Had a cigarette this morning

[Josephabq]

So I woke up this morning feeling like I was going to not make it through the day without smoking. The thoughts that were running through my mind were your low-income you're not working right now so you never have any money and you probably won't for a while so you won't be able to afford to buy another vehicle which means you'll have to keep taking public transportation which is inconvenient and on and on and on so on and so on and so on just feeling like I'm on my on the pity pot so I'm realizing that this is no different than my other addictions alcohol and drugs it says the same things to me it's just a mind game you know and I'm used to giving into it so I need to break that habit somehow and not give into it so I'm not giving up where I'm at. Going to just keep trying

[AnnetteMM]

So your solution to having no money, no job, and no transportation is to spend money on cigarettes and keep destroying your health. You can see how addiction lies to us, can't you? "You're already down, you might just as well go further down." Makes so little sense! Okay you smoked. You know better. Reclaim your quit right now! 

[JACKIE1-25-15]

You came here earlier for help and it appears that you did not use it.  So my first question is where did you get the cigarette from IF you have no money so quickly.  You have to change the trying to doing.  If you can go 24 hours without smoking you can go 48.  It's what you put in your head.  Quitting smoking requires you to think that you can; not that you can't .  Once you start believing that you can you will get pass trying you will start doing.  IF you are willing to do whatever is necessary to quit.  Get rid of all smoking paraphernalia.  This is another day ONE if you smoked. 

[Josephabq]

Our neighbor gave me a cigarette I have $9 left in my checking account but I'm not buying a pack of cigarettes

[MarilynH]

Deep breaths, I'm not going to kick you while you're down but I'm really hoping that you'll pick yourself back up and do some more reading here to strengthen your resolve again to kick the nicotine poison to the curb and start living a life of Freedom, I know how difficult quitting smoking is but the withdrawals and moodswings and lack of sleep won't kill you but continuing to smoke just might so prepare yourself for Day ONE so you can say yay for Day WON and plow forward to many more days of Smokefree living, you can do this believe it and stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance....

[Josephabq]

And yes I have come here looking for help but I'm just being honest about what's going on with you I don't know if you can relate because maybe you just quit without ever floundering if so great for you but I'm just being honest about my experience here

[Josephabq]

I meant I'm being honest with what's going on with me not with you

[freeneasy]

You're used to giving into it so you need to break the habit somehow? Just a suggestion- learn about nicotine addiction, decide on a quitting strategy and a new start date and stick to it. You need to believe in yourself to stop. Trying won't get you stopped- doing will. By doing, I mean learning, building confidence, and being willing to stick with it and asking for help. 

[AnnetteMM]

We've all floundered! Seriously. And there's lots of relapsing and strong feelings here. This site works because we ARE honest and we DO talk about it. Honestly? If I had a neighbor with cigarettes I could get so easily, I'd have a much harder time. No lie.

[JACKIE1-25-15]

 I am being honest and have been honest and will always be Totally Honest with you.  Quitting smoking is not easy.  It takes a lot of work, commitment, determination, believing that you can.  You keep saying that you can't.  I was trying to get you to see that you had to change your thinking.   It is up to you to receive.  Our addictive brains can be very defensive when it comes to acknowledging that we need help.  I am just here to help. Take what you can use and leave the rest. And this is my truth. Hopefully you will not go to your neighbor to get another cigarette. Been there done that.  I finally told him I quit smoking and if I asked for a cigarette do not give me one

[Tabbiekat]

Thank you for being honest, it is not about being honest with us, but being honest with yourself. As I was approaching my quit I asked myself as I was smoking what was I getting from it? For me I got a scratchy throat, a burn in my lungs and a couple of minutes to waste time as I hurt myself. Smoking for me was a form of self punishment. Quitting is not easy, but it is possible. Don't look at your first smoke this morning a a slip for today, look at it as a mistake, a single mistake and don't do it again. If you haven't already make a list of things you can and will do the next time a craving hits. Do a search on this site for Things to do instead of smoke, a few lists are available to give you ideas of things you can and are willing to do. Make that list specific to you. I know you mentioned you smoke in your apartment and it smells. Did you smoke inside today? Did you do any cleaning yesterday to get rid of the smell? If not maybe clean the area where you sleep or where you were when the craves hit hard this morning. It is up to you to change your habits and environment to make getting past the craves a bit easier.

It is your choice, but I suggest no more today, no more ever.

Wishing you the best

Tabbie

[Daniela2016]

No one is judging you here Josephabq‌, everybody is trying to help. 

