OK - just to be clear - I do NOT recommend that anyone subject themselves to everything in the title all at once during their quit!!! But for some reason, God decided I needed to be tested this weekend!! So here goes....my blog and Ode to my quit! 🙂
So we decided last minute this weekend after 2 full days of family baby showers and reunions-- to go camping(you know with friends, campfires and smokers!). It was a strange weekend for me anyhow, lots of family and some wine and beer here and there, along with this new hyer-sensitive side of me that has popped up since my quit.....and I had some "let's yell at hubby, because it is all his fault" moments - multiple times over the weekend.
Of course none of it was his fault - but we kick the ones we love the most right!! Anyhow, I'm not writing to talk about my "off" moments, hubby and I chatted and worked through all of them last night. But what amazed me the most is all of my normal major triggers happened ALL in one weekend:
-disfunctional family issues
-overwhelming number of disfunctional family in one place - on 2 different days!
-camping with drinking and smoking friends
-surges of emotions
-drinking
-arguing
Since my quit, I have tried to really back off from social drinking. a few here and there, but I know myself and I was afraid if i did I would lose my quit. This weekend at the campfire I had a few beers and at the family gathering I had a couple of glasses of wine. The thought of smoking kinda came and went in some more powerful tinges....but really getting up walking away, and coming back was all it took. It was so weird. Even during the arguments, I was able to walk away, and it wasn't a big issue.
So while drinking really doesn't help our quit AT ALL, I feel at 6 weeks, that I like being QUIT, I am proud of my quit, and I don't want to go back and I think that's what keeps me from giving in....at least so far. I don't ever want to get too strong about it.....but having gotten through this crazy weekend.....well it just made me feel that much more empowered about my control over this DEMON!!!
And don't get me wrong above guys.........the tinges are strong when we drink....I don't want to down play that. that demon we think is dying/dead - when we drink and he gets power! The addiction comes and plays big tricks with your mind!! The demon, he gets life breathed back into his pathetic soul........so it was stupid to drink and it wasn't fun to fight him this weekend.....so for those of you that think - well must be easy for her.....I didn't explain it right. I wish it was easy.
The drinking certainly makes it harder. BUT - if our quit is important enough to us......you can fight it, walk away. There was one point, I literally just got up from the campfire and went into the trailer and started cleaning, toilets, floors, whatever. My hubby came in confused and said....."what the heck?, someone was telling a story and you just left??" and I said, I had to leave. the craving hit and I just didn't know what else to do......! We have to be stronger than the demon and it's NOT easy. But it can be done!! It your quit matters to you, it can be done!!
Also --- having this site!! my friends here - thank you checking in on me while I was gone. I thought about causing some of my buddies to worry because I hadn't checked in. And I am sorry if you did worry - but it was soooo cool to come back and see so many loving and fun comments and messages in my inbox!!! It just really made my day guys!! Hugs to everyone's hearts!!!! I missed you too!!