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Husband having eye surgery tomorrow

elvan
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I got a call this morning asking me if my husband had had anything to eat or drink today and I said, "he is eating right now."  It was from the eye center at the University of Virginia which is about an hour and a half from here.  She said that the doctor wanted him to come in and that he could not have anything to eat or drink for eight hours prior to surgery, they wanted to do surgery tonight and then send him home and have him return in the morning for a post operative check up.  I told her that I cannot drive at night so that's not going to happen.  She said she would check with the doctor and I asked about his medications because we were told by the ophthalmologist here that he would have to be off his plavyx for at least five days before surgery.  They disagree and think he will be fine.  He should just go ahead and take his medications in the morning and they want him at the clinic by 8:00 for a 4:00 surgery...wait, WHAT?????  I had a fit, seriously, I cannot have him there that early unless I get up at 4:00AM because it takes me 2-3 hours to be able to WALK, let alone try to drive.  I was ready to tell them to plan for NEXT week and a different assistant called me back and said that it would be a very bad idea to wait another week because there are changes in the retinal tear that could end up making the damage irreversible.  NOT my favorite word.  In any event, they agreed that he does NOT have to be there by 8:00, he can arrive by 11:00.  They gave me directions and we are eligible for free valet parking because we are BOTH handicapped.  If the surgery is at 4:00 and that IS an IF because another surgery could end up taking more or less time...IF it is at 4:00, he MIGHT get out and be able to be home before dark.  If it is after dark, Damon, our son, says he will come and drive him home and that I can go home before dark.  I said that would be okay...I guess.  I am not leaving until he is out of surgery.   He may be able to have his post operative check up at a doctor's office that is closer to here...if NOT, I will have to drive him back there on Thursday morning.  I am concerned about him getting carsick because he gets really sick in the car when he is not driving and there will be two trips in one day...there and back and then again the NEXT day after surgery.  I will ask them to medicate him for nausea so that maybe he will be able to sleep.  This is crazy...although I will be really glad to have his vision restored, if that happens.  This has been going on for well over a year but it got significantly worse after the heart attack and eye surgery cannot be done for at least six months after bypass surgery.  I am learning so much...I never assisted on eye surgery or cardiac surgery and everything would have changed so much in the time since I retired that it would not matter anyways.  

I will check in tonight, I have to run to the store for a few things...will probably check in quickly tomorrow but then I MAY be absent for a couple of days, depending upon how he does.  

Love to all...no smoking!

Ellen

39 Comments
Strudel
Member

As always Ellen, you have so much! You need more than one plate! 

I hope that it all works out well for your husband's surgery and getting him ( and you!!) there and back home! I will say a prayer for your husband and for you! Please take care - early to bed! 

Mandolinrain
Member

Oh man Ellen, as if you need yet another plate loaded. I hope your Son is well enough himself to help you. I wish I lived nearby, I would drive. I will be praying for you and Mike and Damon. Geese.....all at once...everything seems to happen that way and it is over-freakin-whelming. I get it.

Just know you have this mazing support system and friends here at EX. We may not be able to be there physically for each other but the generosity of love and prayers is a blessing in itself on this site and that builds us up. 

So when you get scared or worried, call on us...think on us...bring us to mind. We are all here for you. I am so sorry this is happening. Sending you Light~ love and prayers. xoxo

MarilynH
Member

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this but I'm also glad that your husband Mike is finally getting the surgery it's too bad that there isn't someone to drive you both there I'll be sending up good thoughts and prayers for you both and I pray that the surgery will be successful and that poor Mike doesn't get sick that wouldn't be good at anytime but especially after eye surgery,huge but gentle hug coming your way Ellen I wish you both a decent nights sleep and will be waiting to hear good news on his surgery and that you both are back home safe and sound .

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

I am very sorry that you have to endure all of this. It will get better.  Keep the faith. I believe it will work out. One thing at a time.  One day at a time.  Take care of your too. You will be in my prayers and thoughts that you make it through this. 

YoungAtHeart
Member

Your plate is so overfull that you simply cannot add more than one thing at a time to it.  You know the drill  - just deal with one thing at a time, get it done, and only then move onto the next.  Don't allow yourself to think of the "what-ifs."  Worry about them if and when they happen.  You can deal (and very well) with it all one thing at a time.

You are WOMAN!

Love, hugs and prayers coming your way.

Nancy

indingrl
Member

Dear Father God I come in MY Lord Jesus name asking comfort courage love wisdom and healing sent to MY Beloved Ellen and husband. Amen Thank you Daddy God for hearing and answering prayers amen Love you Ellen!

