Im being tested

[warriorprincess]

I cant even begin to tell you guys how stressed I have been over the past two weeks. And I literally have been craving a cigg more than ever but have been telling myself that it wont help. I had a friend in high school that I stopped being friends with about 7 years ago. She was way to dramatic and I didnt like being around that. Off and on she has been contacting me and I have let her know numerous times that she is not to contact me anymore but she keeps on. Last week she sent me a message on FB letting me know in a very passive way that she knew where I lived and worked. I contacted the police and they said she wasnt being threatening and they couldnt do anything about it. A couple days ago she contacted my work and alleged that I looked into her sons academic files ( which I have no access to) and now they are investigating me at work for it. Its protocol that they investigate but Im beyond pissed that this woman is doing this to me. I know it will all turn out ok because I have done nothing wrong but its just the mere fact that she is trying to mess up my life. On top of all that my bank account debited a transaction 4 times and caused it to go negative. On top of that my laptop broke. And on top of THAT my thyroid is out of wack and I feel like shit.......But i will not smoke!!!

[YoungAtHeart]

Just please, please remember, above ALL else, that smoking will not impact all the lousy things happening in your life right now.  Smoking a cigarette will do ZERO for you!  PLEASE remember that - and NOPE!

Nancy

[smurfet]

That's right! Smoking WILL NOT MAKE HER STOP, will not fix account or lap top and sure wont help your thyroid!!!! Good job in not giving in!!!! Im sorry though your having hard time!

[JonesCarpeDiem]

tell her you know people who know people and this aint no party

[JonesCarpeDiem]

LIFE SUCKS

BUT SMOKING SUCKS MORE

[Jordan-11-1-12]

"telling myself that it won't help" you sound almost like you're not sure that its the truth. It IS the truth. Smoking can not and will not help anything!!  It will only make matters worse by hooking you into a physical addiction that causes higher anxiety === making things worse. It will only use this weakness as a time to grab hold of your mind to keep you hooked... and you will feel horrible for giving up such a great quit! for giving up your freedom! === making things worse.  Smoking will not help, but it would make things worse!! Please remember that!  NOPE

There are very few things in life that we can control... one those things, though, is ourselves. Don't give up your self and your quit!!  Kudos to you for coming on here and blogging!! Don't smoke! Keep protecting your quit, you can do it!!

[SkyGirl]

Hang in there, Warrior!  

You sure ARE being tested...but think of it as your patience, your good-nature, your sense of security being tested, NOT your Quit.  

Your Quit is something independent of everything else that goes on in your life.  You DO know this.  You just need to keep reminding yourself.

You are a WARRIOR PRINCESS!!!!

[froguelady]

Stay strong Warrior, you can get past this test. The only thing smoking will change is you from a non smoker to an addict again. I am sorry for all you are going through but you can get over this and sooner or later she will give up.  Lets hope it is sooner.  Take care.

[Brenda_M]

OMG, that is sooooo messed up. Some people are just crazy...serious about drama.

You'll be okay...just don't add to the stress by giving up a good quit. And if you can, try, really try, to forget about the investigation at work. You don't have access to the files, you didn't touch the files or do anything untoward, so they'll turn up nothing. And then who's gonna look like a crazy b?

[shaheen]

Dont be upset. everything will be ok.

[stonecipher]

Once someone was spreading lies about my son, when he was a teenager.  Aside from being hurtful, they could have been very harmful to his future, as they involved illegal activities.  I checked the libel laws in my state and was very pleased to find out that libel is a prosecutable offense.  It is such a serious matter that the law is written so that a person does not even need to utter the person's name in the lie.  The example given was that the liar, in a group, could indicate by pointing or nodding the head in the direction of the victim!  When I found this out, I told it to a relative of the liar in my son's case, and asked her to pass along this info, as well as the fact that if the lies did not stop immediately, we would be seeing a lawyer.  I was not just threatening. We were at that point. The lies had absolutely no truth to them and were vile. The liar was trying to discourage a friendship between her daughter and our son, and was not content with just breaking up the friendship.  She wanted to ruin him. Seeing a lawyer does not mean you will sue, but a lawyer would probably be willing to write a letter to the person behaving badly, to illumine them about the law, and suggest that they could get themselves in trouble.  This is what I would do in your case.  You have your professional life to think of.

In the meantime, DON"T SMOKE!  It will only bring you down more.

Take care and I wish you the best with this "person".

[LindaK_Mc]

Life throws us a lot of curveballs and it seems like you are getting more than you're share right now.  But I've lit up in the past when I was under stress and then I felt ten times worse.  You're health is sooo important!   Quitting when you're young your chances of suffering any consequences from however long you've been smoking can go back to like you never smoked.  I'm 62 and a lot of damage has already been done with 40+years of smoking.  But I will feel better.  Sounds like you have a real looloo on your hands but she will end up looking like a nutcase.  AND you will still be a non-smoker!   And a much stronger person for getting thru it.  I started back once because I locked my keys in the car.  Now THAT is stupid!  Hang in there hon! 

[johio]

You have maintained your quit through all this crap you are going through, and that is very good.

You must decide which of these things you are in control of, and can do something about and which are beyond your control. And act accordingly. 

Your health is top priority....have the thyroid checked out.

Some people say money is not imortant.....Trust me...those people never had their account debited 4 times mysteriously......get this checked out.

Joe

[Jordan-11-1-12]

Please let us know how you're doing!!

[Junior7]

Sorry for what you are going through!  Hang in there and DON'T SMOKE!

[joyeuxencore]

YOU ALREADY PASSED THE TEST...you reached out for help from your friends because you don't smoke and you know we would all help you stay on track...have you done any reading on what to do and not to do with a stalker cause that's what she is....YEAH for you to be so stressed and stay firm in your resolve & commitment to be smokefree! xo

[warriorprincess]

I want to say that I will not smoke. But it is crazy that my mind still goes to it as my scapegoat, even 6 mohths later. My stalker is not giving up, and to be honest with you I hope that she doesnt. I woke up this morning and decided that instead of wishing bad things upon her, that I would pray for her instead. Her life must be agonizing that she feels like she has nothing better to do with her time. No matter what, I will be ok. I have a great husband who supports me and a loving, well mannered son who is a joy. I doubt she has these things. I really appreciate the info that you all gave me. I plan on obtaining an restraining order once the investigation with my job is over and Im cleared. I now dont have my laptop so Im using my desktop which is ancient (10 years LOL) and very slow. Im hanging in there and will not allow this to defeat me!!!