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FEAR

AnnetteMM
Member
7 16 226

Fear is normal. Fear tells us about danger and informs our choices. It's the emotion I see expressed most often here. And  it makes perfect sense.

Why quit smoking? Because we fear the consequences of not quitting, to be perfectly honest. We've known all the positives of quitting all our lives. Didn't matter.  It was fear that motivated us to change.

Fear of loss of our health, our teeth, our lungs, our family and our money. Fear that our health insurance and our life insurance might cost too much. Fear of going anywhere because we can't smoke there. Fear of running out of cigarettes. Being sick and tired of FEAR.

And now there's the fear of quitting on top of the fear of not quitting. Fear on Fear.

It can be paralyzing.  We flail around for help like we're drowning and we need an anchor, because we ARE drowning and we DO need an anchor. It's not your imagination. It's why you came here.

So talk about fear. It's okay, we get it. Fear makes sense in order to change. Just don't stay there. Because in order to make the change you want, you need courage. Courage is moving forward through fear. 

There's a fog in front of you. You can't see the other side of it. Start walking anyway.

16 Comments
YoungAtHeart
Member

OM Gosh!  YES!

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Mandolinrain
Member

Oh wow, yes! I was indeed full of fear when I quit. The unknown. Great blog to bring out now with all the new quitters!

AnnetteMM
Member

It was all the new quitters who inspired me to write this.

Strudel
Member

Great blog! Thanks! 

IrishRose
Member

False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

~ unknown

Irish Rose 

MarilynH
Member

Thank you so much for sharing this great thought provoking blog post Annette beautifully written I hope everyone stops and reads this......

karenjones
Member

I had no fear of quitting, my fear was that I wouldn't be able to quit. But I have.

Kellymcclane
Member

Thank you!

YoungAtHeart
Member

I was paralyzed with fear of quitting and never even TRIED before this time.  I had convinced myself that if I ate a healthy diet, exercised EVERY day (and I did!), and kept to a perfect weight,  I could negate the bad effects of smoking.  A vascular surgeon apprised me of the fallacy of THAT plan.  I had arterial blockages going to BOTH legs!  He said he could fix them, but that if I continued to smoke I would need a similar surgery again, and the odds were that I would not have been healthy enough for him to do it.  Left unsaid was the possibility I might  lose a leg because of lack of circulation.  WOW!

Found a good doctor to guide me, took Chantix, quit and have never looked back.  It's been 6 + years.  I am just unhappy it took THAT to convince me to quit!

Nancy

elvan
Member

I really wish there was a HELPFUL button for a blog because I would be clicking away,  This is a wonderful blog, my friend.  I am never disappointed in your blogs.

Ellen

AnnetteMM
Member

Thanks so much, Ellen!

elvan
Member

You are so welcome!

Redhead101
Member

Something to think about ,so true though,

shazzan99
Member

There is nothing to fear but fear itself.

Fear will immobilize you

to do nothing

Redhead101
Member

Right

indingrl
Member

FaceEverythingAndRECOVERY - F.E.A.R. - I learned in 1986 - 12 step program - still works when action is taken in MY personal inventory of MY ACTIONS TODAY - hmmmmmmmm am I letting F.E.A.R. run MY NEW MINDSET - NOT TODAY- LAUGHING OUT LOUD - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF EVER OVER ME!!!! I like 12 step slogans used by EVERYONE to keep moving forwardNOT ONE PUFF EVERTOGETHER- thanks. MY beloved sister Annette

About the Author
I became nicotine-free on Christmas Day 2017. That's what I use as my quit date. I had smoked cigarettes for 45 years, then vaped Juuls for a few months before quitting cold turkey when I used up my supply of pods. I am a retired widow, living in Upstate NY.