NEEDING TO VENT

[erma2]

 FEELING A LOT OF STRESS  THIS MORNING AND ITS NOT EVEN BREAKFAST. MY DAD GOT OUT OF THE HOSPITAL  AND THEN COME TO FIND OUT MY BROTHER HAS SOME TYPE OF FACIAL WHICH THE DOCTOR IS GOING TO TRY TO GET IT ALL BUT IF THEY CANT GET IT ALL HE MAY LOSE A PART OF HIS NOSE .HE IS A VERY HEAVY SMOKER.AND THATS JUST THE TIP OF THE ICE BERG.HE IS ALSO AN ALCOHOLIC AND DRUG AND HEROIN ADDICT.   I GOT A CALL REAL EARLY FROM MY DADDY  WANTING NERVE PILLS FOR MY BROTHER.MY BROTHER HAS HIS OWN MEDS  IM NOT GIVING HIM MINE,   AND NOW MY FATHER WONT TALK TO ME .THEY BOTH WERE TRYING TO MANIPULATE ME INTO DOING SOMETHING I DONT WANT TO DO .BY THE WAY I DIDNT PUT UP TOP MY BROYHER HAS CANCER. I CANT HELP IT IF MY BROTHER HAS CANCER OUT OF MEDS.  IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME . I JUST WISH MY DAD WAS NOT MAD AT ME .TO LIGHTEN THE LOAD A LITTLE IM ON DAY QUIT OF 87 DAYS  TODAY  AND IT IS STILL REALLY SOLID AS EVER.I COULDNT BE MAKING THIS JOURNEY BY MY SELF.ITS BY THE GRACE OF GOD AND MY FAMILY HERE .THANKS.  GOD BLESS.

[ShawnP]

Good morning Erma. Sorry that  you have to go through all this. Don't do anything that you don't want to do. Your dad will understand later on. 87 days is great! Keep moving forward, this situation is just a bump in the road. Thats all! Hope your day gets better 🙂

[joy41]

I'm so sorry your family is having these problems, but you are right in not giving your brother your meds.  It might end up doing him even more harm, and then you wouldn't have the meds you need, not to mention that it's illegal to give your prescription medicine to someone else. 

Stay strong.  Your dad probably knows you're doing the right thing.  He probably just doesn't know what he can do to help your brother.  It's hard for him to watch his son ruin his life the way your brother is doing.  Your dad will come around in time and speak to you again.  Your brother, with his medical problems, will also eventually wake up and see what he's been doing with his life and will have to make some changes.  Try to be patient with them, but keep on doing the right thing yourself.  The best thing you can do for your dad and brother is to keep setting a good example of how life should be.

Congratulations on staying smoke free for 87 days!  I'm right behind you with 86 days.

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

[YoungAtHeart]

Oh, Erma, it seems like you have been through SO much.   Please know you are in my thoughts more often than you know.

Remember that you have something no one can take away from you ------- that wonderful, wonderful quit!  You are doing SO well, especially considering all you are going through.

Stay strong!

Nancy

Quit 7/4/12

[mary242]

This is only a tempory situation.It will pass. Things will get better in a day or 2. You are doing all the right things. Congrats on 87 days! Yourre stronger than you think! Keep on doing the right thing and keeping your quit.God bless you and your brother and father. Always a friend.....Mary

[Nyima_1.6.13]

I think it has all been said! Know that I am thinking of you and here to support your strength and courage!

[Jenny78]

Sounds like you have an awful lot to think about.  Just keep your quit first and foremost.

[Michwoman]

Hi Erma. I totally agree with everyone here. You are doing everything right. Do not give in and become an enabler to your brother. They should not be asking you to sacrifice your own health. You're doing wonderful at 87 days! I'm so proud of you.

Stay strong!

[Olivia8]

Awesome for 87 days, wow!!!!! I come from a highly disfunctional family and this is something I have seen in my family. The fact remains that your Dad is sick, just like your Brother is sick. I have an actively using Brother that is in jail for who knows how long. When he gets out, all efforts and money will be funneled into him and his active  addiction by my Mother and Father. I realize they are sick, forgive them for it, say a prayer and go about my life. I know it's hard, I feel your pain but you DID the next RIGHT thing. The right thing is NOT always the easiest choice! Keep that head held high! 

[erma2]

 THANKS TO ALL OF YOU .  YOU MADE ME FEEL MUCH BETTER.   GOD BLESS.   ERMA