

I am nervous about quitting smoking. My husband smokes and refuses to quit. My kids asked me to stop smoking. My son said I want you to live a long time. Now, I made my dad a promise that I would stop. He's 42 and dying of cancer as we speak. Its scary. Just thinking that could be me one day.

[sandee]

You need to make that same promise to yourself. Don't do it for someone else. You have to want to do it for yourself. Do it for you, it is doable.

[lia]

Stay strong! You are making the right decision for all of you! You have seen what smoking can do!

It feels incredible to be smoke free! There is lots of support for you here!

[AutumnWoman]

It doesn't matter whether your husband stops or not. You can stop now if you want to. Do it because of your own reasons, then it is more likely to stick. Believe me, your dad and your son will be proud of you, but more proud if you stick with it. And your resolve *may* eventually motivate others to quit.

[teresa15]

My husband made the same promise to his dad three years ago, he was also dying from smoking. He did die at that time. My husband did quit smoking at that time and its funny after being married to him for 25 years I could not even picture him smoking a cigarette now. He is so happy that I am doing this now. I was not ready then, I do feel you need to be ready. It really is not all that hard to do with the right mind set. My Doctor told me I needed to quit or I WOULD have a heart attack or stroke. I had been thinking about quitting and now seemed like a good time. I did not want to wait until I had some terminal illness to stop, that would be dumb. Then its to late, I probably would have thought "Hey I might as well die happy". I am 9 days into my quit and much happier and proud of being a non smoker then I ever was a smoker. You can do it.

[gina9]

I too tried to convince my husband to quit at the same time, but he said it wasn't his time. Instead of waiting for him like I was tempted to do...I tried quiting on my own. It has been 38 days and counting. Some of the days were stressful, some of them I barely thought about smoking, but I am actually DOING IT! I am doing it for me, my kids, my husband...doesn't matter who you do it for.

[nik]

You can treat it as a mission to rescue ourselves from daily bombardment of lethal poison. Don't think of it as depriving ourselves of smoke. Call it the getting rid of smoke. Who needs smokes to live anyway?
In 7 days you will smile back to this day and thank yourself for making this decision.

[Sandra3]

I smoked for 37 years and quit in January after losing my Mother to Lung cancer this last October. My husband had said he was going to quit '"the first of the year" but he hasn't even pretended to want to yet. I am so happy I did not wait for him! It is not easy to quit and have someone smoking around you but it is possible if you really want to do it. I only wish I had tried before my Mom passed away so she would have known I did do it! I told her I would, but back then I didn't think it would be possible, then I came here and I really wanted to do it! You can do this too!

[nicole]

i agree with sandra. I promised my grandfather (man who raised me) that i would quit smoking the night before he died. I stayed with him all night and he passed next morning. I have stayed true to my promise and i want to see him just one more time to scream at the top of my lungs "look grandpa, i did it" I think that you would have more self satisfaction if you could get a good quit going before the time came where both of you are at peace with your non smoking. Get a plan and just jump into..... Kinda think of it as a cold swim you KNOW its gonna be cold why torture yourself limb by limb....just jump in and get it done with. You can do it.

[lee7]

I have have someone who still smokes but I cant allow that to affect my quit. She was with me all thru my quad bypass surgery and is still home nursing me. She has seen how smoking all those years had ravaged me. I dont preach about quitting. She does not smoke in the car when I am riding.She really dos'nt smoke around me at all. I think you do have a responsibility to your kids to be a good example. I wish you success, you can do this. Lee