I figured it out

[Loretta39410]

I will start again on the 18th.  Please be patient  with me that's all I ask.

My Grandson's  4,000 dollar streaming computer someone deleted all his stuff. Then their so called which I have not heard from since he dropped  the Grandchildren off by me no show at all

Then called me today and wants me to bail him out at 875 dollars I can't and wont.

[Barbscloud]

@Loretta39410 Was just going to send directions.   Want you to be successful--being patient with you is a part of that.

Glad you didn't give into him.   What nerve!

Barb

[YoungAtHeart]

Let me share a saying that might help you maintain your quit when life happens (as it ALWAYS will):

"There is never a good reason to smoke; there are only excuses."

Try to get busy when the stress hits so you don't think about it.  I hope you don't have any cigarettes in the house?  If you do, get RID of them on your next quit date.  Keeping any around is just giving yourself permission to fail.

Let's get it done THIS time  Let us know how we can help!

Nancy

[Loretta39410]

I totally  understand smoking is not the answer, I agree with all of you just asking to be patient  with me. I also know smoking will not take away my problems. I have to be stronger this time.

[MarilynH]

I'm so sorry for the stress your under BUT deep breaths and when your day ONE arrrives on the 18th keep your mind as well as your hands occupied so at the end of the day you'll be able to say YAY for Day WON with many more to come, you've got this believe it because we believe in you and we're all here to help you in any way we can...

 @Loretta39410 

[sweetplt]

Hi @Loretta39410 Loretta…will be patient, because honestly in the end you have to quit…we can help guide, be supportive, but you must do the quitting…Hope things work out and you jump back in the journey.

Please keep close… ~ Colleen 1140 DOF 

[Loretta39410]

I feel like I am criticized

Because I lite up.

That's not fair so I will just leave the group.

[MarilynH]

I don't think any of us are trying to criticize you I'm sorry if it feels like we are @Loretta39410, we're here for you, when your Day ONE arrives on the 18th keep your mind as well as your hands occupied so at the end of the day you'll be able to say YAY for Day WON with many more to come stay close and read everything you can because there's a wealth of information right here on this site to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb permanently it's not easy by any stretch of the imagination BUT with commitment and perseverance you will perservere through whatever comes your way and you'll do one precious Smokefree Day at a time or hour minute or even a second at time deep breaths you've got this! 

[sweetplt]

@Loretta39410 Wow…I am so sorry you feel we are criticizing. I re ~ read what everyone wrote you and it sounds like all are being so supportive.   

Criticizing would be us telling you “don’t smoke”…or “why smoke”…? 

I know for one I am being patient.  Sometimes when one is upset with themselves they come and take it out on all of us.  Each person that answered you is here everyday supporting you and many on this site.  

Gosh I hope you don’t leave…give us time to help.

[MichelleDiane]

Hi @Loretta39410 .  Quitting is so hard.  We all have different stories as we are different people and have had different upbringings and circumstances in our lives, but we are all nicotine addicts.  It sounds like you are going through the ringer right now and it may seem like the world is closing in on you, but please know that nobody here is judging you because they've been were you are.  In some cases they are exactly where you are, so there is compassion and empathy and people really do want to help.  This site has helped me immensely.  It's one of the reasons I returned to it after my relapse a couple of years ago.  Please hang in there.  It is hard, but it is doable.  Be kind to yourself.

😊Michelle

[JACKIE1-25-15]

@Loretta39410 It sounds as if you have had to endure quite a bit on the Homefront. Sorry you are making the decision to leave. Quitting is not easy.  It is one of the hardest things that we have to do.  However, with support it is more "doable" than doing it alone.  I am a witness.  Our addictive brain can really play a lot of tricks on us.  First there is a certain amount of guilt that comes with lighting up or using again. I think that is why you asked us to be patient. You have to forgive yourself and not look back.  I don't think anyone was criticizing or judging you.  We have all been where you are until we made the decision not to ever take another puff no matter what is happening in our lives. I think they were being honest and supportive.  The truth can be a bit annoying and hurtful especially if you have indulged but that is the past.  It is always going to be a choice to smoke or not to smoke.  You can choose to stay and get the support you feel you may need or allow your addictive brain to be in control. We are here to help.  Come here read study write, trust me no one is criticizing.  Just real talk that may help you.  We are here to support you.  We all are one puff away from relapse. 

[daverson828]

Stick around!

[tracy0924]

@Loretta39410 PLEASE don’t leave! As the others have said there is no criticism here, only support. We want you to be successful so we are offering advice. We have all been through hell quitting smoking and many are going through hell right now quitting smoking. You are the one who needs to decide your quit date and do the work, no one else can do that for you, we can only be here to encourage and try to help. Leaving would not be your best move as EX is an awesome supportive group that I could not have quit without!

Tracy 116 DOF

[AnnetteMM]

If I may...perhaps "being patient" looks different to you than it does to everyone who commented, offering support or advice. Maybe "being patient" looks like permission or forgiveness instead of encouragement. Quitting an addiction requires us to take a hard look at our own sh&t. No one here is in charge of your quit. No one here is preventing you from being the person you want to be. It's all on your shoulders, like it is on ours for our own addictions. We're only here as volunteers to lend a hand up. Take it, please.