It’s OK I’ll try again next year It’s OK I’m still young It’s OK They smoke a lot more than I do. It’s OK I’m not hurting anyone but myself It’s OK I can still breathe fine It’s OK It’s just a little blood
Dale, I know that was not directed at me personally, but it is and has been me and all of us who smoked or a are still smoking. It hit me so hard because I have said those things. And at this moment in my life I am miserable and feel like such an idiot cuz the way I feel was self inflicted.
Love it!, All those rationalizations are familiar to me. I have 18 days and wont be using the Okay statements this time around. If something should derail my attempt to stay smoke free it will only be because I failed this 20th attempt and will have a 21 attempt some time in the future. But I think I am really done!
We have all said these words to justify our addiction BUT by coming here and doing all the suggested reading and listening to the elders and blogging these words now seem so false so stupid. I have 16 months today smoke free and am so thankful fir this site and all the wonderful people.
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Hello,
My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit.
HOW I QUIT
I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started.
When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.