IrishRose
Member

Good grief, Lady, you cannot catch a break, eh???? 

I cannot drive at night either.  I had a macular hole in my eye back in 2016; I had to have surgery to repair it, but my eye never returned to the vision I had in it.

Take it easy - take care of yourself!  Good heartfelt thoughts coming your way for you and hubby.

((((((hug))))))

Irish Rose

Tabbiekat
Member

Thoughts and extra prayers are with you over the next few days.

xoxo

Tabbie

Jennifer-Quit
Member

Sending prayers for safe travels and a successful surgery.

KMC56
Member

So much on your plate Ellen...my prayers are with you and your husband.  Wish I lived closed to hep ya out my friend!

~Kathy

elvan
Member

Strudel‌ I need a PLATTER.  Thanks, honey.

freeneasy
Member

You and he will be in my thoughts and prayers Ellen. I've had lots of eye surgeries and they usually don't take long. I'm scared because I'm having cataract surgery and a shunt put in my "good" eye next week. A retina tear should not be too hard to repair as long as it has not started to detach.

elvan
Member

Mandolinrain‌ I am sure it will be alright...I just HAVE to get out of there before it gets dark...they asked if we could just spend the night somewhere and I said NO...I have "special needs" pets and I cannot leave them overnight.  We will get through this and I know I have the love and prayers of EX...I may try to take my silly little tablet with me if I can get wifi at this hospital.  Couldn't get it at the other one.  Nevermind....I think I will just text and have you or Nancy or Dale give updates.

My back is absolutely killing me tonight and I am sure it is partly related to the stress.  My body is over reacting! Thanks for the love.

Ellen

Mandolinrain
Member

Anytime , xoxo

elvan
Member

Thank you MarilynH‌ he really DOES need the surgery...I just wish it wasn't so far away and so LATE.  I will hope and pray that he does not get sick.  What a nightmare.  I will be glad when THIS is over.  Enough already!

Love and hugs.

Ellen

elvan
Member

JACKIE1-25-15‌ Thank you, dear lady...yes, I need to remember to keep it in the moment, can't rush through this either.  What will be, will be...we will get through this with prayer and the love and support of EX.

Ellen

elvan
Member

YoungAtHeart‌ You are RIGHT, I AM woman...hear me roar, hahaha, is that even the right song?  I am exhausted and in so much pain that I cannot stand it.  Have to get stuff set up for morning, I will be up early.  Love, hugs, and thanks.

Ellen

elvan
Member

indingrl‌ Thank you dear, sweet, Diane Joy, thank you so much. Bless you.

Ellen

elvan
Member

freeneasy‌ It IS detached, it has been for several months and now there are changes in the visual field.  He has a small tear, they said that will be easily repaired...the reattachment of the retina had to be done at a major facility because of his cardiac history.  It's also quite severe so they felt that it was urgent to do it NOW.  They could not do it until at least six months had passed since his heart attack.

I so hope that your cataract surgery goes well...you have been through so much with your eyes.  You know more than anyone.  I will be glad when this is over.  They said it was likely caused by his uncontrolled hypertension which was also partially to blame for his heart attack...of course 98% blockage in three arteries didn't help either.

Thanks for the support, Jim.

Ellen

elvan
Member

KMC56‌ Thank you, my friend.  Seriously...just another day in paradise here.

XOXO,

Ellen

elvan
Member

Jennifer-Quit‌ Thank you, sweet lady.  I hope work is getting better for you...big hugs.

XOXO,

Ellen

elvan
Member

Tabbiekat‌ I am SO TIRED and the next few days are going to be challenging, to say the least.  Thanks for your sweet thoughts.

 Ellen

elvan
Member

IrishRose‌ This vision thing is scary...if I try to do anything in the dark...I literally PANIC because it is like a black hood over my head.  I have an appointment for myself on the 23rd or 24th to figure out what is going on.  I KNOW my vision is failing for near and far but this night vision is terrifying.

Thanks for the comment.

XOXO,

Ellen

Sootie
Member

Good GOD! What a sad state our medical care is in....here they have two handicapped people; on Medicare; you would THINK there would be SOME WAY they could open just one damn bed to keep someone overnight......just one freaking night!!!!!! There is no longer any way for nay good judgement or common sense to be used in most things any longer.

(Climbing down off of my soap box!)

