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He's Gone, Finally

libby
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Don't know where to start, I know some of you have been worried that I haven't been on lately, Spunkie. I have been thru a hell of a couple of weeks, hell it's been more like a year. Anyway those who have followed my trials and tribulations know that I have lived w/an alcoholic for 8 years, and need to get him out of my life. I finally got my opportunity, he's from Wilkes Barre, he had a funeral to go to today in Easton, Pa. I packed as many of his clothes that I could in his car and sent him on his way.

Is my Lawyer friend from Harrisburg still out there? My friend is so angry when he is drunk, he wants to take everything from me. Over the past 8 years he has given me around $3,000 worth of jewelry for bdays, a couple of weeks ago he sent all of what he gave me to his sister in Malverne. I guess that's legal? I have about that amount of paintings and furnishings of his left in my house, he intends on coming back for them soon. What does the law say, I guess the saying possession is 90% of the law isn't really true? He has never paid any rent for living w/me, he did pay the electric bill.

I pay some of his bills on line and have access to his bank account. If I were him I wouldn't be so nasty to me, but I am not going to jail for that. He left around 6 am this morning, when I went to work at 8 I realized my garage door opener was gone. He has to have taken it, but he says if he did it must have been a blackout. Imagine that, he's a lawyer too. Would not want to be his client. Anyway, just want to catch anyone who cares up on what's going on w/me. Alot more to come, just know nobody wants to read this much. To be continued........
12 Comments
mlynne
Member
Libby, you're doing so well with your quit. It's now time to break another bad habit. You will feel so much healthier in all respects once this man is no longer a part of your household. I wish you the best sorting out the legalities, and I know you are making the right decision.
libby
Member
Thanks MLynne for the encouragement, don't know if I would have done this w/o all the support here.
Brenda_M
Member
Libby, I don't know what all the legal implications are, though I know that gifts are gifts, so if he took the gifts he gave you, that's not legal. That said, if I were you, I'd cut my losses and change the locks. Tell him that he can come with a police escort to pick up his remaining items, if he wants to bother. Good for you for getting him out of your life!
debbie_
Member
I am so sorry to read about all that you have gone through. I agree with Brenda M above me.I would change the locks and get a police escort if he wants his things back, if it was me, I would throw his stuff on the lawn! But on a serious note, I would also change the code in the garage door lock or unplug it. If he's an angry drunk like you say, you don't want to deal with his anger anymore for your safety. You might consider a restraining order. I hope & pray the best for you. Just remember your quit! You are doing great and you dont want to ruin it on a guy like that.
libby
Member
Yes Deb, my quit is too important to me. I will deal w/a relationship later.
brian39
Member
Way to go Libby I remember your postings in chantix a couple of weeks ago
cindywilson
Member
I agree with Brenda on the gifts, and I am so happy he is gone, this is the best thing for you...my father was an alcoholic and nasty with it...
sue-otts
Member
Congrats Libby. I know what it is like to live with an alcoholic too. And I know how hard it is to break off a relationship with one as well. Take care of you and do whatever is necessary to keep you safe. I'm still around if you need me. Hugs!
teresa15
Member
Good for you Libby! I wish you much happiness, you deserve it!
spunkie
Member
I do not know what it is like to go thru what you have my mother was an alcoholic and I knew as a child what it was like but my parents didn't fight or anything .. it was just that my Mother was there for me like I had wanted and she died at age 47 Oh how I miss her... I am so glad you may be free of him maybe now you can settle down and be good to yourself I sure hope you deserve a good life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SMOKE FREE AND LOVING IT
cory7
Member
Libby,
sorry to hear that you've been thru so much pain with your guy. i do understand alcoholism. it's not pretty! i do hope that you hang in there. get help legally if you need it. we're all here to help you too.
Giulia
Member
This episode in your life you will learn from and get over. And you will be the stronger for it. The sooner you dwell in your future happiness rather than the present and past, will benefit you, I think. What he gave you, what he took....let it go. Your freedom is what matters most now, I would think.

Stay true to your quit. That's something that's all yours. And nobody can take it away from you.

Change the code on your garage door opener......