I'll preface these thoughts with this is what I did to make sure I was not miserable. It's only a suggestion, not an absolute answer for anyone and not said to start conflict or debate and I will not entertain any. Now with that being said I'll continue, I decided about a year before I quit smoking to live a better life, physically, mentally and spiritually.I was tired of stress and strife in my life, I was also sick to death of smoking. I blamed everything and everbody else for my problems , not taking responsibility for my own problems, and I could convince anyone how things that happened to me weren't my fault and I even convinced myself, but deep , deep down I knew better. So finally one day I was so tired of being sick and tired of the way I felt. I literally walked into the bathroom in March of 09 looked in the mirror and said to myself, "You have to take responsibility and face your own problems and blame yourself if your going to blame anyone." I went to the internet and just started with simply 'self help' that led to 'facing yourself' etc.,, etc.,,,. That was the first time also in years that I tried to quit smoking, I was ignorant and uninformed and failed in just 16 days. But I knew I was going to quit, deep in my heart I just knew. So once again I went to the internet and to books and started to study and read, and read and I finally got closer and closer I knew it would be Christmas of 09, I just knew, I was continuing to DECIDE DAILY how I would face each day, how I would allow people to make me feel, how I would like or not like my job, people , places and things. The more I talked to myself daily the easier it became, it got easier and easier, I soon began to realize I had suceeded in becoming happy, without things, cars ,clothes, houses ,swimming pools, etc.,, etc.,,,I had had all that at one time in my life,, made no difference in my misery. I DECIDED, ONLY ME, I DECIDED I would be happy without reserve. And I practiced and read daily, I didn't dwell on what was popular, what was the trend, or listen to negative people I just continued to look up and read, read, read and practice talking to myself. DECIDING how I will feel each day.
When the time came to quit smoking I used the same theory of talking to myself to make it an easy transition. I took Chantix for three weeks up until my quit date, then nothing. I talked to myself before , during and now and have not experienced the misery I read about. So I write this in hopes it may help someone to try a different way and not have to suffer with so much misery.
I also read Allen Carrs book The EAsy Way and it was a tremendous help also to prevent misery.
I always said if I was going to be miserable I would just smoke.
I am happier today than ever, because I opened my mind, faced myself in the mirror and DECIDED how I would feel each and every day! And thats happy!
I'm quit over 400 days after smoking 2 packs a day for 36 years!
Let me also say so things are clear,, If you are unable to reach this goal of happiness and ease,, it does not mean you are not doing anything wrong as some have been said to think, I don't want people to think there are any ABSOLUTES here,, there are not any. It's a bunch of support with a bunch of different ideas and ways that worked for different people.
Peace! Free Over Two Years!! After 2 packs a day for 36 years!!!.