Hope everything goes ok Ellen---will keep you both in my constant prayers (with lots of head shaking and GOD, can you believe this?????!!!!)

elvan
Member

Thank you Sootie‌, our medical system is in sad shape.  I wish he could just stay overnight but who knows?  He may end up HAVING to if he is slow to recover from anesthesia or, God forbid, if there are any cardiac issues.  Saying prayers that he gets through this and back home without any complications. 

I am going to bed.

XOXO,

Ellen

Daniela2016
Member

Dear Ellen, you and Mike will be in my thoughts tomorrow, hoping everything will go by the plan.  Maybe this is stupid advice, when we know he has troubles seeing with one eye, but my own car sickness really stopped when I started driving; until then, my parents had me in the front seat, looking straight ahead at the road, never through the side windows.  But who knows it could be his eyes giving him the nausea during the car trips.

Hoping everything goes well and you can return home to your babies before sunset tomorrow.

Much love, hope and prayers your way!

Magstoyou
Member

Oh Ellen, so sorry you are having to go thu all this. Will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers!!

Hugs-Mags

freeneasy
Member

Sorry, your family has to deal with this Ellen. In March. I had surgery within 3 days after I noticed that something was wrong. Diagnosed on Thursday and surgery Friday morning. I was fortunate to have a good friend to help me and stay with in Philadelphia after surgery at Wills. Prayers for him-sometimes special positioning is required afterward. I had to face downward for the rest of the day after surgery. Once, I had to do it for 3 days 5 years ago. I thank God it worked this time. I know that quitting smoking helped. 

Sandi4
Member

Adding my prayers to all the above for you and your husband.

Giulia
Member

I must have missed something here.  Why on earth would they give you such short notice??!!!!   I mean this isn't like a lung or liver, or kidney transplant waiting list is it, where you have to have a bag packed and be ready to go????

This all is pretty sucky, but at least it will be over sooner than later because it's happened so fast.  So glad Damon will be there to help out, if necessary.  I hope it won't be.  I hope everything will go just swell and you'll both be home before sundown.  

RachelMB
Member

Thinking about you and Mike today Miss Ellen.  I'm sending prayers.  xoxoxo

Rachel

Barbscloud
Member

Thinking of you and hope everything works out.  Don't understand why things have to be so complicated.

elvan
Member

Thank you to everyone, will update when there is something to say...leaving in less than an hour.  Need to get dressed and get some things together so I have something to do while I wait...

Love you all,

Ellen

MarilynH
Member

We love you too Ellen we'll be sending up good thoughts and prayers for you and Mike both. XO 

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Christine13
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Ellen, so sorry I missed this - I wasn't on till this morning.  I am praying hard for Mike's vision to be restored and a successful surgery.  I am praying for you and Damon if he picks you up.  I can feel your panic, but it will all work out.

It will be a long day for both of you.  I hope you have a book to read while you wait.  As you know, I took care of Brian and the stress is the last six months was horrendous.  Deep Breathe while you are waiting and try and relax.

i pray all goes well, and that you can give us updates too.  

(((((Hugs Ellen)))))

Barbara145
Member

Thinking of you Ellen and praying for you and your husband in all things.  Love,   Barbara

Sootie
Member

Shouldn't have to have anything "go wrong" or anything in order to just be able to stay overnight. It's borderline criminal to expect people to do this. You are in my prayers. Keep us updated as you can and take care of YOURSELF too!!!

fmorris
Member

Hello, My boyfriend had very small procedure done on Aug. 7 & I haven't had the time to comment on our blog. Please know that your family will be in my deepest prayers.

You are a very strong person & I thank you personally for sharing this.

Your husband's procedure was way more serious than the procedure my boyfriend had. Yet, I was just as concerned re the outcome of the side effects of the endoscopy & now waiting for results of the 2 biopsies' taken.  I am not trying to sound "so very religious"; if there is a decent way to even say that. I'd just like to say without offending you or anyone that I love my God & I knew that praying together & our faith would help tremendously.

Again, I sincerely hope all is well with your husband & I will keep you both in my deepest of prayers.

Until next time....take care,

Baby Girl 

jconfusion
Member

I am so sorry dear ill be sending you both healing energy.

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Retired RN, worked ICU/ER developed RA in early 90's, unable to work because of brittle bones from high dose steroids. Diagnosed with COPD 5 yrs ago but sure it was there and progressing long before. Live with severe chronic pain, degenerative disc disease, had both upper lobes of my lungs removed in 2015. Struggle with shortness of breath. Work in son's cafe as a cashier 2 days a week to be around people. I am a people/animal person. Lost my home and three cats in a fire on my ten month anniversary of quitting smoking. Never thought of smoking, knew it wouldn't help anything.