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SamanthaAshley
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Hello, my name is Samantha and I’m 31 years old. I have been smoking for 14 years now and really want/need to quit. I have tried multiple times with no success. The only time I was able to quit was when I was pregnant with my youngest (13 years ago) and I remember being miserable. I had a premature birth (due to other complications). My cravings never went away, so when she was delivered at 25 weeks, I, without any hesitation, started smoking again. I regret it everyday. I want to stay healthy for my family and I’m starting to worry about my health, to the point I can’t sleep at night. I was told to set my quit date for 2-4 weeks out. I set mine for August 1st. My plan is to cut down every few days and then just stop on the 1st. I’m really wondering if this even helps and if it would be better to just stop cold turkey. I do want to note that I suffer from PTSD, Panic attacks, social anxiety, general anxiety and can fall into depression easily. This has made it very hard for me to quit. I work as a photographer but am home more than not and am by myself during the day. I often get bored and smoking is the first thing I want to do. Any tips would be much appreciated as I feel like this is a life changing decision and will not only help my physical health, but my mental health as well. Though it feels like it’s relieving me when I smoke, I know in reality it is making everything so much worse. I’m ready to be done. 

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indingrl
Member

animated_1593467055981.gif and CONGRATS on desiring a NON SMOKER life style - SUGGESTIONS to ME were to read the blogs here and to do all the information given here on EX - to practice living in this DAY only - WE live by CHOOSING NEW ideas NEW habits - when a craving hits bite into a lemon then come here and blog BEFORE YOU suck on NICOTINE DEATH STICKS - please know to be HELPFUL is MY only aim - please take what HELPS and let go of the rest - thank you

SamanthaAshley

Thank you so much!! I have never heard of biting into a lemon when craving! I’m definitely going to try that!! I really appreciate your feedback and look forward to any more advice from you in the future!! It’s very reassuring to see a success story. Gives me hope! Stay blessed! 

MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the community you've made the best decision that you'll ever make in your lifetime and it's definetly the best gift that any of us will ever give ourselves which is the GIFT OF LIFE please read everything you can because there's a wealth of information right here on this site to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb permanently it's not easy by any stretch of the imagination BUT thankfully it's DOABLE when your day ONE arrives you'll be able to say at the end of the day YAY for Day WON with many more to come.... Stay close because we're all here to help you in any way we can, I liked chomped on carrots and celery sticks the chomping noise seemed to calm me,I also drank alot of water and still do and I kept a bag of sugar free mints around in case of of any unforseen cravings. SamanthaAshley22

Barbscloud
Member

Welcome SamanthaAshley22   Sorry, I'm running a little late to day.  Glad you found us and are committed to quitting smoking.  It's the best thing you can do for yourself.  Use this time to education yourself about nicotine addiction by reading posts on this site.  The realization that it is an addiction is the first step to success.  Next, create a quit plan with the tools you'll use to become an ex-smoker.  My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX  Sounds like to me that your ready for your forever quit.  It's taken most of us multiple attempts, but finally we realize we're ready to make the commitment and to do the work    Having support for other quitters really made the difference for me.  We're here to support you and know you can do it.  Continue to stay close leading up to your quit.  Just reach out anytime you need encouragement or just want to share your journey.  It is your journey and it's unique to you.

One day at a time will lead to success.

Barb

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to the community!

Einstein is quoted, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result."  What will you do differently to create a successful quit?  I suggest education, planning, preparation, support and commitment.  We can help with all but the last.  You will learn when you do the reading that a great deal of your anxiety is actually CAUSED by smoking.  Read on to better understand why.

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This easy and entertaining read provided a world of good information about nicotine addiction, most of which I was not aware.  I credit it in large part with my success at quitting.   You can search for it online or at your local library.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

 

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for obvious reasons.

It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...


The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.


Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Daniela2016
Member

You have already received a lot of good advice, and we all quit differently. 

I've been quit for a little over 4 years, the first week I used the 14mg patches, along with the electronic cigarette.  Then I kept on using the e-cigarette while reducing the nicotine in the juice with the objective to smoke nothing but juice, no nicotine at all.  However at the end of one month, I was so depressed, I knew I needed support and I found this site. 

Here I have been given tips, stuff to read (Allan Carr's book "the easy way to quit smoking, $7.00 on Amazon), and ideas about what to do with my hands for the hand to mouth habit.  You'll find whatever works best for you.  It is not easy, but it is not impossible; we all thought it was impossible until we switched our thoughts to the "yes, it is possible". 

Our thoughts are in charge of our actions, emotions, and ability to accomplish things. "Change your thoughts, change your life".  Meditations helped me a lot also.  I've learnt what adult coloring books are, and took pleasure in spending time on them. 

You can learn how to crochet, sewing, or any other interesting activity which will keep your mind occupied.  You are already an artist: how about you think of other ways to approach what you do, something out of the box and start on an additional artistic path.  The possibilities are endless, and you, like all of us are able to do it.

