Making it min by min

[Jaime1234]

This is hard day definitely a test of patience I feel like smoking but urges mom by min are not as strong as when the day began I’m sure after eating will be hard and lately having trouble sleeping so waking up in middle of night will be hard as well since I always in past smoked when I got up but no smoking now no cigs to smoke have chewed so much gum too day I think I’m gonna have a gum addiction but at least it’s free dent gum being that nicotine gum sticks to my partial. So I’d rather be chewing this then supplement anyway I am still wearing my patch but this morning didn’t even matter it was there I was still trying to reach for my non exsistant cigarette everyone is right this is definitely a take it by min addiction but I see it becoming easier thanks for all the support 

[Barbscloud]

If it has to be minute by minute at first you can do it.   Are you doing anything other than gum?  Cold water, chewing on straws, something sour, etc.  Deep breathing and get moving--go for a walk.  When this passes you will be a non-smoker and proud of it!

Barb

[PastTense]

You are rocking your quit!!  Good job rolling with the punches.  Minute by minute leads to hour after hour which leads to months and years of staying smober.

I am also chewing gum by the PACK.  My jaw is tired and my tongue is blistered, but gum is better than smokes!!

Keep the quit

PT

[YoungAtHeart]

You might keep a book, magazine or crossword puzzle book by your bed for your nighttime awake times.  For after meals, get right up and start your clean up right after you finish eating.  Maybe a cup of tea in a place different from where you smoked might also become a new ritual.  Changing it up is a BIG help in getting through these early days.

Minute by minute DOES become hour by hour and then day by day. 

Hang in there!

Nancy

[Jaime1234]

I am using patch but trust me there are moments it’s like it’s not even helping my mind is fighting saying why quit but some side of it says cause you have to thing is I know there is not a have to just a want to that should be enough but it’s been long day so far I’m still winning but there are moments where it doesn’t feel like a win just a battle with myself

[Barbara145]

Great job. "Give it time, it just takes time." 

[MarilynH]

You're doing this quit and you're doing it one precious Smokefree Day at a time or hour minute or even a second at a time keep moving forward stacking up those precious Days Of Freedom so each evening you can say YAY for another Day WON....

[indingrl]

WAY TO GO ❤ GOOD JOB!

[Mandolinrain]

Hang in there, yes it is so tuff in the beginning but you have to go through to get the breakthrough. Don't give in now. STAY STRONG! You did good coming here to talk about it. Come here when things get tuff, we will walk you to the other side of the moment...minute by minute

[JACKIE1-25-15]

i truly understand what you are going through.  Here is a blog by Thomas3.20.2010‌ written several years ago that may help.  There are several of them. https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Thomas3.20.2010-blog/2016/10/22/the-push-and-pull .  His blogs helped me a lot when I first came here.   Find a few people  that encourage you and read their blogs It can help a lot.  Especially when you can't sleep.  Read Read Read Read.

[Barbscloud]

No doubt it can tough at first, but it really will get easier.  I spent a lot of time on the site when I first quit.  It really helped me--by the time I read some posts the craving had passed.   Continue to reach out!

Barb

[MarilynH]

How are you doing this morning Jaime1234? 

[Barbscloud]

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/Jaime1234/blog/2019/08/03/done-blogging-and-venting 

[Jaime1234]

It doesn’t matter cause as clearly stated all I’m doing is beating myself up so I give I made it 24 hrs and on day two someone says I need stop beating myself up and love myself thought by trying quit last substance that may kill me was loving my self but my battle back and forth in my brain is really getting to me so instead of smoking I try to vent and I get told I need stop this and start loving myself guess I’m done guess quitting is not loving myself and battle is so strong within my self all I can do is vent but that’s fine I’ll be alone in my choices I’m done fighting one more battle been fighting them my whole life thought if I could make it through this one I could make it through anything but I have finally realized people don’t care and it’s not like I’m gonna live long life anyway so that’s how I’m doing this morning 

[Barbscloud]

Jamie, I'm somewhat confused.   If you don't want to respond that's ok. Are you saying someone on the site upset you because they said you need to love yourself?

[MarilynH]

I'm so sorry Jaime that you were upset by someone's comment I'm thinking it was meant to help you not stress you out but sometimes at least it was for me in the early days and weeks of my quit my emotions were all over the place so I'm hoping you'll stay with us because we really do care and blogging is a great way to vent I sure did when I first quit and I still blog, I really hope your day will get better. Jaime1234

[JACKIE1-25-15]

I am very sorry that you are getting mixed signals which can happen in a community with each individual offering advice.  There are many different ideas, concepts, and tools that have worked for each quitter.  I suggest that you focus on the positive, eliminate the negative and use what is best for you.  The idea is not to smoke, no matter what NOPE.  There is a mental tug that comes with quitting but if you do not smoke it gets easier.  A wise elder once put it very clearly "Take what you can use and leave the rest".  Another quote in the same direction is to "eat the meat and throw out the bone".  Here are some significant takes what you can use from our elders that I compiled several years ago.  I really look up to those who came before me.  They told the truth, they gave me good solid advice.  No, I did not like hearing all of it.  I just had to be willing to accept it and not allow my addict brain to fight it. https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/newbie-quitters/blog/2018/03/10/take-what-you-can-use?sr=s...   I am wishing you the very best in your recovery  No, it is not easy but it can be done.  Just like any other drug you have to go through the rough spots to get to the good.  I believe that you can. You are in the right place to get support.  Carry on...the journey continues with ups and downs.  Pick your battles and don't sweat the small stuff.  You got this. One day at a time. 

[Jaime1234]

They said I need to get over it and start loving myself just because I posted that I am still battling with my inner self addiction is what I meant I’m not morning person so it seems like with all Florida rain especially when it’s first thing in morning my cravings are the strongest they pretty much said I needed to get over it and learn to love myself but whatever like I’ve said I will make it through somehow don’t need smart ass opinions especially when I’m only on day two of quitting I have smoked almost 30 years it’s not like I don’t expect to be easy in the morning sometimes I just need to say it out loud but apparently not on this site

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[Barbscloud]

I do believe from all the responses you've received that there are many caring people on this site that want to aid in your efforts to quit smoking.--me being one of them.   It's an awful addition that is destroying our health.  This site has helped me to quit for 16 months for the first time in my 50 years of smoking.  For some, quitting is much more emotional than physical.  I had few physical withdrawal symptoms, but it was very difficult for me emotionally.  So please reconsider the benefits.  I am in total agreement with you.  There are facts  presented and there are opinions.  You don't always have to agree with the opinions.   I don't.  Opinions are presented to individuals that we know nothing about--not someones physical, psychological or emotion condition.  It's important that even though many of us have remained here to help other's quit, we need to be sensitive to their condition..  Even though it's often said "Take what you can use and leave the rest"  at times it can feel very personal to  someone.  And it is true, when we quit smoking we go through a great deal of emotional upheaval that can leave us feeling vulnerable.  That being said, I still believe the support here is worth it to quit smoking and keep a quit. I have come to this site everyday since I quit and truly appreciate the support I've received here.   

If you want this, you can do it.  It's not easy--it may be one of  the hardest things you'll ever do, but it's possible and much easier with people who understand what you're going through supporting you every step of the way.

Hugs

Barb

[sweetplt]

How is today going Jaime1234 ? Hang in there and Happy Saturday...~ Colleen 243 DOF 

[elvan]

Minutes add up and taking things minute by minute COUNTS...just like baby steps count.  I had so much trouble learning to love myself, I think that may have been the hardest thing I have ever done and I am STILL a work in progress.

Ellen