Day 17. Rock on :)

[schneidl]

Good morning everyone. I'm avoiding work right now so it is the perfect time to touch base with my support group ;)....

Feeling pretty good.  Had a fight with hubby last night. Not about anything in particular just a fight. We got over it as married people do but reflecting on it I realized, I didn't even think about going outside to smoke and "relax". That was my usual m.o. when we would fight, retreat to the porch and light up. So, hey, it was a positive argument :)...

I do find myself worrying about maintaining my quit into the future, meaning, I think "well whats going to happen when I travel here" or "gosh I sure would like a glass of wine but I know it will trigger a craving"....I need to stop that and just focus on today because that's where I'm at and every day I grow a little stronger and get a little further away from that nasty addiction. I will not indulge in that nice glass of wine at home until I know I can handle the craving that comes with it. I will not worry about travel plans I'm making for March because truly how will that help my quit today! I'm overcoming small obstacles every day in my quit and every day when my number grows, so does my resolve to leave that nasty smelly yuckiness behind.

I say to myself if I ever have a craving.... you didn't lose anything and you're gaining everything. and my fav is but do you really wanna smell like that again!?! The answer is NO, NO, NO!

The addiction is a nasty one, but will not beat me. The association with certain emotions are the hardest to break, but no one is going to break those for me and I'm doing it! Every day, I'm doing it 🙂

Cheers everyone.... here's to a smelly good day!

[Leeza]

You are doing fantastic by keeping your focus on the "today" for your quit.  Last night you accomplished a new smoke-free first.  How wonderful is that.  And there are so many more victories awaiting you.  Great going!!!!

[froguelady]

You are on the right track, a lasting quit comes one day at a time. Just keep your focus on a smoke free day and good job on not giving a thought about smoking after your fight with hubby. Just remember NOT ONE PUFF EVER.  Say NOPE to smoking.

17 days is AWESOME!!!!

[justsayno3]

Schneidl-y:  You are doing so good!!! Congrats. I am also staying away from that alcoholic beverage that will bring the cravings and the weakend resolve. I have not had a drink since I quit smoking a little over three weeks ago. You are speaking my language. Good luck and Merry Christmas.

Married people argue? Since when?

[Ex_Nancy]

Dealing with anger and other emotions can take us by surprise and must be relearned. It's always what do I do instead now, and the surest solution is NOPE. Then it's deep breathing, walking,stretching or removing yourself from the situation until you are under control again. You did well last nite...CONGRATS on that one!  ♥

[John48]

Congrats on your day 17 of quitting.  Nice!   Sounds like you are learning your way around doing things without giving in to smoking.   I think arguments are every ex-smoker's trigger.  It does feel good to not smoke after one of those when you are so used to handling it otherwise.   I can also relate with the smoking and drinking thing, I'm sure as most can.  I don't know the answer myself.  I know at some point in the future it would be nice to have a drink socially but I guess we all have to wait until we are out of the woods to be able to handle that situation.   I wish I knew.  Keep up the great quit!

[jojo_2-24-11]

I believe you are doing the best thing for you. Take it one day at a time right now. I could never wrap my whole head around the forever quit until I got stronger, then and only then did I start the plan for the what if this or that happened. Once I felt strong enough I thought of more than one thing at a time.  Until then, each day will become a new normal for you. Congratulations on 17 days.

[joyeuxencore]

You are doing so great! At 3 weeks I made a 'what if' list so I am 'prepared' not 'surprised' by what could happen...I don't dwell on it...just wrote it down...xo

[I_am_free]

You are doing absolutely, positively, outstanding.  Way to go girl!

[topcat4]

your post was especially encouraging in that was my m.o. with wife to retreat to the patio for a smoke for every little mundane interaction i felt i couldn't  handle it an regress to a sickorette each time knowing how lousy i was going to feel in my throat, mouth, lungs. and head.

this is my quit date and i am committed to telling on my addiction at this site each time it attacks me and try to overwhelm my senses into believing its ok this time,or i just can't hold out and i'll quit tomorrow even though i know with all my heart and soul that cigareetes are nothing but a black,ugly,oozing, squamous death.

stay strong and may god bless you and yours.topcat