You are in the right place for all the support you need on your path to freedom!

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SamanthaAshley

Thank you so much for all the information!!

maryfreecig
Member

When I decided to quit in 2013 I looked online for stories of people who quit successfully --youtube mostly. I needed to see what the future could be even if I felt very uncertain about my own ability to quit. Over time I've learned that we all carry the same potential to quit. There are no have-got-its and haven't-got-its regarding quitting--we all can quit.  Most of us need support of some kind because smoking means nicotine addiction. You are not just ending a habit, you are ending an addiction. 

Here at Ex you will here the same things over and over again because these things are worth hearing over and over again. One of these is    quitting is not an event, it's a journey --so true! At first we have to do whatever it takes to not smoke, then we have to get used to not smoking at everything by learning to face life rather than run to a cigarette. No matter how awkward or stressful this journey seems, if you do not smoke, you will find the non smoking life you are hoping for. Addiction can't hold onto you forever as you let go. Early on, quitting is most often about changing behavior. A few lucky people catch on quick and start changing their thinking and attitude. Many of us have to to the grunt work until we get it. Either way, quitting is a great journey for your whole person.

We are all rooting for you here at Ex. Stick around, read, learn, blog, comment. Ex is here for you.

Helpful Blogs, Discussions, Comments, Videos, Links, Info Re Quitting 

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/newbie-quitters/blog/2019/01/27/one-of-the-greatest-tools-... 

Dopamine - the Double Edged Blade 

/blogs/oldbones-larry/2020/05/08/two-sides 

YouTube  Doc Evans Best thing you can do to quit smoking

Strudel
Member

Welcome to the site! You are in exactly the right place for support. Please check out the Carr book Nancy mentioned - it really helped me and many others! I came here after smoking for 40 years and I quit! That was 10 years ago - you can do this! 

elvan
Member

Welcome to EX, you have gotten some of the best advice there is. Education, support, & commitment to your quit will get you through ANYTHING. I smoked for 47 years & have now been quit for over six thanks to the amazing support & education from this site. I came here every morning & every evening when l quit. NOPE, Not One Puff Ever! 
Again, welcome to EX.

Ellen

sweetplt
Member

HI and Welcome to Ex’s...SamanthaAshley22 

So glad you found our site.  You have received a lot of good information above me...do the readings and the work.  I have General Anxiety Disorder from having PTSD from two brain aneurysms .... Believe me smoking is adding to the anxiety...I am quit 587 days and my anxiety has improved.  However, that being said, you should talk to your Doctor who diagnosed you and tell him/her you are quitting smoking and what are some suggestions for you having PTSD...for example, I learned breathing exercises, I walk and exercise, I meditate and pray, etc., together you and your Doctor may be able to come up with some solutions.  You can do this and we are here to help...keep close to the support site...

Colleen 

Terry75
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Congrats, SamanthaAshley22‌ for taking this brave step again to free yourself from the nicotine shackles. You and I are new here, but as you can see already, there are so many awesome people here that are in our corner to help us be successful in this journey. I’m pretty much a loner too and I would smoke out of boredom as well, but I’ve spent this whole weekend praying and reading all of the blogs and advice and success stories on here and that has given me so much motivation!! Girl, you can do this. Just say NOPE Not Even One Puff!!! I’ve said this about a thousand times this weekend already lol. You’re not alone. You just have to change your habits and activities a bit. We’re all here. 

hstokes210
Member

Welcome!! I just joined 5 days ago and have not

vaped since. I already feel so much better! I just went cold turkey and the first couple days were pretty bad with cravings but I started eating peppermints and chewing gum instead and coming on here. I let my friends at work know I was quitting and they were super encouraging! It’s a tough road but so worth it! Keep to it (: seriously keep coming to this website, this is such a great group of encouraging people and we are all rooting for you! 

Terry75
Member

Good morning and welcome, hstokes210‌. Big congrats to having the courage to take this journey to becoming smoke free. I’m new too and have embraced and been embraced by everyone and all the information here. Let’s do this.

RoseH
Member

How to Make a Plan to Stay Quit

A Repost by Grammax s. from the old Quitnet.com

 

I remember how overwhelmed I felt before I quit smoking almost two years ago…  I hope this will help all new members to understand that smoking is a terrible addiction, and that it is not hard to form a plan to stop killing ourselves slowly and learn how to live a completely happy life smoke free!

 

It isn't a matter of just slapping on a patch or chewing some nicotine gum.  Every behavior you can think of is tied to your smoking.  We smoked because we were happy, sad, mad, hurt, tired, sick, bored... etc.

 

You need to replace those habits.

 

Take a day to make a plan.  We call it a Quit Kit.  It can be anything you want.   

Get creative and really think about it.

 

Some things folks have used is nicotine gum.  You can buy regular gum the same size, color and flavor so you can go back and forth between the two.

