their written words and who you interpret they are from them?
a voice on the phone?
I believe you can love someone you met online ut to be "in love"
I myself would want to know their was some kind of physical attraction if I was going to be "in love" with someone and committing myself to a relationship
Hmmmm.... that hits a little close to home there. Let's see, met my ex-wife on the Internet. Virtually everything in her online profile was a lie in one fashion or another. She forgot to mention that she was crazy as an outhouse rat. Too many other things to put here. I still cringe every time I see a eHarmony ad on tv.
So I would have to say, no. Maybe after a thorough background check and a year face-to-face. I said maybe.
Me and my husband met online almost six years ago. All we had was our online profile photos. We did not fall in love online but we talked for four hours a night for two weeks and then went on a date. We knew over the phone. Somehow we just knew. We were married on Valentines Day.
As someone today celebrating 31 years of marriage and being "old school" -we met in the parking lot of the apartment complex we both lived in and he decided to ask me out after watching me walk up the stairs...LOL -for me personally I don't see how I could fall in love for real with someone I'd not met for real...
that's just me though I know of stories of success and failures concerning online dating.
Good question. I think that you can meet someone online, but that doesnt give you the whole picture of that persons real life. You would need to further investigate and meet the person outside the internet world to know if what may or may not be real. I personally would not feel secure in dating someone without spending quality time with them first. That is just me.
Being a Gemini I met my husband and decided! We met ,got engaged,and married within 8 months. We've been married 36 years. I think you can talk on the computer with people and become interested,but you have to live with people in the REAL world. Where else could I talk to people my own kids ages and they really listen to me. HA!
I forgot to add that I fell in love with him online. I am very suspicous and I don't trust easily so I was, and always am hyper vigilant. We talked online for 6months before actually meeting face to face. I seen him on webcam and he seen me also. I can say he was not my type apperence wise (he was over weight) but he smiled and that did it for me. He is so kind and I love him so much! (don't cry LOL) oh yeah it turns out he is the sexiest man alive!!!
The key of the internet relationship whould be to meet the person to see if what you thought was real is really real. You need to make sure that it isnt just a fantasy that you created that reality cant compare with. Some people meet in real life and it is a big let down. The fantasy is broken.
I am sticking with my original answer! The question was " could you fall 'in love with some one you've never seen or met"! Yes you can! Now what happens next is a matter of conjecture! It maybe a one way street! It may just be a fantasy! It could all be misconception! It could disolve instantly in a face to face situation! But none of that changes the fact that you fell in love with something real or unreal! Either way you fell!
I believe there must be a quest and sense of adventure! If you feel something, do just wait until you are entitely sure everything is perfect!
Can we afford to sit idle until we find out?
And waste these precious moments, no matter the turn-out!
What people will have tomorrow is impossible to say!
This is very interesting!!!! love the song Jones 😄 I met my husband on the golf course in Idaho where I am now I was traveling thru and it was a chance meeting He fell in love and followed me to Calif I gave it a chance and voilla it was meant to be. So I do not know about cyber love but it sounds intriging I say go with your heart and be cautious there are strange people out there. But then Im probably one of them lol lesa 7 1/2 months free look at me goooooooooo
OMG - that youttube video is really funny - thatnks for finding it Jas. Also I love that you just threw this topic out there for discussion jonescarp! I love all the funny things you do on this site! OH, by the way, I think a person can be in lust with someone via the internet (i.e.fantasy) but to truly fall in love there has to be face to face contact.
I believe you can certainly "meet" on the internet---just as my husband and I met at a bar. I believe you can certainly "talk" on the internet as we talked that night and many, many nights afterwards. And I guess with all of the bells and whistles technology can give you these days (web cam etc.) you could certainly "fall" in love on the internet.
Can you be in love and stay in love ONLY on the internet.
In my opinion----no.
In my opinion---I hope no one ever tries. I really don't want to see a world where "love" is taking place only on a screen....
OK, Carp Man. I have not read everyone's posts on this question, but you obviously got a lot of people thinking about it. LOL My answer to your question: I think you can LOVE someone on the internet, but to fall IN LOVE, no I do not believe that. I think there has to be some kind of physical attraction, whether it be pheromones or features of a person that stick out.
Now, are you getting ready to tell us that you are getting married to someone you never met in person??? Please don't tell me that. lol
I read everyone's answers. Every single blog was good conversation. I enjoyed that discussion Carp Man. I will stick with my answer, just like Pirate Man is sticking to his, but I do agree that sometimes people do search for what is lacking in their 3D Life. The words to that song are good.
WOW... I logged on to find IrishRose post a comment now on a blog from 2 days ago. So here I am wondering... Dale. Every weekend the spam starts & most of the time an interpersonal issue. Don't we waist enough time on this site already when it could be used for saving lives!?!? Can we please stay on topic or issues that trigger us to smoke. I do not see the need in this blog nor do I find it funny. If I could copy & paste & use this computer well I could use Dales words that he choose so well to calm me when Tommy had his heart attach. I wrote to "My wise friend Dale", asking how could I be so upset about someone that I have never meet & probably never will. I said I was new to the internet & I did not understand how I could really care about these people. Dale told me how it is easier to get to know someone in 2d then in 3d. He said less distractions like appearance or thinking about what you will say next while they talk. It helped me understand. You remember don't you? Maybe I could have my son paste it here. To bad it not on the topic of smoking secession. Thanks Dale, Tammy
If you smoked, your life is not made up of just smoking. Your life is made up of everyday things that happen whether you smoke or not. Unfortunately, smokers use life's happenings for reasons to smoke.
I still stick with my answer, Carp Man, and I still like your song.
Have a beautiful, smokefree Saturday!
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Hello,
My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit.
HOW I QUIT
I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started.
When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.
