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Loss

JonesCarpeDiem
5 7 102

Yes, you will feel loss when you quit smoking.

Loss is probably the most understated unknown fear of quitting smoking until we're in the middle of it, but, we all must go through it.

I lost a dear neighbor a short while ago and I attended her memorial service Saturday.

My brother felt the loss of our friend for the first time at the service. I am still numb.

She was a soft spoken, unmarried Japanese woman who came over every Christmas Eve to share it with us.

She was a school teacher and a travel agent.

She and my mom took people to many countries

as tour guides.

She was a chaperone for the Young Americans (a group I sang with) for two summers.

I was very ill he last week of a three month tour. We were in Kyoto. I was in bed that entire week and when the group was leaving for the states, we were afraid I might have an appendicitis that could burst on the plane so I was left behind at the Japan Baptist Hospital.

Ginny stayed with me.

A special soul

is now where she wanted

and strived to be.

Say hi to mom Ginny!

I took this outside the sanctuary after the service. "The beauty and the pain of loss."

Loss.jpg

"Time is the healer"

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.