I've lost two quits at the three month stage (and those were years apart). So I can vouch for what Dale is stating here. Promise yourself to remain free for at least four months. It WILL make the difference in your success. There's just something about them 3's. 3 Days, 3 weeks, 3 months. As an "elder" (and all that means is someone who has remained on here for YEARS to pass our wisdom forward because we CARE about YOU!!!) - it takes that amount of time to "get over it." Truth. Sorry. Just do "promise yourself at least that much of a commitment. Addiction costs. it just does. It costs our health and our TIME to get over it. It takes commitment, perseverance, study, adherence to the rules of relapse, and listening to people like Dale who are here solely for the purpose to help YOU. You newbie. You week-past newbiedom, you about-to-lose-your-quit after 3 months quitter.
Hello,
My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit.
HOW I QUIT
I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started.
When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.