I thought I was ready to quit smoking, but darn it!!! I took a cigarette this morning without coming here first! I feel so very guilty. I am going to start again now. Next time, I will go to the site first.
I did not delete anything. What are you talking about? I live at the YMCA. There is no shortage of cigarettes here. I don't have any in the house. I bummed one.
I want one-no I don't. One sounds great-no it doesn't. Oh just one-not just one. If you keep thinking in terms of "one" this kind of internal debate is non-relenting-it will slowly drive you nuts.
So, don't carry on this debate. Don't think in terms of one. Think in terms of full-fledged smoking. The full quantity, the social stigma, the stench, the costs, the risks. I'm not advocating looking at them negatively. Just look at them how they were-really were at the end.
They were making you sick and tired enough of them that you voluntarily put yourself into withdrawal to break free from them. You did it. Now just keep them in perspective. If you used to smoke 20 a day, say to yourself when the urge hits that "I want 20 a day, every day, for the rest of my life, till it cripples, then kills me." As soon as you hear yourself say it in that perspective you will likely find yourself next saying, "What am I thinking? I don't want to smoke that way." That will be the end of that particular discussion.
What are you talking about Wendy? I read the comments from this and your previous blog and did not see where anyone said you deleted something. Did you get a private message saying that? ALL the comments have been helpful and encouraging. I hope you will take them to heart.
Smoking cessation is the one activity where PROCRASTINATION is a highly desireable trait. Just do nothing -- let the moment pass. Smoking on the other hand required taking action -- seeking out a smoker, asking to bum a cigarette, lighting up, breathing the fumes in & again & again. You need to regroup & get your mindset in the right place. Only you can do that for yourself. Best wishes to you!
Thank you all. Good advice. I know I should start now, but I figured out that all my successful attepts were when I quit at noon. Don't ask me why, I really don't know. So, I am going to quit tomorrow at noon. I WILL QUIT TOMORROW, no ifs ands or buts about it.
I don't know where you live Wendy, but it's 4 minutes until noon here right now. No time like the present. Forgive me, but it sounds like you are delaying with the "noon" statement.
There is no time like the present. I smoked for 51 or 52 years, I went thru smoking cessation classes probably 5 times. Last I started with EX in January, It didn,t work. Whrn I back this time on July 30, I knew I was ready. I quit on August 3. There are times I think I would like a smoke, I come on here and pour my heart out. The answer is I DON'T Want a smoke. I've worked too hard at this to fail. Saturday will be 7 weeks and I'll be Damned if I will through all my hard work down the drain. Plus your fellow EX s have been so helpful, I couldn't disappoint them. Before you put the cigerette in you mouth look at that full ashtray Smoked out put up, it is 6 comments before mine. Do you want that, I sure don't
No I don't want that, and yes I am stalling till tomorrow. I am not ready today. But please know that it is my honest intent and desire to quit tomorrow, and I WILL do it...
Just as long as you do it. Wendy, as I told you before, I"M 68 yrs old and 7 yrs ago I had my left kidney removed. After surgery I had a brain anurisum ( spelled wrong I know) the doctors couldn't get it to stop. When they finally did I had a stroke. When I woke up, my family was there. I couldn,t talk or write. I could hear and understand them, but words wouldn,t come out. I don't know why it took me so long to quit after that experience. I'm telling you this so you can take care of the problem before it reaches the point mine did
I don't believe that there is something that I can say, that youhave not said to yourself already. but I just want to point something out to you.
You wrote that all your successful attempts were when you stopped smoking at noon. Wendy, none of those attempts were successful, if they had been , you would not be smoking!
I am just trying to point out to you, that yes, you are stalling, and i think that before anything else, you have to figure out why.
I was where you are as well one day. And I think that we all were. I know that for me, stalling is something I did, simply because I did not want to stop smoking. I think you stall, because when it comes to stopping smoking, TOMORROW , seems far away. If you say TOMORROW at NOON , I will stop, you give yourself permission to smoke TODAY. And well, as a former smoker, I know that when you want to smoke, all that matters is, that you can smoke today, right now, or in 5 minutes, what matters is that you know you will get to smoke. If you say, I ll stop smoking TOMORROW at NOON, then you cheat yourself into believing that it is okay to smokeTODAY , because you have made the decision to stop smoking TOMORROW at NOON. so now, you have removed the " i should not be smoking" and replaced it with giving yourself permission to smoke today, because after all, you are stopping TOMORROW at NOON. You have now cheated yourself into making the RIGHT DECISION, without REQUIRING ACTION. The results of that we all know too well.
I am not saying these things lightly , or to criticize, but I say them because I understand, I have been there. am sharing this with you because you have been going back to smoking, and I , with everyone else here, would so like to see you smoke free, and healthy.
I hope that you will take the time, to find the reason for your stalling, relapsing and I also hope that you will read my post, in the spirit, in which it was written, being genuine concern, caring for you!
Bravo Rizza, well said! Genuine and constructive. Wendy, only YOU can choose to stop smoking, nobody else can make that decision for you. Please examine what Rizza said, but know that when you make that choice to quit, we are all right here for you, to support you and help you! You can do this 😄
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