 

If you are using the patch, make sure you have an extra patch in the office, in your purse, or in your wallet, for those days when you have forgotten to put one on in the morning.  It happens more than you think!

 

Have lozenges available for those high stress / high craving times.

 

Have some Red Vines to 'smoke'.  Or a cut up a straw into thirds...  especially during high trigger times like driving.  Sometimes it feels good to just hold if you are accustomed to always having a smoke in your hand.

 

Grab your favorite CDs or tapes to put in your car so you can put one in and sing out loud.

 

My favorite was dancing and singing at the same time.

 

Your brain cannot do a 3rd thing, so thinking about smoking just disappears  🙂

 

To keep your mind and hands busy, go to a local arts/crafts store and look for things to do.  Buy something that interests you; rug hooking kits, scrapbooking stuff, or Christmas stocking kits for the grandkids.  Or, get some coloring books and colored pencils or felt tip pens.  Stained glass, floral, tropical fish or Native American motif coloring books are available everywhere now. They make you want to do a good job.  LOL!  Dora the Explorer would make me want to scribble on her face  😮

 

Make a list of everything that needs to be done, or you want to do around the house.  Go through each room and write down everything from cleaning out drawers and closets to painting, rearranging or redecorating.

 

Same with the garage and yard work...

 

Once you have your list, break it down into 5-15 minutes segments so nothing becomes overwhelming.

 

Make baggies of crunchy foods to satisfy your mouth so they are at work and handy to grab...  Carrots, celery, Chex mix, pretzel sticks (you can hold those like a cig), gum, etc.   They need to be ready to just grab at any given time.

 

This is important!  Get on BecomeanEx.com and ask for help!

 

[The Old Quitnet.com way… The 3 Post Rule:  When you are craving and really shaky, post and click the “I'm craving and need some help” box.  Wait for at least 3 response posts before you make a decision to purchase cigarettes or to smoke.  Most times, you will be fine once you read the posts (keeps you from dwelling).  If not...post again and wait for 3 more...] 

 

Once you have all these things figured out you will be well prepared to handle anything, and you don't even have to think...just look at your list…

 

Keep 1 copy at work, 1 at home, 1 in your purse or wallet, 1 in the car. 

 

If you did one day, you can do 2.  If you did 3, you can do one more.

 

No future tripping. You can't do a darn thing about tomorrow until it gets here. Today is a good time to quit but if you feel you can't, then take tomorrow to put together your Quit Kit and quit the day after.

 

Don't set a quit date out there for 2 weeks, 1 month, etc. All you do is make yourself crazy in your head by stressing over that date.

 

And Remember!  Having support here is the key to success!  It is so much better to quit together!  Rosemary

SamanthaAshley

Thank you for your comment! I had a quit date set for The first of next month but I just don’t think it will soak for me. My plan is to finish this pack and than quit cold turkey. I know I have some habits to change and I know how hard this will be but I’m so happy I found this site! The people here have been amazingly supportive, informed and helpful. Gives me confidence that I can do thin:) I think cold turkey is the way to go. Thank you again for your kind worlds!

SamanthaAshley

Thank you so much!!

SamanthaAshley

Thank you so much!! I wish you the best and am excited to see your success along the way!! Have a blessed day!! 

SamanthaAshley

Thank you for taking the time to post. Your kind words and information are greatly appreciated. Have a blessed day.

SamanthaAshley

Thank you so much for the helpful information and inspiring words. Gives me hope that I will conquer this horrible habit! 

SamanthaAshley

I’m so happy for you! This gives me hope that I will succeed! Thank you for your inspiration and support!

YoungAtHeart
Member

You have plenty of time before August 1st (if that is the first to which you are referring) to get ready. You can work to change up your routines and find substitutes for your cigarettes just as well after you quit as before.   If I may be frank (and I hope you won't be offended!   ) putting it off is just your addictive self providing excuses. I know this is scary; it was for all of us. I chain smoked the day before my quit date, but I made the decision and honored it each minute and hour going forward.  I quit on my first and only attempt and my quit is now over 8 years old.  .I credit a lot of my success to the Carr book, and to the support and knowledge I gained here.   This isn't easy, but with our preparation materials and support, you CAN do it.   Get reading, especially the book by Allen Carr, and I think you will then agree with me!  Let us know if you have questions or need support.  It's what we are here to do!

Nancy

Barbscloud
Member

That's great!

Barb

maryfreecig
Member

Yes you can kick nicotine addiction!  

RoseH
Member

I sent you a Quit Kit in a private message...  We all need a plan to quit, in the beginning!  Yes, if I smoked for 50 plus years and quit, you certainly can too!  And you are much smarter than me!  Because I got COPD before I quit...  God bless and help you SamanthaAshley22

elvan
Member

Thinking of you and hope that you are doing well and feeling stronger each day with each breath!

Ellen

tyndallgw
Member

Congrats on 7 days quit....quite an accomplishment.