How am I to do this?

[ren]

I've tried to quit smoking in the past, actually succeded for a whole year but when I got divorced I picked up the habit yet again and I've been unable to kick it this time.

I'm really wanting to quit, we've a big move planned ahead of us and I know the stress levels are going to be high. But, not only am I wanting to quit for myself, I have grandsons that I don't want around the smoke, one of them has asthma so it is essential that I quit not only for myself but for him especially and as well.

I have major problems when I try to go without cigarettes. My body tenses up so bad, my thoughts turn mean and I become in general, a bitch in every sense of the word.

I hate that.

How do I avoid that tenseness? I've stayed busy, I've done literally everything I can think of and I still end up chopping heads everytime I try to quit. Should I wait to quit until after the move is over? I think I should wait til then so I've picked out the last day of July to finally quit.

[mary41]

The path you follow is really your choice. You know best what you think is going to work for you. None of us has a crystal ball. Of course the sooner the better, BUT the key is the sooner the successful quit the better.

I debated stopping June 13th as we had a large crowd coming on the 16th (Father's day) - the family of my son's fiance, including grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. I ended up doing it, because I thought my motivation might decrease if I waited. It ended up working (so far at least) - because it was the right choice for me.

[donna22]

Unfortunately quitting does not bring out the best in us....it can be truly awful...all I can suggest is that you check out the ex plan, I was already quit when I found this site, but everyone here who has used it has only good things to say,that I have seen.
Are you planning on quitting cold trukey or using NRT...that's another issue.
Here's how I look at it, you quit for a year and I'm sure you remember how awful it was to quit but do you still remember how wonderful it was to not be a smoker? The freedom of going anywhere you want, smelling good, breathing better etc...You can do this...we're here to help this is a great support group...quit with us...

[rob17]

Just my $0.02, but I'd put it off until after the move if you know that it will be stressful. Stress is a major trigger (at least for me) and there will be enough unexpected stress to contend with without having to go through what you know will be a stressful time. (looking back at that sentence, I hope it made more sense to you than it did to me when I reread it).

Anyhoo, welcome to BecomeAnEx! There's bunches of helpful, supportive people here who can lend advice, help, and encouragement.

Cheers,
Rob

[bob32]

You can go ahead and start to work on your plan to quit . It's so important to have a plan and support . This site is awesome been all the difference to me . I smoked 30 plus years and have tried everything under the sun yo quit . Nothing ever worked till now . I'm on day 15 and positive I wont relapse .If I can quit believe me you can to I was a hardcore smoker . GOOD LUCK !!!