I Am Still Here!!!

[debr]

It has been a horrific few weeks with my 'identity theft issue'.  I wouldn't even wish it on my creep of an ex-husband.  My nerves are still quite shattered.   Many of you either know or have assumed, that I relapsed in my quit.

Well, I am here to say that on Sunday, March 17, 2013, I am coming back to my quit strong and determined!!  I've planned and also have added a smoking cessation group to my 'quit smoking agenda'.  I've been in therapy and have been dealing with my chronic feelings of self-loathing regarding, not only my previous quit failures, but also many issues in my life.  I've been working hard on the fact that I am so much less than perfect, and am a human-being with flaws and imperfections.

I've been reading through the EX blogs, but have done so quietly.  I'm not going to be quiet anymore so, everyone, expect to see me and hear me!!!  Lots of Love, Deb.

[Jenny78]

Love you too Deb.  So glad that you have decided to rejoin us and set a quit date.  That is a GIANT step!!!!  I know you have been having major problems in the past.  Heres hoping you a much better smoke free future.

[Olivia8]

Good for you getting back on the wagon!!!!! You know it can be done and you are ready to do it, sounds excellent to me! Have a wonderful week!

[Thomas3.20.2010]

Thank You, Deb, for sharing yourself with us! These emotional battles are shared by many of us and talking about it together helps us know that we are not alone and perhaps, we can find a way through! You have many beautiful strengths and inspire me toward personal growth each time I hear from you. So as one (reforming) perfectionist to another I genuinely apreciate YOU!

[aztec]

Let it roll Deb,

write all you need to, if you want a private conversation you can write to me anytime.

I did the counseling thing for a year, I am glad I did, it gave me someone to answer to and I needed that.

I met with her onece a week, I am approaching 4 years and occassionally I still call her and report in. She saved my life.

She never gave up on me, it was a long time before I quit when I was in counseling, I didn' nrts but they worked for me, and my doc was glad I took my time weening off them. He said thats the best way to do it.

Many people do it cold turkey, and they  do just fine. you need to find tha path for you, I wouldn't recoommend the e-cig , I know thater has been alot of talk abotu it, I think, just my humble opinion that doing the hand to mouth thing and getting vapor nicotine is the next thing to smoking and we need to re=learn life with out a crutch.

I did gum and quartered it with regular gum .

Go to whyquit .com and listen to joel spitzers pod casts there are 60 + of them , you can listne to one a day, they are 10-20 minutes long and they will help. read allen cars book "the easy way to quit smoking"

it's on my page if you want a link.

I am hear to encourage you.

make your list of 100 lthings to do besides quit, kinda like making a gratittude list.

and get busy with health and life.

I carried apicture of my family around with me fo rthe first year. I didn't want to make them cry over smoking related diseases.

I quit just in time according to my doc. I had crackling in my lungs and she said soon I would have emphysema

I finally took her serious and called the quit line.

I'm gla dyou have a counselor.

keep blogging and don't let anything or anyone deter you from using this site and making some good firends. remember "every bodys got a job" "it takes alot of heart " & "carry on"

I would rather breathe than smoke.

take some time on my page and read, write your good bye letter when you quit and tell your smoking partners not to ever give you a cigarette.

You can do this Deb Lots of love back at ya

aztec

quit date 5-5-09

[jim_ohio]

hi debr,,,,,we all have imperfections.......i would have to pm mine to u(bad card player,,,,,crummy fisherman lately....can turn a perfect lawn into weeds)......lol.........we will not judge u here...just want u to enjoy freedom from nicotine............and live a long time.....live calmly and enjoy.......can't wait for ur next start date.......jim ohio

[johio]

Hi Deb

WE havent talked in a while...glad you are back...this is yoiur time

[Nyima_1.6.13]

Identity theft is an extremely traumatic event. I am glad you have support in the form of therapy and a cessation group sounds like another positive move! You are certainly welcomed back by my open arms! No perfect folks here!!!

[justsayno3]

The fact that you continue to get back up after being knocked down shows the heart of a champion. We all fall down in life but if you keep getting back up, you have not failed. You stay with it and you will succeed. I know you can do it and I would not say that if you were not continuing to show your determination and just willing yourself to succeed. There is a spot in the winners circle for stubborn, tough-minded people who refuse to give in or quit. I will be cheering for you.

Lee

[Brenda_M]

Hey, Deb, I'm glad you're going to a smoking cessation group. I actually really enjoyed mine, even though I was five months in, and the people in my group all quit! I don't know how they're doing now, but I thought most of them were just there to get the premium down, so they wouldn't bother with the actual program, just the attending part, but they did! And so can you!

[schneidl]

Glad you are back. I'm so sorry to hear that you have been dealing with identity theft.

I'm happy to hear that you are talking with someone to work through your other issues. I'm pretty familiar with self loathing, also with ex husbands ;). I still struggle with that little voice inside my head that tells me I'm not good enough sometimes or that I can't quite possibly achieve something.

You know you are worth this quit. You deserve the freedom that comes from telling the addiction to shove off ;). I'm so happy that you are coming back. We are all human and we all have imperfections. You can do this.

One day at a time.

[schneidl]

Oh and keep blogging :).

[kris54]

What an awful thing to have happen to you, Deb!  I can only imagine the stress it put on you!  I am SO HAPPY you are coming back..... starting again....stronger than ever.  That's the hardest part after a relapse.... making the decision that.. "OK.. it happened..now GET ON WITH IT"

This time... arm yourself with a plan on what you will do if the stress to smoke gets out of hand.... CALL OUT FOR HELP.  I wish I would have...... but instead I backed away and tried to re-group by myself..... when actually what I should have been doing was coming here for support!  Many a Quits have been saved by the love and generosity of time devoted to others on this site.

Looking forward to seeing you a QUITTER again....and CHEERING you on!!

[nikki77]

Deb, I am so proud of you:) You are always cheering me on, so let me cheer you on!!! You can do it. , we are here for you!!!

[freedom-38]

This is such great news! I cant wait to see you back on the blogs.

[Jordan-11-1-12]

CONGRATULATIONS on setting a new quit date!!!  You can do it, and we're all here for you!