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Let us not complicate quitting smoking.

JonesCarpeDiem
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I see people come here and do sideways back flips trying to quit and leave smoking.

quitting is only unlearning smoking.

it takes about the same amount of time initially as toilet training.

it's unlearning something you did perhaps hundreds of thousands of times.

you don't need to complicate anything about this concept.

it's unlearning It is NOT TORTURE. It may be awkward because we smoked for so long but you must keep it in perspective so you aren't overtaken by yourself.

if it's anything other than unlearning you are making it that. In doing so you are adding unnecessary difficulty to a simple concept and your quit.

willingness and understanding that all you are doing is unlearning smoking will get you there

WITH NO SELF IMPOSED DRAMA!

8 Comments
Barbara145
Member

TORTURE is what it was for me.  Every attempt was that way.  Coming here and listening to you, although I was quite tortured for quite awhile, I am not anymore.  Hugely because of your excellent advice.

djmurray
Member

You said it, Dale.  If you feel deprived, it's torture.  If you envy everyone you see smoking, it's torture.  If you come to unlearning with acceptance that it's sometimes going to be challenging, then it's not so bad.

Lyates66
Member

When you are just learning to unlearn it is hard, people dont have to make it hard, its just the way it is at times.

lindan_7-14-10
Great blog as usual, dale. You always speak from your heart.
JonesCarpeDiem

It's hard if we forget how much our own attitude plays in our success or defeat.

david67-2
Member

Well said Dale, attitude is everything in life.

freeneasy
Member

You have to approach it for what it is-gaining freedom,health, and wealth.

bjfranco1
Member

I needed to hear it's not torture. I can do with less drama! lol

About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.