We are sharing our own experiences in hopes one of them might work for you too.  It is the mindset about smoking which needs to change, before you can actually quit.  And sometimes that happens gradually, not at once!  I quit one day when I was so sick I could barely inhale air, let alone smoke, I thought "this might be my clue".  I purchased 2 weeks of Nicotine patches and 2 e-cigarettes.  I destroyed anything else.  After 2 weeks of patches I had just a vaping device, and trying to decrease the level of nicotine in the juice, using it as a smoking cessation aid.  Then I came here, and it took me another chunk of time to accept that I can never, ever, have another cigarette again, because once I did I'll go back to smoking full time.

Don't be too hard on yourself, but make sure your mind is in the right place before you start your clock again.  You can quit gradually, Dale says: "when you want to smoke, just delay that by a little, ask yourself do I really need it?".  There are so many ways of quitting, with or without any chemical aid (drugs, e-cigarette, patches, gum), but it is being honest with yourself about the quit which will seal the deal.

[Mandolinrain]

I had more failed quits then I have fingers and toes so no judgement here, but you sure got some honest good advice above. It was not until I spent every free moment I had and truly studied this site, what people were trying to get into my thick skull  and read read read, that I came to a genuine understanding of WHY I kept failing.

It's understanding how the nicotine is keeping you hooked and what to do when it beacons your name. Many many of us failed....I agree with the advice above and I hope you take it. So you screwed up today,...its not the end of the world. Figure out what you will do the next time differently and READ on this site the many blogs. Also a site called WHYQUIT.COM was a wonderful avenue for learning tools I and many others used.

Now come on, get back to it as soon as you can! We care about you and when people come to this site for help...we are honest with them of what has worked for us....because we want you to have what we finally have. FREEDOM...take what will help you from someones words and leave the rest...theres always someone who will take your leftovers!

We do care about you!

Missy

[indingrl]

Cool keep on keeping on 

[elvan]

So sorry that you are struggling, that said, please know that there are very few people on this site who did not struggle, who were not challenged, it was NOT easy for me and I would never tell anyone that it was but I WILL say that it gets easier.  Addiction is addiction, no matter what the drug is...the psychological part is many times harder to get through than the physical part.  The psychological part goes on and on and we have to realize that every minute that we are smoke free, we are stronger.  You CAN do this, I sincerely hope that you get right back to your quit and go forward...one minute at a time.

Ellen

[indingrl]

Hello Ellen how are you?

[Mike.n.Atlanta]

Agree with JACKIE1-25-15‌...If you wanna change your life, change your mind.

Keep on keepin on,

M n @

[Sandy-9-17-17]

Being honest about your slip up is great!  This is why this site is so great!  It's because you can be honest and those who care are going to be stern with you, sure!  But only because we all want to help aid you into success!   Quitting does take work, and commitment!  Ask your neighbor to commit to helping you by not freely passing one out to you when asked!

A good friend wants to see you succeed.... A good friend will not help you fail!    

I am glad you came and spoke of your difficulty!  I hope you fight harder and do all the reading you can here.  It will help in a big way!  

Hope to see you stay and fight !  

Sandy

[maryfreecig]

  Just as addiction became a way of life, so does smobriety. We all know self pity and it can be quite convincing though never fun. There is something better than addiction and self pity --and feeling helpless. Smobriety is for you. Find your yes to getting better.

[darnPainter]

Awesome pro-active advice about the neighbor JACKIE1-25-15   Thanks. Josephabq Justification is the crutch of the uncommitted. Especially if the justification is next door. 

[Bchabra64]

Still working on the desire to stop smoking! Gave up alcohol and funny cigs, time to stop cigs!  I will be sixty five in June !! I have a court case coming up and to much stress now!! I read these posts and getting ideas! I go to book store and read books, write down the page and go back and finish!! It’s free great book!   What do I say when I talk to myself!! Later

[Bchabra64]

Love it!!

[MarilynH]

Hi Josephabq, how are you doing?  I thought I'd check in with you I hope you're still here with us because we're here for you. 

[MarilynH]

You can quit believe it and be willing, determined and totally committed to succeed and you can and will be successful, read everything you can about quitting smoking and remaining quit because there's a wealth of information here to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb and start living a life of Freedom then pick your quit date and start Day ONE then at the end of the day you'll be able to say Yay for Day WON with many more to come, quitting smoking is a choice and you can choose Freedom....