HELP

[easybreathing]

Today I have no intrest in maintaing my quit. All of this anger and stress seem my breaking point. This is nothing like the original days 1 through 3 this is much much worse, and to be honest I am not sure that relationship is going to survive this. My anger seems mostly to get taken out on my finace and I feel like he is so stupid about the entire thing, and unhelpful that he just pisses me off anymore. I can't even talk to him.

I really feel like it is time to just give up. I don't want to feel like this, only half of it is the cravings the other half is the anger. I hate feeling so angry. I don't know what to do. I can not distract myself from how mad I am, and find things to do usually makes me more pissed off. I just don't know anymore.

[Junior7]

Things will get easier if you don't smoke.  The first two weeks are the hardest for most people.  Hang in there!

[mellie4]

please dont give up, smoking will not help the situation if anything it will make it so much worse because you will really feel dissapointed in yourself. stay strong when you feel all that anger do something else to channel your feelings go run,do jumping jacks, drink ice cold water, call someone who you havent talked to in a while and just say hi, take a shower.... so much other things that you can do besides smoking.

[karen-lane]

i know that feeling, just keep at it, one good thing to do is excercise, walking is great for making u feel better, whether u want to or not, as far as others that annoy u, the best right now when u feel so bad is to just be quiet, they don't understand unless they have been thru it, so get thru it, write a note or just tell the others u need space right now, get out and walk it off, just walk it off, lol, u can do this, stay free, u will be so happy later on, so they tell me, lol.  stay strong in ur quit, protect it, live it, be it.

[froguelady]

Please do not smoke, this will go away.  Keep your eyes on the prize and that is FREEDOM from nicotine.  You are letting it control you, take back your control.  I at one time had a terrible temper, I learned to control it by realizing that when I let someone make me angry I gave them control of me..I want to be in control of myself, nothing or no one can take that from me unless I let them.  Hang in there, it is worth it.

[Jenny78]

Totally agree with Froguelady.  You can walk away from your anger and feel great about it because you just took charge.  And you know what?  In that moment when you realize that the anger is gone so is the urge to smoke.

[janetlynn]

If you give in and smoke your just  gonna be more pissed off. Not only at yourself but at your boyfriend. Do not rely on anyone to help you get thru this. This is your demon. Have you tried a nicotene replacement therapy? I know that I could no of done it with out the patch especially in the early days when everything ticked me off.

[kris54]

MEL... PLEASE STAY FOCUSED.  YOU CAN DO THIS!

I totally understand the frustration and the 'need' to run to what you 'think' comforts you...... but Sweetie.... its NOT the answer.  The comfort comes from within...... knowing that you can get through anything without turning to a cigarette!

Stay here with us today.  You... your life and your health are WORTH what it takes to get through this.

 Guilia, wisely said it in another blog..... DON'T MAKE THIS BIGGER THAN IT NEEDS TO BE!!

HANG IN THERE.  THIS WILL PASS.

[jezzie59]

HANG IN THERE.......WALKING HELPS ME....I'M RAISING MY 2 GRANDSONS 8 AND 16....SO YOU KNOW I DO A LOT OF WALKING....SOMETIMES  THESE KIDS DRIVE ME CRAZY......LOL...

[YoungAtHeart]

The first few days are the most difficult ---- get through them and it DOES get easier.  I promise!

It is difficult for others to understand how hard this is for us addicts.  Have you tried to explain it is worse than cocaine?  They say it is, anyway!  If that doesn't help explain it, then just stay away from that aggravation as much as you can.  I agree with others that a brisk walk cures SO much.  Even if it is just around the block!

You CAN this do!  Don't give up - it is SO worth the struggle!

Nancy

[Mrs.Rum]

Go do what you'd do if you still smoked.  You'd walk away from the situation.  That's the crutch a smoke really gives you.  A reason to walk away from the frustration for a few minutes.  You can still do that.

Also remember - and this is helping me - even when you were smoking, your fiancee still made you mad.  Smoking neither helps nor hinders that truth.

[Jordan-11-1-12]

You've gotten some great advice here!!  You can do this!!  Don't give up and and give your control back to a drug!!  You deserve better than that!!  It WILL get better, promise.

As was already said, the best thing you can do for anger is something physical. Try not to dwell on anger or a crave, just start walking, running, jumping, dancing... whatever!

Tell your fience to give you space for a couple days. Like MrsRum said, you can still walk away, without lighting up. When I get angry, my thoughts still go to cigs, but its not the cigs I'm craving. I'm craving the walking away and being alone to pace and think. Grab a straw to chew on and pace!!!

It will get better as long as you don't smoke!!  Please let us know how you're doing!!!